How Much Energy is She Stealing From You? (included links)

Do you experience interactions with people who drain you? Do they fight with you even when you offer compassion or support and continue pushing you into an argument? I realized yesterday morning that this is what had been happening to me. Although Rama passed, I don't want to give him all the credit to what happened in my own energy system. I am a powerful conduit for energy, and because of how giving I am, and sensitive to who I surround myself with, I sometimes overlook the fact that some people I deal with, who I do my best to offer support, actually do anything they can to take my loving energy. You would think I would have figured this out sooner since I've been a Reiki Master for about 14 years, however, when in the midst of it, sometimes the shadow of the moment eludes me.


I am presently in a Seminar Program and chose to be the Leader of a Group. I am actually in an extremely powerful group with Senior graduates who have been doing this work for over 10 or 15 years. However, there is one person who is in my Group I have been dealing with that actually has what most would put it, pushed my buttons. She interrupts, offers advice or coaching when unwanted or necessary and looks for ways to make people justify who they are, their actions and their choices. However, I chose to be the Leader, and I am out to cause people's greatness, transformations and contribute to what it is they are dealing with. However this person has not wanted help. My experience is that anger just releases out of her in most situations and what I had done in the past couple months was just keep my distance. I didn't really know how to be with this type of person. I also was confused as to how someone could be this angry and have done all this work on herself for over 25 years, but I realize now that is not my place to judge.


What was so was that she terrified me. I imagined her as Medusa with snakes coming out of her head. I would get coaching from others but it didn't really diminish how she made me feel. Over two months have gone by and this pretty much didn't change. Then recently she decided to confront "me". She wanted to talk to "coach" me and see why her, what I termed as being a bully, pushed me into avoiding her. We spoke over the phone and it didn't go anywhere. I had asked her if she would please let this go and let me work this out on my own and get coaching from others, and she didn't like that either. She expressed how she didn't like how I give people space to think and come up with their own answers and be present in someone's moment. She shared how she didn't like this either. The silence triggered her. So I finally decided to deal with this and see how I could contribute to her; despite how she was treating me. I realized that she must be dealing with something really big to be this angry, and I expressed that it wasn't ok for her to lash out her anger at anyone anytime she felt like it, or forced them into conversations when they didn't want to talk. However, I offered that I would be a stand for her to get the support she needs and be a space of forgiveness, compassion and love, AND that I will step in and create a boundary when necessary. I sent her and the Group a letter expressing my stand, my contribution and thanked her for helping me face in my own healing process the bully's that I've had to deal with in my past. I got to get clear with my own mother in how she forced me to clean religiously, weekly, hourly, and compulsively for years. Now, the resistance to cleaning is gone and I am cleaning my place to make it spectacular and am excited about that!


However, I realized that she literally sucked the life out of me. My energy was zapped, drained for weeks that turned into a couple months and it dawned on me yesterday to do a clearing of my energy connection to her. The term Energy Vampires has become a popular phenomenon these past few years with the Vampire movies coming out. However, there is some definite truth to the meaning of Vampire, taking away the myth, or perhaps old history that blood is involved. However, there are people out there who get a hit off of taking other peoples energy. Usually these people are those who are depressed and their energy is so low that they need others to help them feel happy and filled with life. Whatever this means to you or me, doesn't matter (in this moment), and could perhaps involve heavy conversation, but what does matter is the result to bring something positive. I have cut my energy from her and low and behold I feel magnificent.

From now on, I will put a post it note in different places in my home, to remind myself if someone is needing me, or had attacked me energetically, that I will probably need to clear myself of them and protect my energy of them in the future. Next step, a new school for my son, or cooperative program with other parents!

Love to you all!

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