AWAKEN TO LIVING: TANTRA FOR YOUR WHOLE LIFE

Mothers As Sexual Beings

2012-02-27T10:37:00.002-05:00

As a Parent, you have a lot of responsibilities. There are many people in your life that you need to consider how they feel, but you must not forget, in particular as a woman, how important you are, and how imperative it is in getting your own needs met. Women who avoid their personal, intimate and sexual needs often start out as being irritable, then they move to disgust and anger, and eventually they go numb. They can spend many years forgetting that their body is in need of touch, and live life unfulfilled and with a huge void where pressures of their children, work, and their external family become more important. They then live in a reality where their intimate selves are completely pushed under the carpet and they don't even know that they exist. Their bodies become armored, stiff, stuck in a cave hidden to their own passions; their own pleasures and most importantly forgetting their inner hearts and the love that is deep inside of them.

This then sets up a trap for her husband, her co-parent in action and they then move from lovers to perhaps best friends or business partners. They justify their lack of intimacy that their children are more important and "they really need us right now." However, consider this: when you are unhappy, when your body is guarded, when you are not seen as a sexual beautiful woman or are not letting yourself be seen as a beautiful woman of pleasure, joy and power, your children will feel this. They will feel your suppression. They will feel your anger. They will feel your frustration, because most likely, you will put more energy into the children. You will react more to their behaviors and become more disciplinarian with them. And this then sets up another trap; your children avoiding you, or becoming distant from you; the one thing you truly did NOT want to happen.

Children who see their parents in love, sharing love, and experiencing love with each other grow up to view intimacy with others in a more natural healthy way. When children grow up viewing their parents; their direct most important and significant teachers, avoiding each other, giving each other the silent treatment or in other words not speaking about topics that are crucial to their relationship, to their sexual life and to their family, the children learn from this. They grow up thinking it is okay to keep secrets from people, that it is ok to avoid the people they love, that it is normal to not be close to the people they love, and this then sets them up for failure. They lose their self in this reality of what they believe to be true. They have no other role models that are more important than their parents. And when you want to be a good parent and a good teacher to your children, express your sexual self to your husband, your Beloved, your Lover and don't make him your friend or business partner.

If you have young children, of course you want to express your full sexual desires in the bedroom AFTER your child is asleep, however your affections with each other after the fact bring long term affects, to each other and to your children. The love you bring to each other gets shared and spread out throughout your whole family. Everyone will feel it, and EVERYONE will benefit.

See also my site for Women: www.FlowerofAWoman.com

Keeping Your Energy Flowing

2012-02-24T18:12:00.002-05:00

Blessings Amazing Beings! I wanted to share with you a new breakthrough I've had in performance, effectiveness, and keeping my own energy flowing, spiraling and alive. Here is a little sharing on this new-found awareness and what you too can do to keep yourself from needing to drink coffee all day, and get things done that are really important to you!

Much Love to ALL of you!!!!

Asttarte

Creating Intimacy with A Woman

2012-02-17T00:34:00.002-05:00

Here is my first video I made on the Dynamics and Approaching a Woman in your life. There will definitely be a Volume 2, and so on to this, and I may at some point re-do the 1st one and create an Introduction instead. However, this is the 2nd video I made. Like I said, these are the baby steps to creating videos. I may be getting some professionals to help out of this, or I may just get better at doing this myself. I'll be playing with different lighting, backgrounds, and spacial arrangements to see what is best, but the delivery is good. I hope you enjoy this, and find it, at the least, a bit helpful.

I was not looking at notes in this one. I was just looking down while I was thinking and choosing my next words. I sometimes pause to think of what I am going to say next. I like the distance of my face the best in this, but I will be creative with this process with you, and am happy to make changes as people recommend things to try.

I am in the process of creating a Video for the Book: Mystery of Women, and will be working on getting this succinct. I am enjoying this journey of sharing what I love to you, and hope you are enjoying my journey of giving it just as much!

Namaste~

Asttarte

Getting Your Sexual Energy to Move

2012-02-16T15:01:00.001-05:00

Many people come to me for Tantra Massage, and are interested in having a Sensual experience. However, some people come without the desire to work with their own energy, or are aware of how their own energy has a HUGE impact on the way the Session is going to go. I am a conduit for energy and can help people shape it in any way they want. I can help expand it, light it up, get it flowing, get it relaxing, get it circulating, get it cooled off, bring movement to it, or bring it to stillness.

The energy around the body and the energy inside the body have a HUGE impact to how much pleasure you will receive and experience during a Session, and in the exchange of sexual experiences in your life. I am getting read yo create a video on this topic, but since I have a client coming momentarily, I don't have a lot of time to put these thoughts and ideas into action. However, if my client is late, I will have a larger moment to express this. For now, I will do so here.

A lot of people come to Massage Therapists for a relaxing experience and often times they will come to them and feel a level of arousal that they wish to emit from the body. However, not all massages will bring someone to a level of arousal. Only those who are close to arousal, or have a high sex drive are able to get to a place of arousal with a simple massage. Someone who is trained in energy, and Tantra only can help those who have contracted, or repressed energy move to a place of pleasure (that I am aware of).

Here is a simple example of explaining how I might go about this:
(There are other ways I might move energy, but here is a sample of one I did recently that I found to be extremely powerful).

1. Start with gentle breathing and relaxing your body with your breath.
2. Place your hand on your abdomen or belly and let your hand move your body into grounding and a deeper place of breathing into the body.
3. Visualize your energy moving from the top of your head, down to the body of your spinal column, and then down your legs and into the earth.
4. This next part is the MOST important. This is where I will come in and discover where your energy might be stagnant, repressed, guarded, blocked, or leaking.
5. Then I will go into that area and bring awareness to it, communicate this awareness and perhaps do some Coaching to help you get it moving, as well as interject and work with your energy to help you.
6. Next we may move to the floor
7. I'll doing Laying on of Hands here, perhaps holding them from behind, and filling them up with my Healing Energy to help them expand the Sensation of love.
8. Then I may help them move their Kundalini Energy
9. THEN move into Tantric Massage
10. The rest is History!
11. Complete with a kiss!

I created a video out of writing this. Yes, it IS my first video ever! Please forgive me that the camera fell in a moment, and the lighting gets a little dark as the sun starts to go down (about 10 or 11 minutes in), but I tried finding a way to edit it with no success. I used my camera in this. My eyes blinked a lot in the beginning and I am not perfect, but this was my first attempt. I recommend keeping the volume low, but do what works for you. My 2nd video I used a Webcam. My next video I will find a way to set up the camera or Webcam so I am directly in front and looking at the camera, and with perhaps better lighting, etc, but this isn't bad and it's a great start. As in building sites, blogs and the like, I know I will keep practicing and getting better. Here's to a new beginning!

Direct Link:

Tantric Energy Work - Sexual Expansion Healing

Namaste!

Ye Olde Journalist: Counsellor or courtesan? The sex therapist who sle...

2012-02-13T17:06:00.000-05:00

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Communities & Events You've Been Asking Me For

2012-02-02T16:48:00.002-05:00

Local Meetup Groups
http://www.meetup.com/BmorePoly/
http://www.meetup.com/TantraWisdom/
http://www.meetup.com/The-Erotic-Literary-Salon/
http://www.meetup.com/Hunterdon-CountyTantraAwakeningMeetup-com/
http://www.meetup.com/phillypoly/

Active Yahoo Groups Close to Philly
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ExpansiveLoving/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/TantricShamanism/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sandboxexplorations/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/REAL_NATURISTS/

For Women:
http://www.meetup.com/wellness-263/
http://www.meetup.com/Sacred-AwakeningsThe-Dance-Of-The-Goddess/

I am sure there are more if you decide to search for them yourself! I have been known to be a good networker, so if there is a type of Community you would like to connect with, just let me know!

Why I Love Coconut Oil

2012-01-31T19:07:00.003-05:00

Have you ever heard of Coconut Oil as a substitute for erotic lubricant? Why would someone consider this as even a possibility? What are the benefits of using Coconut Oil?

Most people use lubricants such as KY jelly, or other such synthetic made lubricants commonly found at the Drug Store or Grocery Store. However, these stores don't know what the best naturally made products are for someone and usually sell the run of the mill company made or products that can made at a lower such with a higher volume. However, the extra couple dollars for Coconut Oil, has SO many added benefits, I wanted to write a specific post just for this.

What Coconut Oil is to me:

Coconut Oil is an organic natural oil that actually feels like magic when you place it on the body. It is made for cooking, so naturally it is something that is good for the inside of the body. But not only is it good for cooking, but good for your skin and your pleasure! The oils made of Coconuts when found as Organic Extra Virgin feel so unbelievably delicious on the body, you can literally moan with pleasure with the slightest touch just slowly rubbing it on the skin. AND, it smells and tastes delicious. I LOVE putting it on my partner, and then slowly licking it with my tongue. Talk about arousal at its best!

However, Coconut Oil, I feel is best used when giving yourself pleasure. Don't get me wrong, it is ALSO amazing when giving delicately and intimately with someone you care about, so long as you are giving them the ultimate and divine attention. However, when alone, and you want to give yourself love, treat yourself as though you are the perfect lover, and make love to yourself with Coconut Oil. I promise you, you will never have had an experience like this before. It forces you to go inward with its rich aroma, and as this aroma goes into your body it slowly nourishes you from the inside out. It actually is a very powerful healing oil and is used often in India for Healing the body. And, it is an oil commonly found in Tai Food; which I ABSOLUTELY love; a rare treat you don't want to give up when you're in the mood!

First you want to scoop up the oil in the bottle, as it is cold and firm from being in the room temperature. THEN, you want to squeeze it into your hands and let it melt on your fingertips. After it has melted in your hands, then it is the perfect time to rub it on your body. You don't want to wait until it melts too much, because then it will turn like water and will be too liquid. Rub it caressingly and slowly over your belly, your inner thighs and let your body feel the sensation of your skin touching skin. It feels like silk running across your body, and it is such a divine experience! Sometimes the sensation of just rubbing it on the skin without going anywhere too personal is fulfilling enough and you feel as though you are utterly satisfied. Although, there is more to come.

When you are ready to pleasure your body in more depth, don't forget to massage your chest, your arms, your belly, your hips and your pubic bone area. This helps stimulate your senses to help open you up to a richer experience. Then when you are ready to be fully satisfied, remember to move as though your breath is moving you. Don't try to rush or speed up the process; otherwise, you've lost the joy of the pleasure and satisfaction becomes like a 5 minute quicky. Take your time. Massage yourself with this Coconut Oil for 30 minutes or even hours if you like, but you will feel fulfilled and totally in love with the Coconut Oil, and yourself when you are done! And, at this point, you can't tell anyone you don't love yourself, because you have given yourself the gentle time that your body and heart really needed. If your lover isn't around to take care of you, that's ok. This is sometimes better than sex!

The Best Types of Coconut Oil:

Organic Extra Virgin Coconut Oil
The ones best for cooking!
Be sure to read the labels!
If you look closely, it may even say great for massages!

Expeller Pressed is also ok, but Extra Virgin is a little finer and smoother!

I have been using Coconut Oil is my Sessions with clients and myself the past few months and the experiences have been delicious!

Getting the Sexual Energy You Need - The Beginning

2012-01-30T18:10:00.003-05:00

Everyone has different levels of need and desire for their sexual passions to be filled, and for different reasons in people's lives their needs don't get filled. Some people are single, some are parents with no or very little time, some have a medical or health condition, and some are couples but the desire or commitment to pleasure has diminished or is completely gone.

What are the best things you can do to feel your own sexual energy when you are alone? Some people like to exercise as exercise increases your physical energy, raises endorphins, opens up pheromone secretions, helps circulate the energy throughout your body and reduces stress. All of these things help you to feel your own sexual energy and your own power.

Creative expressions and art is another expression. Creative energy and artistic expression is built from your 2nd chakra; as this is your pleasure zone of the body. When you release creative passions and artistic expression, you are using your own sexual energy, raising it and releasing it through a loving and healthy form. It helps one to feel their own sexual energy, channel it with beauty and coming to the height of it; a climax and orgasm when a project is complete and satisfies you. Many people who have a lot of energy are also very creative at heart.

Some people like to connect to the elements of the earth and nature to feel an energetic rise or release. Standing on the Earth, on the grass and dirt, sitting or lying on the ground cleanses ones spirit and sometimes if you're sensitive, can bring a rush of sensual pleasure. Being amongst plants or trees can be utterly refreshing and many like to live in the suburbs or country for this reason alone. Building a fire and standing or sitting amongst its flames, feeling the energy of the heat can fill ones soul with relief and satisfaction. There are many tribes of the past and communities in the present created to suit this purpose alone.

However, the most fulfilling of sexual energy comes from an exchange with another person. What are some Ways of Exchanging Sexual Energy?

Well, in Tantra, the breath is key! When you breathe with intention, you're creating the energy of life! It only makes sense that this is the time you can sometimes create a true life during this process when the energy is aligned, the love connection is strong enough and the souls link up, that a new life is created. When you breathe with the intention of giving, you help lift the spirits, nourish, relax, or increase the energy of another. When you breathe with the intention of receiving, you feel filled with life, joy, peace and pleasure. However, be wary of your giver knowing or agreeing for the exchange to happen; otherwise they might leave feeling exhausted, drained, and perhaps used or confused.

Eye gazing, holding hands, the yab yum, cuddling, energy scanning each other, massaging each other, pleasuring each other, and of course making love are all excellent ways of feeling fulfilled from the sexual energy you crave and deserve.

How do you ask for someone you love or care about to give you the intimacy and sexual energy you desire when they feel easily intimidated, overwhelmed, bashful, stressed, or are distracted with life?

You can start with making it about you, and not about them. Share with them how it makes you feel when you connect to them; rather than asking or telling them what you want. When you share with them what it means to you to connect to them, they see your authentic self and your heart, and when you make demands or requests all they see are demands, and this can often turn people off; unless they're the submissive type. However, most people like to know that they're in control of the decisions they make, and when they're not given the choice, their initial first response is to first negate or reject, but when offered as a request or suggestion, they have the chance to consider it and to give their own answer. And, usually their answer is Yes!

<3 Love! ***

Spiritual Insight - Element Test

2012-01-27T21:56:00.003-05:00

I pulled this from a Quiz site, and found it to be a useful awareness.

What Element or Elements are You Most Aligned With?

The four basic elements are air, earth, fire, and water. This ten question quiz will help you define what characteristics and preferences you have that align with the four basic elements. Understanding what each element represents helps us evaluate where our individual strengths and weaknesses are. Look to any elements that you are not aligned with to discover pieces that may be missing or lacking in your life.

My Quiz Answers were:

"Remarkably, you are aligned with each of the four elements equally. AIR EARTH, FIRE, and WATER.
Air represents intellect, mental intention, and connection to universal life force. Earth represents grounding, foundation of life, substance, connection to life path, and family roots. Fire represents energy, tool for transformation, connection to personal power, and inner strength. Water represents emotional release, intuition, and inner reflection."

Take the Quiz

I found this to be interesting, because of my passionate connection to all elements of the Earth. Elemental Practices is what keep me most balanced in my Spiritual Life, and I life to integrate the positive aspects of all elements in my work, my teachings and healing myself. This is a nice confirmation that a balance to all aspects of nature and life are important and one is not any more important than another. They each have something to offer us and to teach us. Even in our deepest moments of intimacy and relationships, does working with the elements in your Tantric practice benefit you!

I would like to offer that I am a Reiki Master of several types of Reiki; one which is my MOST (they are all awesome) favorite is called Tera-Mei Seichem Reiki. It is a Reiki that was first created in Hawaii and has to do with bringing in the energies from the elements of the Earth and utilizing for balance, cleansing, releasing and healing; the physical body and the aura. If anyone is interested in becoming Reiki Trained, please let me know. This is the foundation of my Practice that I've been doing since 1997.

How Much Energy is She Stealing From You? (included links)

2012-01-24T16:23:00.006-05:00

Do you experience interactions with people who drain you? Do they fight with you even when you offer compassion or support and continue pushing you into an argument? I realized yesterday morning that this is what had been happening to me. Although Rama passed, I don't want to give him all the credit to what happened in my own energy system. I am a powerful conduit for energy, and because of how giving I am, and sensitive to who I surround myself with, I sometimes overlook the fact that some people I deal with, who I do my best to offer support, actually do anything they can to take my loving energy. You would think I would have figured this out sooner since I've been a Reiki Master for about 14 years, however, when in the midst of it, sometimes the shadow of the moment eludes me.

I am presently in a Seminar Program and chose to be the Leader of a Group. I am actually in an extremely powerful group with Senior graduates who have been doing this work for over 10 or 15 years. However, there is one person who is in my Group I have been dealing with that actually has what most would put it, pushed my buttons. She interrupts, offers advice or coaching when unwanted or necessary and looks for ways to make people justify who they are, their actions and their choices. However, I chose to be the Leader, and I am out to cause people's greatness, transformations and contribute to what it is they are dealing with. However this person has not wanted help. My experience is that anger just releases out of her in most situations and what I had done in the past couple months was just keep my distance. I didn't really know how to be with this type of person. I also was confused as to how someone could be this angry and have done all this work on herself for over 25 years, but I realize now that is not my place to judge.

What was so was that she terrified me. I imagined her as Medusa with snakes coming out of her head. I would get coaching from others but it didn't really diminish how she made me feel. Over two months have gone by and this pretty much didn't change. Then recently she decided to confront "me". She wanted to talk to "coach" me and see why her, what I termed as being a bully, pushed me into avoiding her. We spoke over the phone and it didn't go anywhere. I had asked her if she would please let this go and let me work this out on my own and get coaching from others, and she didn't like that either. She expressed how she didn't like how I give people space to think and come up with their own answers and be present in someone's moment. She shared how she didn't like this either. The silence triggered her. So I finally decided to deal with this and see how I could contribute to her; despite how she was treating me. I realized that she must be dealing with something really big to be this angry, and I expressed that it wasn't ok for her to lash out her anger at anyone anytime she felt like it, or forced them into conversations when they didn't want to talk. However, I offered that I would be a stand for her to get the support she needs and be a space of forgiveness, compassion and love, AND that I will step in and create a boundary when necessary. I sent her and the Group a letter expressing my stand, my contribution and thanked her for helping me face in my own healing process the bully's that I've had to deal with in my past. I got to get clear with my own mother in how she forced me to clean religiously, weekly, hourly, and compulsively for years. Now, the resistance to cleaning is gone and I am cleaning my place to make it spectacular and am excited about that!

However, I realized that she literally sucked the life out of me. My energy was zapped, drained for weeks that turned into a couple months and it dawned on me yesterday to do a clearing of my energy connection to her. The term Energy Vampires has become a popular phenomenon these past few years with the Vampire movies coming out. However, there is some definite truth to the meaning of Vampire, taking away the myth, or perhaps old history that blood is involved. However, there are people out there who get a hit off of taking other peoples energy. Usually these people are those who are depressed and their energy is so low that they need others to help them feel happy and filled with life. Whatever this means to you or me, doesn't matter (in this moment), and could perhaps involve heavy conversation, but what does matter is the result to bring something positive. I have cut my energy from her and low and behold I feel magnificent.

From now on, I will put a post it note in different places in my home, to remind myself if someone is needing me, or had attacked me energetically, that I will probably need to clear myself of them and protect my energy of them in the future. Next step, a new school for my son, or cooperative program with other parents!

Love to you all!

Cutting Cords to Toxic Relationships
Exercises to alleviate the pain and suffering from relationships that are no longer working.

Be Wary of Energy Suckers
When an attack takes place, the Psychic Vampire receives an energy surge while the victim experiences fatigue.

Psychic Vampires
How to Stop Psychic Vampires from Draining your Energy

Accidental Cancelation - Temple of Love Meetup Group

2012-01-23T17:34:00.002-05:00

As you all know, I've had a Meetup Group called Temple of Love for a couple of years now. In being a part time Practitioner, and mostly stay at home mom, I haven't had the freedom that I have wanted to live my own life. AND, I have been committed to offering the love to my son that I didn't get from my own parents! However, I realize there is a conflict here. I want to do what I love; have a strong Practice for Healing others, continue to be fully expressed as an artist (writer, singer, etc), and live powerfully and with joy AND spend plenty of time with my son and my family!

I realize my commitment has been more to my son than to anything else, and I also know that doesn't really work for everyone involved! So, I am brewing a new possibility for a Meetup Group and/or Gatherings that may (or may not) include my son where he gets to be a part of a vibrant, conscious, loving and Gentle Tantra Community (with other children so the parents can express who they are) OR gatherings of other parents and their children where we can play, connect, with a common interest of tantra, metaphysics, the arts, and a yogic or hippy type of lifestyle.

There is a possibility that I can renew the Temple of Love Meetup Group. It actually was canceled by mistake and I am in conversation with the Meetup Administrators to possibly resolve this. However, I ALSO still have the Community called http://EastCoastTantra.ning.com that has been pretty in-active. And, too much going on can become quite disconcerting and confusing. This may be the universe's way of cleaning up what is unneeded and put more energy into the http://EastCoastTantra.ning.com Group! I will keep you posted and let you know what happens!

If anyone has any feedback or a preference, please let me know!

Asttarte

The New Year - Letting Go of the Past

2012-01-23T16:46:00.005-05:00

The new year is still fresh and for the richness of this sharing, I offer you a new place of power and enlightenment of what was, and what is now aware to me, and the future I am moving into!

The past few months have been a deep time of personal healing for me, and I apologize I did not share with you my depth of growth and what has come out of this time, but as I write here now, I humbly offer you my love and apologize for perhaps not being a shining light for you in helping support you in yours!

As you all know, my Beloved friend Rama is now gone! This brought up a lot for me. I hadn't lost someone who was that close to me since I was a young child. It was a big deal to me for one very powerful reason in particular. He was a very positive support system in my life; period, and his love was more powerful than I had realized. All my life, I had to be the Warrior and overcome a HUGE load of abuse. I had to parent myself, find other parents to perhaps love me, and do the best I could to leave an abusive home environment, when at all possible. I stayed away, lived my own life, stayed after school, befriended my teachers, tutors or other parents of my friends in order to receive the parental love I truly needed. In the end, I had to parent myself. It has been close to 17 years since I began my own healing journey, which I started VERY young because I KNEW I had to.

In the Landmark Education program I came to peace with how my parents raised me and accepted that they knew no other way. I decided to forgive them and chose to be the Leader in my family's Healing, and bring love and joy whenever family functions occurred. I knew their way of parenting was what they were taught and was also something I have been committed to transform and create a new way of being in relationship with children.

I have healed what most don't get to heal in one lifetime, and know from experience anything can be healed. However, it DOES take work and commitment, and what I like to term as DETERMINATION! However, since I am still human and in a human body, there is still more work to be done. When there are times of absence, it is my body/and spirit's way of working on another layer. And, as I strive for perfection, I know that I already am perfect, and perfection is in the eye of the beholder!

I know I have so much to offer and so much to share how one little person can make a HUGE difference in other people's lives! I believe I am here to be of service to humanity and my greatest offering is to teach love; in giving and in receiving and to teach forgiveness, and what it means to open your heart, even to the people who hurt you the most!

Perhaps I am still healing some remainder of Child Abuse, and if I am not here for you in the way you want me to be, I am truly sorry. I will always come back to my passionate firey self, as this is a big part of who I am, and move into that joyous and playful state!

As I share my own growth, I know I get to be who it is I really love; me!

I love you all, and invite your emails, calls and messages!

Blessings,

Asttarte

Communication, the Phone and Messages

2011-12-30T18:28:00.003-05:00

Happy Holidays again Sweet Beings,

I wanted to write to you, in acknowledgment, apologies, and understanding of what perhaps you might or might have been going through.

I realize that some of you never hear from me after you call and leave a message. And, in the past what was so was that my voice mail system with my phone company would store up to over 100 messages and never delete them. Even if I got to you a couple or more weeks later, I still got back to you. Now, what's occurring is that my phone provider actually deletes ALL of my messages after ONLY a couple weeks, and often I don't get to check all of them. They are gone before I can even see who has called. I realize that I am a solo Practitioner here in this office, and I am also a single mom, so of course I cannot check these messages every day. What would be great would be if the phone company allowed me to keep the messages stored for longer lengths of time with an additional payment, but they don't give this as an option.

So, first thing, I apologize for this occurrence and the lack of getting back to you. And, 2, I will do my best to check all of my messages every week when I am alone. I now have my phone forwarded to my cell, so if I am not at home and you call, I can always get the call when I am out.

I understand how frustrating this may be to many of you who are wondering if I am still here, or perhaps are considering seeing me again, or perhaps really need me and don't know why I haven't gotten back to you. If you don't hear from me within the time frame you need, PLEASE email me. That is the best solution right now! I also may be able to check these messages online, and will check this out as well. Or call, and it will go straight to my cell when I am out. If I am with my son, it will be brief, but at least I will get to talk to you for a moment!

Much Love, and Happy New Year everyone!

asttarte@sexblisslifecoach.com is my new email, or you can write to me at asttarte@asttartedeva.com

:-) :-) :-)

Merry Christmas - a Universal Holiday

2011-12-27T18:45:00.003-05:00

Hello my Beloved clients, Seekers of Truth and Love, and friends!

I first want to wish you ALL a Happy Holiday Season. (I apologize for my delayed message).

For some of you, you celebrate Hanukkah, some it is Yule, some Winter Solstice, some other Religious Celebrations, and for many it is Christmas. I grew up in a Strong German Catholic background, and although this still my be my parents beliefs, it is no longer my own.

What I find fascinating, is that there is becoming a Universality to the Christmas Holiday, and it is less about the Religion Christianity, and more about family, togetherness, fun and celebration! For this reason, I continue to celebrate this Holiday.

The Christmas tree is actually about reminding us that soon it will be Spring, and to bring a Spirit of Beauty and Harvest, and to awaken the life of plants and growth in a time that is so dark and cold.

If I could I would celebrate all the Religious festivities, however, what's exciting is that Christmas is just so fun! I love how there are so many movies to watch, and media around the Holiday, and I see it less about promoting a religion, but instead a Holiday that the Whole World comes together; in spirit, love, and celebration!

I wish you all the best and joyous celebration during this Holiday Season, in whatever fashion or flavor you celebrate, and make it as delicious and pleasurable as possible! Even those yummy pieces of chocolate, or treats of pie or cake can hold a memory of unfathomable pleasure in your mouth. We all deserve to have pleasure, and it takes MANY forms!

MUCH MUCH Love! I care about all of you and wish you a beautiful Holiday Season, and an amazing Happy New Year!

Love, Asttarte

Update on My Beloved Friend Rama Bala

2011-12-27T18:32:00.003-05:00

My dear Beloved friend Rama is still here with us, in spirit, and my acknowledgment is some new information I recently discovered.

What apparently was the case, was that 20 years ago, he had been suffering from a form of Leukemia called Hodgkin's Disease. He was suffering from this for 10 years until 10 years ago, when it was considered cured. However, what a few of us believe, is that it was actually laying dormant in his body. And, something like the food poisoning he acquired back in March of 2011, actually triggered what was already there.

The doctors actually did do the best they could do. They knew what they were treating was not food poisoning anymore. All of his symptoms were actually the same symptoms of someone suffering from Leukemia. He resisted this information and was firm that that the "food poisoning" was the culprit. I believed him since I hadn't been talking to anyone who was treating him throughout this process and was sort-of in the unknown.

He kept many friends in the dark that he didn't want around, not because of embarrassment, but because of pride. He was too proud to believe that this was actually happening. Even though we ALL loved him VERY much and wished we could be there for him.

I don't have any new digital photos of him yet, but soon will be editing this post with a new picture of him.

What I am most attune to, is a STRONG intuitive sense that his father may not choose to live much longer. He lost, I believe his favorite son and his wife not that long ago. He is feeling a sense of not really wanting to be around because of this. Please pray for his father! He needs the most prayers now, and his family!

MUCH MUCH Love to ALL of you!!!!

Asttarte

Remembering Rama!!!

2011-12-22T20:10:00.003-05:00

(Sharing of Rama Bala on Commonground Fellowship)

One of my best friends just recently passed away.

I am still in total shock of his passing. I found out on Thursday, Dec. 15th, in a text message. I was just waiting for him to get out of a rehab center. He was on his way to health, and he was embarrassed to have me see him the way he was, and requested powerfully for me to not visit him. I now wish I didn't listen to him.

We spoke over the phone often throughout his entire journey to recovery and I feel as though the doctors who were treating him didn't really know how to treat him; they were unsure of what his real diagnosis was and he was treated like a guinea pig. I remember talking to him about filing a complaint on food poisoning to the Health Department as this is what triggered the start of the illness. I may want to follow up on this for him.

This is very sad news for all of us who knew him. Who he was for me was someone who truly cared about humanity and people. He was one of the most kind and loving people I've ever known, and some of the kindness that would come out of him would completely blow me away. He honored, respected and appreciated me more than anyone I've ever known. In truth, he adored me and it was a closeness I haven't had in a very long time. We were incredible friends and he looked up to me often to help him in his relationships.He was someone that always had a smile on his face, but deep down he was really sad and lonely.

People appreciated him, respected him and looked up to him as a teacher. He was an incredible musician; a genius, and has been performing all over the world for the past decade. I just found out last night that his father who taught him everything he knew is a legend in music in India and in the United States and his compositions are all around the world. And my dear friend shared that knowledge with everyone he knew.

He performed in a band with David Newman and he would often come home from being on tour and spend some time with me. He would share with me the difficulties he had with his friend David, but my dear friend Rama never once judged him or made him wrong for who he was. He was incredibly loyal and devoted to the people in his life. He is known by many in the Yoga Communities, as well as some of those in Common Ground.

The past year and 1/2 he started teaching music to young children and a few of his students were at the memorial last night. I got to share with them what he meant to me in private and they shared with me what he meant to them. He was deeply loved, and he will be very very missed.

I will be in communication with his family and available to support them in their time of grieving. I know his father is impacted the most, and I feel more sad for him than anyone. Rama was supporting him in his own health and taking care of him. Now his father is at a treatment center and is being cared for by nurses. My heart is open to his whole family, and my heart has been blown open because of this. I will be grieving for perhaps some time as well.

May you all please pray to him. He is still here hanging around on the Earth realms and is easily available in Spirit when called upon. I know he trying to make sense of all of this as well!

I'm sorry to be writing this to you this late. There was a memorial service for him this past Friday, Dec. 16th at Jai Yoga Studio and on Saturday evening at Yoga on Main in Manayunk, PA. I was grieving deeply all weekend, so to those who are just getting this message, please know my heart is with you. If you wish to reach out to me, or want to connect to anyone who was impacted, feel free to let me know!

Much Love, Asttarte

Teardrop Blues by Cattie

Sharing of Rama Bala on facebook!

It's been so many years that I've had someone this close to me die in my life; not since I was a young child. And, for one thing I am grateful in this moment is the opening he has brought to me in my heart. He is reminding me of the love I have for those I have closed my heart to, or have lost touch with for some time. I am forever grateful and look forward to connecting to you on the Astral Realm Rama! Rama Rama Bolo Jai Jai Sita Rama Bolo! Sri Ram, Jai Ram, Sri Krishna Govinda Hare......Hare Rama. Hare Rama. Sri Rama. Jai Rama. My Beloved Rama! Ommmmmm Love to you!!! (imagine music lyrics to this as you read).

Rama Bala is not the one singing in the video above. It is David Newman's composition from the Kirtan Yoga and Music Community here in Philadelphia I've been a part of for about 10 years. However, Rama is a Musical GENIUS and helped David on many levels become the success he is today. Rama's father taught him everything he knows and is considered a Musical Legend here in the States and in India and has compositions in Ashrams, Temples and places ALL over the Globe! Rama and I played music together often and I was VERY close to recording with him. Perhaps this will inspire to share my musical voice with someone else, in devotion of my friend Rama! I am still trying to accept this myself. I wrote a blogpost on this in my other Spiritual Community, http://CommongroundFellowship.com/. Part of this blogpost is a copy.

Please celebrate this amazing beings life with me! He passed recently, from food poisoning! Please take this as a reminder of what we put in our bodies, and how important it is to use caution when putting food in the body. This is a time of deep grief right now. Please pray for Rama, his family, friends and myself and that we accept this loss easily and with love! I love you all and am thinking of you!

I will forever remember him during the Christmas and Hanukkah Season!

Much Love, Asttarte

Yoga Girl - Music Video [HD]

2011-12-02T18:35:00.000-05:00

Totally hysterical and TOTALLY true! :-)

The Many Vaginas of One Female Body

2011-10-17T17:19:00.003-04:00

Now, I know you are thinking about a woman’s vagina as soon as I speak this word, however, her actual physical vagina is not what I am speaking about. A woman is an entire vessel of orgasmic possibilities, and when she is honored in her entirety of vaginas, she opens into a full lotus of pleasure, love and her Goddess self. A woman deserves to have her body touched in its entirety, and when she does, her whole body moves into orgasm, and it doesn’t even have to include her actual genitals.

When she is touched in all of her vaginas that are around her entire body, she slowly moves closer and closer to her orgasmic ride and wave of bliss that she is capable of. Each of her vaginas also have a clitoris and a central focal point surrounding the clitoris that desire to be adored. The “lips” of her vagina then are pampered and rubbed, or pressed, or caressed and slowly they move into engorgement and relax inside of her. This relaxation in each of these vaginas creates an awakening of her entire body where the Chi flow is then able to start and continues to expand and move as each vagina is nurtured and given the attention she really needs.

What are all of these extra vaginas I speak of?

There are many, and they are ALL over the woman’s body.

Her neck: the back of her neck, the spine that leads up to the coccyx, the muscles wrapping around the spine on the neck are her lips, and the coccyx is her clitoris, the spine is the empty space and opening, and the entire neck is her entire vagina as a whole. When squeezed, and muscles are worked out to their entirety; not just teased and given a small amount of attention, but truly worked out all of their knots and tightness, with firm or gentle pressure and as long as it take, this area become an access to her full body orgasm.

Her arm: the area of her arm below the shoulder and between her elbow on the exterior part of her arm is another clitoris. When you find the point that is that one special pressure point and when pressed on directly and held for 10 seconds or more, she has the capability of moving into orgasmic breath and wave of pleasure fills through her body.

Her thigh: the outside of her thigh from above the knee all the way to her hips on the yang, or exterior side of her body are another vagina of her body. The clitoris of this area is along the rubber-band muscle that is in the inner layer of her muscles closer to the back side of her leg also has another clitoris. The whole thigh muscle on the outside is her lips, and LOVE to be pressed firmly and squeezed to release their tightness.

The feet: the top of the foot and the bottom of the foot are an entire vagina. The top of the foot is the outer lips, the bottom of the foot is the inner lips and labia, and the entrance to her vaginal canal and her clitoris is somewhere along the bottom of her foot. For each woman it will be in a different location, and only she can lead you to the right place.

There are many more vaginas for each woman, and when you have sincere interest in discovering ALL of her clitoris’, she will surely lead you to how she likes to pleasured. And, after you have opened and given her all the expansion and foreplay in her entire body, then, when you reach her actual vagina, she will be that much more open and ready for you.

How do you Massage Each of These Vaginas?

It is a woman’s job to tell her partner(s) how she wants to be touched, and a man’s job (or her partners) to hear her and listen to her desires as she requests them. She might want firm pressure and holding still on one spot, or firm pressure and movement. The movement can be very slow or as fast as she likes. She might like grabbing and squeezing, or pressing and rubbing. She might like pinching, or gliding, or a tickling sensation. Each area might have different needs, but once each area is opened, it will allow her body to slowly move into a full body sensation of pleasure.

For example: I like my thigh vagina to be squeezed all the way down with pressure from both sides of my thigh, then squeezed all along one side all the way down. Then I like to have the massage go in circular motions around my clitoris, and stay in these circles for quite some time. Then I like the clitoris of my leg teased and only approached slightly with gentle and firm pressure on its point. Once the leg is opened and the clitoris has been slightly teased, then when going back to the direct clitoral spot, my whole body moves in waves of sensation and my breathing intensifies and I make sounds of orgasm; just from massaging my leg.

When the whole body and all of these vaginas are massaged in this way, I move into total bliss and euphoria that is difficult to stand. Then my actual vagina is extremely engorged and ready to be massaged directly and MUCH more sensitive to the touch when only massaged there. It’s like having foreplay for the body instead of going straight in to having sex right away. You have MUCH more pleasure when you have lots of foreplay than when you dive right in. The WHOLE body has the ability to have an orgasm and the more orgasms, the better!

In Preparation for the Moon

2011-10-17T12:18:00.002-04:00

This past weekends training in Basic Sensuality was a phenomenal program, and there were SO many things I would love to share about this course, however, today I want to start with the Woman, and who she is in preparation for her moon cycle.

It's so fascinating to hear what a woman already knows, and how she truly can be acknowledged for her feminine power during the time she is preparing to release the blood that is in her cells and a part of her power. We learned how when a woman is on the pill, it actually numbs all the possible hormones that allow her to get in touch with her femininity. It shuts off the connection and diminishes what's possible in her body. I suppose I have always known this because I only tried the pill for 3 days of my life, and knew, INSTANTLY, it cut me off from my real self. It's been over 20 years since I ever put one of those little pellets in my body. A woman deserves to feel ALL of her power, her grace, her vulnerability, her softness, and her hardness (that is her rage, anger, or dark side). During the time of preparation for the moon, all of the deepest parts of a woman are revealed, and when she can learn to honor those parts of herself and do her deep work during those times, as well as let herself be nurtured by others around her, she can move closer and closer to her true power and Goddess self, and be truly SEEN as a Goddess!

In preparation for the moon, it is a woman's natural birthright to receive the touch her body so desperately craves. And, touch IS truly what will help all of those hormones going through her body to relax; and so simply under the palm of your hand. Massage, taking baths, relaxing, doing yoga, cuddling, and love making are so precious and sacred during this time, and it is the time the woman's body desires it the most, and truly needs it. Her body is SO worked up, and it is going through changes inside of her; many changes she is completely unaware of, or the partner(s) in her life. It is a natural biological process, that when honored and nurtured can be used to truly embrace her and lift to her to her natural state of awakened juicy flow and the glowing Goddess she truly is.

She LOVES to be touched, with the palm of your hand, literally, and your fingers have all the magic she really needs. There is a process to touching her that when taught and truly learned, will have her yearning for your every offer to be close to her.

What they taught in this course, was like Tantra with a fine tuned fork. It was SO specific, and all the Spiritual talk and energy movement was not present here. It was more a dialogue of how to communicate to her, communicate to her body and have her craving for more. How powerful to bring the world of Spirit (Tantra) and Communication of Sex in one!

Love,

Asttarte

ALSO: There was also a powerful process of massaging the man's genital area in a way SO specific; much more than any other Tantra training I have taken, that it gives space to expand on in my own life's work. More to say on this.

Positive Sex Talk Group - Day 2

2011-09-29T18:28:00.012-04:00

Ok, so on to Day 2, however, I apologize no photos for this day, or the next few I believe. We were all so much in the moment, that the memories will be instilled in my mind and forever treasured. Perhaps next time, I'll make requests of shots!

These Groups were originally created by the Moorehouse Foundation based out of California. http://www.lafayettemorehouse.com/ My beloved friends here in Philadelphia have been hosting these groups, leading them, and organizing the Basic And Advanced Sensuality Courses right here, in our neck of the woods, near and around Philadelphia, PA. I made a call to them several weeks ago, claiming I am ready to return to the juicy conversations and keep the dialogue going; or perhaps get it started ALL OVER again!

This past Saturday was my second appearance from my several year absence, and it was a night worth remembering. However, the 1st night, a week prior, was pretty damn funny too! (However, some of the people might feel I betrayed their privacy if I shared the depths of that weekend, because the conversations were flat out sexual and seductive, and extremely personal). This past Sat. the group was taken place in West Chester, and around 16 people were there. It started with a potluck and the sexy leaders being late, so we mingled for a while longer than normal.

I got to share in my excitement and passion over the night of Day 1 to those who had heard some major stories of prior Dom experiences I have had, and experiences I would have had given I was put in the position of leadership with some particular people in the room. This made several people crack up laughing; particularly Miss Goddess Leader in action; whom I find daringly and magically attractive! The person whom I first shared these experiences with is a positive, outgoing, Landmark Graduate, and outspoken gay man, whom I find HILARIOUS and charming!

There were many people there, from many walks of life, and several people I was immediately drawn to, were brilliant and mysterious women; one in particular who is a Clinical Psychologist. Her presence and intensity is so powerful, she could stare down a parade of mad men into tears! On our break I immediately took the opportunity to hug her into a long and warm embraced hug and she announced later in the group to me "You give REALLY good hugs!"

I sat in the front of the room with our Leaders, and my friends, and I offered to find another seat, but with the limited chairs and space, was held down next to this sexy man by his firm hands, with his words "NO, you are staying RIGHT here!" I got to flirt with him and his sexy wife as much as I wanted with my arms teasing their backs and my eyes watching their powerful love and seduction with each other in the front of the room. The way he stared at her lower back and butt in her tight leather skirt, while she moved to the edge in the loveseat and spoke so powerfully to the group, describing instructions for the next exercise, was so moving and erotic!

There were 2 men there, who had a passion for a term that could be interpreted as Bi-Sexual, but the word they used was more open and fluid and described the unlimited capacity to love another, no matter their sexual preference, and leaving it open to just loving. They called it Pansexual. One had a fascination and joy for using Electrical Shock in his foreplay and pre-requesite to seduction with his lovers. Everyone was extremely curios and in some ways afraid at this somewhat sadistic and masochistic form of sexual play. However, his excitement and amusement for the art made him appear curious to the outsider. His favorite part of the exercise was the "thrill of the shock and the unknowing of when it would happen again," and the "pleasure of the shock making waves that expanded inches from the focal point and put into a state of unknowing." I had no idea how to interpret any reaction to this "desire" of this man's, other than thinking, "hmm, this might be something I know someone else might like!" And, I could visualize how someone with a somewhat twisted mind would probably like this, but I'll just stay as an observer. No, thank you!

There was a woman there who hadn't been to an event of
this type before, nor knew what she was coming to, and it was extremely difficult for her to be in the presence of others so comfortable around their sexuality, but many of us acknowledged her for staying, in the midst of the discomfort and having the desire to move through her pain and still enjoy an evening of fun and perhaps deep healing of her own.

There was another man who described experiences from Burning Man, and the reason he has committed to going every year; his passion for dress up, and how the one event turned into a total business opportunity that lead to major success. I LOVED listening to his regular play of dressing up like a Vampire and giving out fake "blood" as drinks to the customers of the bar, and that it actually drew in MANY people from all over the world. What a testimony to following your dreams and listening to your heart!

The Group is consisted of three exercises; a mirroring exercise, someone who sits on the "Hot Seat" and is asked questions from the others in the room (any question of their desire that is), and then ends with sharing a Withhold from others in the room, or even those who are not even present that you might need to express something to get it off your shoulders. What was great about this event, was the ability to share my true sexual power and passion, that has been awakened from my own releasing of sexual predators and energy vampires; where I can now be my true self and let me heart and passion shine! About 4 people in the room shared how they adored my energy at the front of the room, my vivaciousness, passion, presence, and playfulness and "would love to see me leading the front of the room again!" So, perhaps this is something in the making, and another opportunity to help me move into leadership of my own!

The evening ended with a seductive kiss on my neck from the playful gay man whom considered questioning his stand in only liking men and thought, "hmm, you inspire me to think otherwise!" It was quite hilarious and fun, moving, and an opportunity to be fully self expressed; something I LOVE!

The Pleasure of Surrendering Control - Day 1

2011-09-27T18:46:00.005-04:00

Coming home from 4 days of Sexual play, I am now taking rest and a little time to reflect. Here I share Day 1.

Friday night is normally an opportunity for me to have a full evening of Sessions with clients, however, this past Friday I met with one person and still had several hours left before the evening was over. To my surprise, an amazing being, whom has been a friend for over 7 years asks the question "So, when are we getting together for that inappropriate Professional Massage?" I say something like, "I didn't know we were planning an inappropriate Professional Massage. I was sure you just wanted a Mainstream Regular Massage." He says, "Well, I did." I say, "So when did this desire come about?" He said, "Just now." I say, "So Are you free tonight?"

He arrives a little after 10 pm. Little did I know the tricks that were under his sleeve. We sat face to face as though we were planning a conservative sweet connection, but soon after I sat on his lap, his heart starting beating fast, and I felt desire in me that had laid dormant for some time burst to the surface. He was a typical Yoga guy and not as trained in the Tantra world as I, so I sat with him in his discomfort and let him move into relaxation. Moments later, he said, "So I assume you must be a professional if you have latex gloves in your Healing room. Are there any other tools you have that aren't visible?" I mentioned casually how I have toys hiding in my secret hideout. Immediately ideas started brewing in his mind and he disappeared to the other room, only to return with this hemp rope in his hands. I say, "Wow, these look a little rough. I have much softer rope in my closet." But I went with it. "Do you have a lot of experience with this?" I say. "Just a little." comes his response. Then all of a sudden I'm being wrapped up like a professional slave, and he just laughs like its no big deal. I say, "So do all your playmates let you wrap them up like this?' He says, "No, you're being a good girl!"

Never in my life have I done something like this, and NEVER had considered it, but because I adored this person and was extremely attracted to his spirit for MANY years, I let go. I had to trust in order to surrender to his power. And, sexy was it. It started with receiving an intense Thai Yoga Massage, and one of the best I had received in a long time, but intermittently going back and forth between nice sensual loving strokes, to deep forceful squeezing of my thighs, my back, shoulders, arms and buttocks. All of a sudden I'm totally relaxed and being loved, and then I feel a forceful bite on my ass, or a bruise impounding slap all down my body. After each slap or bite, I jump up screaming, but after the third or fourth torturous slap or bite my whole body jumps up in surprise screaming "JESUS, can you do that a LITTLE more gently?" However, for a while my right arm was also tied up and there was nothing I could do but just breathe in this pain, AND pleasure and wait to see what would happen next. I was moaning and screaming for almost 2 hours, and near the 2 hour mark, when my one arm was finally free from its grip and I didn't worry about the bookcase falling over anymore, I escaped for a moment by crawling on my toes and using my hands to walk to the restroom. When I returned it was my turn.

I crawled over to him to give him kisses on the small part of his hip bones and right below his belly button to returning pleasure bites like his own. I instructed him to lie down, face down while my legs were still bound. I started with a gentle touch massage, my own Coconut Oil, and letting him relax as a new receiver. I put firm pressure on his ass, and used sweeping strokes down his legs. I grabbed his toys he so easily used to strike me, and returned the passionate slapping of my own. He requested I do it gently right away, and admitted, "I've never been on the receiving end of this." I said, "Oh, well that makes two of us. It just takes some practice." He wasn't as good a boy as I being a good girl, so I went easier on him, but still gave him his pleasure practice to the level he was open to receiving. I took it that he needed a little more time to trust me, but being that this was so spontaneous and something I NEVER would have expected with him, I rolled with it.

There were several kisses throughout the evening, and he took care of me. So I took the opportunity to take care of him with a Tantric Massage unlike he had received before. Being the Professional Healer and Teacher himself, he was quite impressed. I knew this was just a moment to cherish and not relationship material, but I will certainly let you know if I advance in my skills AND experience!

What I am grateful for about this experience, is that NOW, I can let myself receive as well as be in the receptive position with my lovers and it is SO nice to let go and let your lover make love to you with you laying down looking up at them. It has been years I have surrendered in this way, and I am grateful to this man for breaking me open!

Oh to the Power AND Pleasure of Surrendering Control!

Namaste!

Tantric Sex - Hitler reacts

2011-09-25T13:53:00.000-04:00

Protecting Your Sexy

2011-09-19T16:35:00.003-04:00

You know the sayings, "Sexy is as sexy does~" and "You are who you hang around!"

Well, what do you do when all of the people you hang around or the person you sleep with (or are in a relationship with for that matter) is not letting you be your sexy and is holding you down?

How long do you let the people in your life hold you back? Do you keep hanging out with the same friends, or support them to help them open up to their potential? Do you stay in a relationship with a partner who has no sex drive and try to burst their bubble and open them up to you, or do you walk?

These are questions many contemplate. The people in your life are people you care about. You want to be happy with them. You want to grow with them. You don't want to hurt them by walking away, or yourself from having to grieve them and start the whole dating process all over again. But, do you ever question, is STAYING worth it? And, am I really being my full authentic self with this person? Will he/she EVER truly get me? How long am I willing to sacrifice my passion, my identity, my purpose?

As a VERY sexy and passionate person myself, I have asked these questions MANY times, and in the past unsuccessfully left a relationship only to be sucked back into it again. I realize the power that was lost in the process; the giving away of my own power, my own identity, and as I stand here and reclaim my true self again, it is so liberating and freeing to detach from someone who sucks the life out of you; literally!!!

But what do you do, if they try to convince you "OH, I know you love me!!!" or "Oh, hunny, we're meant to be together!" or "Baby, I need you!" "I'm nothing without you." or worse, if they demand you stay with them, "You HAVE to be with me." or perhaps if they do it secretly and unknowingly by manipulating your thoughts or beliefs and try to control you. How long will you let this continue going on? At some point, the manipulation HAS to stop, and the truth WILL set you free! YOU know you HAVE to walk, and no ounce of convincing will change your mind. You are ready, you are clear, and you set yourself free! This is a battle, I like to call, Protecting Your Sexy, because as time goes by, your sexiness elopes you when you stay, and when you detach, your sexiness flies!!! Only then do you see the truth, the cycle and can finally take a stand for yourself, protect your self, and walk away!

Some relationships just don't work, and some people in our lives are meant to be with us for a certain period of time, and when they keep holding you back from your true self, you know, the time has come!

I am here now, Protecting my own sexy! Do you care to join me in the quest?

I've learned some great new tools the past few weeks in Tantra, and I am available, here and would love to see you!

Here's to your sexiness, your passion, and your life!!! Cheers!!!

"Things We Don't Talk About: Healing Narratives from the Red Tent" (Offi...

2011-09-16T10:05:00.001-04:00

Amazing Video for Empowering Women!!!

Taoist Tantra & Intimacy Retreat

2011-09-08T12:19:00.013-04:00

Hi guys (and gals). I'm sorry to announce that I'm writing to you AFTER coming back from this Retreat, but all that has been going on all summer left me MIA, and I've been working through some of my own personal journey that I neglected to let you all know of this, prior to its happening. However, it was a private invitation, and a VERY small group of people.

NOW, I get to tell you of its happenings and the amazing experience received during this time!

First off, this happened in Caanan, NY, ALL the way at the tippy top of New York state right next to Massachusetts, and YES, I drove up there, alone! I wanted to drive to see all of the visions and settings across the land and get a feel for the energy up there, and re-kindle my desire to move to NY myself! I have a passion for the mountains, for nature, rocks and waterfalls. I do love the ocean and the beach, but I REALLY LOVE the mountains and the deep settings of the Earth! Just being in these areas

heightens my sensation for pleasure, for
bliss and a connection to Gaia, Nature Spirits and the Divine! There is nothing like it!

So, what was THIS Retreat like? Ahh, aren't all Tantra Vacations and Trainings amazing? Yes, they are, and this was NO exception! The purpose of this event was much different than my Beloved Baba Dez's Daka Dakini Conferences. Dez has practically no limits or boundaries in his trainings, and yet they offer an extraordinary experience filled with love, divinity and bliss. Where-as this event, was lead by Anton from Sexy Spirits in NY, a friend of mine I love, admire and adore! And he brought his gorgeous and sexy wife, and they both shared their love with all of the participants. It's SO amazing to see how a powerful Couple, that unconditionally give to each other, and ravish in each others pleasures and fantasies can be so fulfilling to their inner self and to a community at large! It was awe-inspiring! My dream man would be someone such as him; a Leader of a Tantric Community himself and completely Mastered the Art of Love, Pleasure and Orgasm! Yes, these beings take YEARS of training. It is not your hand me down, run of the mill training of being a horny teenager and growing up just adoring sex and touching a woman. It is a whole different ball game!

1). We learned how to pleasure a woman in an entirely different and loving fashion; one that did not include ejaculation and full blown orgasm, but one that included intimacy, patience and gentle orgasms that were stopped prior to its height; keeping the flame going for minutes or hours. And, the men just surrendered into giving, and were trained in this fashion so as to allow the woman he gave to, to experience what it felt like to be trusted and safe in his arms. There were three positions he practiced; the breast massage, the Do Date, and a position I don't know the name of, but where she was gently guided to lay over his legs face down with her legs wrapped around his waist as he practiced helping her open her energy in her entire rib cage, lower back and buttocks. All positions were done with MANY pillows, and we were trained how to recognize when someone would need a pillow, and to what degree.

2). Naked Yoga every morning! How joyful and relaxing and fun! Then we ran to the back where a stream filled with large rocks and small waterfalls overlapped the earth. The men graciously and gently guided us all through the water as we went to a deep part in the creek and jumped all the way in to let the water cover our entire bodies; naked and freezing! Wow, what a rush!

3). Tantra Tango; need I say more! You could wear as little or as much as you wanted and swing those hips around to step-step! (Yes, I later realized my sarong was in the way!)

4). Organic Food! We were seriously treated like Kings and Queens!

5). Cuddling with whoever you wanted in each series of practices in the Group Setting!

6). Energy Cleansing and Honoring the Self Ritual. I went into full body waves as I was finally given permission to be my true self and let all the muck from here in Philadelphia, just disappear and dissipate away from me!

7). Good Bye, but not good bye! We were all invited to Anton and Rita's soon to be official wedding that is to be scheduled within 6 months! This is now another one of my Beloved Tantra Communities, I dare not stray too far away from! Coming to this event, was my coming home!

If anyone is interested in being my trainee or receiver of this Taoist Art, please let me know. Guys and ladies!

I will share more with you of the summer coming soon!

Love you All, and NO, I have NOT stopped doing this work and don't plan to; ever!

Check out: http://www.sensualloveandintimacy.com/ for more info on the Retreat! The second Training will be in the Winter as a Part II Taoist Tantra Training and Healing for men!

PS. My Private Tantra and Sacred Sexuality Healing site was never taken down. Here it is just an FYI: http://GoddessofLove.us My very basic and old site! My Coaching site is http://IntimacyandLifeEnhancementCenter.com
Tantra, Coaching and Healing for Women is FlowerofAWoman.com

LOVE! <3

The Mystery of Woman; A Book for Men

2011-07-12T15:08:00.002-04:00

To all those seeking knowledge and understanding of the woman; the Goddess. Here is a book of a compilation of many powerful Women, Healers and Tantra Schools. I finally got a piece of my own writing in here, and hope this is the start of many more to come!

*Paperback*..."The Mystery of Woman" is a fascinating new book that explains what women really want from men in relationships and in life, in the voices of women themselves. In Part 1, Mr. Morris shares his own thought-provoking insights on men, women, love, sexuality and the true potential for male-female relationships, once men and women figure out how to genuinely connect. In Part 2, 24 women write in personal and very intimate terms on love, romance, yin and yang, sexuality, spirituality, tantra, femininity, masculinity...you name it. And in Part 3, 8 men give their take on all of the above. Though it's a book for men, women will no doubt find it an intriguing and deeply informative read as well. NOTE: THIS INCLUDES A FREE E-COPY of "Kundalini and the Art of Being", by Gabriel Morris...Click "Preview" below the cover image at left to read excerpts from the book. Lulu ships worldwide, within a few days. *Also available as an e-book* (Search Lulu.com for "The Mystery of Woman".)

Written by Gabriel himself:
"I also added several new pieces to it, including a great piece by Asttarte Deva Shakti Bliss, a 15-page interview with Maya Yonika, subject of the movie "Sex Magic: Manifesting Maya", and also two amazing pieces from each of the founding members of the School of Tantra in Maui, Hawaii, Janet and Sasha Lessin. So, I'm including a PDF of the new version of the book attached here for everyone. And if anyone wanted to get a paperback version of the new book, or else tell their friends about it, post on Facebook, etc., here's the link to where people can pick up a copy (the e-books can be downloaded immediately, and the paperbacks can be shipped worldwide):"

Check it out!!! http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/Gabrieltraveler

Blessings of Love and Light all!!!

Asttarte

Coaching Tip from Asttarte June 24th - Detoxing Your Life

2011-06-24T12:26:00.003-04:00

Now that we are moving into the dead of summer, lifestyles are changing. We are moving into wearing fewer clothes, having more time at home to stay cool, and sometimes our visions of our-selves change in the process. As I contemplate my summer, I feel the passion for cleansing; cleansing my body, my spirit and my home. I’m changing eating habits to cleanse the extra weight from eating foods that put on pounds and within days I’m noticing the water weight quickly leaving me. I’ve replaced sugar for stevia, coffee with flavored creams to plain organic teas, salads with heavy dressing to olive oil and balsamic vinegar, and energy drinks to kombucha, essential oils and flower essences. In my home I’ve donated my son’s outgrown toys and clothes, cleaned the bathtub and toilet, and purchased excellent All Natural Massage Creams and Oils for new Sessions.

Tips to Detoxify Your Life

Instead of holding grudges on people, you could:

Consider their viewpoints; contemplate another way of looking at the situation

Hold compassion for others in your mind

Be more giving.

Instead of eating the same foods the same way, you could:

Consider some foods that put weight on you (make a list of the foods that make you feel bloated, lethargic, depleted or sick)

Trust your own body and listen to your body rhythms

Consider substituting out foods for better choices

Drink more water, and less soda, coffee or juices

Replace caffeine for herbs, vitamins or vegetables

Instead of harboring anger against your children, you could:

Be more patient and understanding

Look at the situation from their point of view

Take a moment to breathe before responding

Consider new ways to interact

Offer a new solution

Consider a family adventure

Instead of blaming your partner for your relationship problems, you could:

Start looking at why you are creating the situation in the first place

Ponder what it is that you are thinking that causes their reaction

Deal with your own stress responsibly

Communicate from a place of compassion and take time away if you are upset before speaking

Look at what it is you are doing, AND not doing, and go back to your relationship agreements (if there has been no agreements made, make them)

Communicate your needs and listen to the needs of your partner

Compromise

Instead of blaming everyone else in your life for your problems, you could:

Eliminate or maintain minimal contact with certain people in your life that are toxic

Talk to a Therapist, Counselor, Healer or Coach to sort things out

Start a Journal

Go for a Daily Walk

Go to Yoga or Exercise

Get a Massage, Acupuncture, Chiropractic care, or a Spiritual/Holistic Healing Session

Meditate

Start or recommit to your own personal growth

Find friends on the same page as you (similar goals, beliefs, passions, etc).

Try Ayurveda, Aromatherapy or Flower Essences

Recommit to a Spiritual Practice

Look at yourself!

What do you do to detoxify your life?

If you’re unhappy, do you keep doing the same things, or do you consider a new approach?If your friends are making you miserable, do you keep them in your life or find new friends?

What are beliefs that are making you miserable?

Do you maintain a physically healthy diet, and if you feel lethargic or bloated, what do you do to detox?

Do you keep your home clutter free, and if there are things you want to get rid of, what will you do to remove them?

If you’re unhappy in your relationship, what will you do to make a difference?

What are new approaches you will take with your children to bring you closer?

What practices will you do over the next few weeks to relax your mind and nourish your spirits?

The next time you feel an argument coming on, will you walk away or pursue the conversation in that moment?

If your family or neighbors irk you, what will you do to harbor compassion?

What is one thing you will do over the next week to take care of YOU?

During the times of Seasons Changing, it is important to take a broad perspective and look at your whole life at large. During times of seasons changing, often also what show’s up are changes in our viewpoints, our desires, our passions and our focus. Contemplate what the summer will bring you or what it could do to cause you suffering, and change your approach so the next couple months for you are rewarding, satisfying and enjoyable!

“Unless you change how you are, you will always have what you’ve got.” Jim Rohn

What To Do When Your Heart is Broken

2011-06-16T19:27:00.007-04:00

Are you someone who is feeling alone; maybe lost and afraid, maybe hurt and betrayed? Are you recently divorced or separated? Was it your choice or your ex-partners? Are you angry or are you sad? Sometimes we have to make big decisions that impact us on very profound levels, and sometimes those decisions affect our personal well-being, our health, our relationships with other people, our careers, our families, our reaction to stress, our ability to have full sleep each and every night and our regular social decisions.

Have you ever been through a serious break up? A divorce? A death of a close loved one? What do you do when these events take place?

How does it impact your life? Your diet? Your rest? Your relationships? Your career? Your family life? Your stress level? What do you do to improve these areas of your life when your balance is thrown off?

Do you reach out for help? Or do you deal with things alone?

Do you seek Holistic Therapies or do you suffer silently inside?

What do YOU do to handle your emotions? What do you do when you can’t sleep through the night? What do you do after you have an emotional breakdown? Do you self-medicate, or do you seek a professional?

When your heart is broken, it is often one of the most painful experiences in one’s life. Often people are afraid to share their true feelings to those closest to them. Many suffer quietly without reaching out for help, and some even go the extra mile to pretend as though everything is fine. Many want to be seen as strong and think emotions are a sign of weakness. Our culture has taught us that when you cry you are weak, and when you don’t cry you are strong. However, when in reality, when you let yourself cry during times of suffering, it is actually a sign of power and vulnerability; that you are in touch with your feelings and are not threatened by them. When you can express how you really feel, like children, you can feel the feelings and then move on. And, if the feelings come again, then you acknowledge them again, express them, and move on again. Eventually you will feel free to your full self-expression, you will feel your joy again, and your true self will shine through.

Sometimes we cannot access our true feelings. We’ve been so trained to hold everything inside that we can’t be like little children and just let the feelings out when they are there. In these cases, it is best to seek Alternative or Holistic Therapies and use the tools available to you to help you purge what’s hidden deep inside. Don’t hold onto the past. You then won’t be able to live into the future, and your past will ALWAYS be there to pull you back from your present.

Some Affirmations for Depression and to allow yourself to feel:

I am being taken care of.

I let go of my expectations.

I love myself for what I am going through.

I open my heart to love and the joys of life.

I am thankful for all that I have.

If your heart is broken, are you holding back from letting yourself feel all of your heart, or are you ready to let your heart be free?

In oneself lies the whole world, and if you know how to look and learn, the door is there and the key is in your hand. – J. Krishnamurti

Gratitude for the Guys

2011-05-24T21:48:00.002-04:00

After several weeks of going through my own personal journey of development, I came to a point of being really down and fearful I could make it through the hurdles and take care of myself. After reaching out, and sharing my personal experience, and letting myself be available, I found that my present followers, clients and network was an amazing support and was so open and willing to be there for me, by letting me give to them in session. I was amazed to know the sincerity and commitment of their love and kindness and their immediate willingness to make a change so they could travel to see me.

I now have much appreciation for them in return and know, of those who see me, who is truly sincere in heart and devoted to me. I want to thank you ever so much for your love, your availability, your acknowledgement and your support. I also want to thank you for your patience, and your acceptance in knowing, I am still here and am also committed to you. As I continue on this journey of empowering myself, I know still, I am doing what I am called to do, and in alignment with my purpose.

For those of you who have not seen me in a while, I also want to thank you for being in my life. I know in your heart, if you were available and had the inspiration to see me, you would be here.

Some Questions to consider:

1). What do you do to honor and acknowledge the people in your life your gratitude for them?

2). Do you have a gratitude practice and what is it?

3). When someone gives to you without expecting anything in return, how do you respond? Do you give to others the same way, to them at a later time, or do you ignore it and forget it ever happened?

4). Do you celebrate the moments you are grateful or do you let time pass you by?

5). When you are grateful, do you tell others about it, or do you keep it to yourself?

6). If you’re not feeling gratitude in this moment, consider some times you were feeling grateful and go back to the people, community, or company you were grateful for, and acknowledge them. It just might make your day!

Thank you!

Just a little reminder that you all are very important beings and mean a lot to me.

Blessings,

Asttarte

To Be Loved By A Man

2011-05-17T12:41:00.005-04:00

I know what it feels like to be loved by a man; a man whose heart is open wide to the spirit you are; a man who loves you, or in the moment feels as though he is deeply in love with you.

To be held in his arms; to feel his breath upon your chest, as he holds you in embrace, and caresses your heart into deep utter relaxation.

To be teased into bliss by the simplicity of his eyes melting into yours.

You never forget what it feels like to be held by a man; a man, not a boy, or a child, and not your father or your son. A man, who is so deeply in love with YOU!

His rich smell as his pheromones reach out to yours and tantalize your adrenaline into heaven.

A spark of simplicity, a whimper in your heart of relief, of satisfaction, of knowing you are woman, as you are received in his love, and accepted for being the Goddess you are!

What a gift you are receiving, in being loved by his depth, in knowing you ARE Goddess, and are powerful in your femininity; a divine being worthy of being loved.

What a gift he is receiving, in giving him the experience of loving you, in knowing he is capable of loving and valuable in being received.

To be loved by a man offers so many gifts; for the receiver and the giver. To be a woman, being loved by a man helps you to know you ARE alive, and you are worthy, are capable and acceptable in being a Woman; a wise woman, an innocent woman, a powerful woman, a vulnerable woman; that you are allowed to be YOU, and you are allowed to be Goddess. You have permission and you need not shut down your prowess, your sensuality or your love!

Some thoughts to consider:

1). What does it mean to be loved by a man to you?

2). As a man, what does it offer you to love a woman? And, what does it mean to you to love a woman, who truly receives your love?

3). As a woman, what gifts do you receive when you open your heart to receiving the love from your beloved man that is right there in front of you?

4). As a woman, how often do you allow yourself to be loved by your husband/boyfriend?

5). Are there times when you shut him out and choose not to be embraced by him? If Yes, what causes you to close down to the one you love the most? (What thoughts are going through your mind? Are you resigned, cynical, blaming, judgmental, or resentful? Do you feel unloved? Do you feel unaccepted? Do you feel threatened and not supported? Do you lack trust? Do you feel guilty or wrong? Do you feel betrayed? Are you angry? Do you want to forgive? Are you stressed and feel powerless? Are you afraid and want to feel safe?)

6). Are you a woman, married or partnered to a man, going through your own emotional crisis and don’t feel understood or accepted for who you are? Do you wish to be understood? If you felt safe and accepted, how would you go about explaining to your man what you are dealing with so he could be a team player to help you get through your current struggles?

7). Do you feel as though, you are accepted, but still can’t talk to him about your inner world? Are you afraid of being judged or that he will stop loving you? What’s the worst thing that could happen if you told him what you felt?

8). Are you a woman (or a man) who doesn’t like talking about feelings and wishes the problems or issues would just go away? Would you rather wish them away then deal with them? What are you afraid of that makes you want to run when it comes to feelings?

9). If you had it your way, how would you want your current relationship to look like, feel like and smell like? (What would your surroundings and environment be, how would your partner behave towards you, how would they treat you, how would you treat them, where would you live, and what would you have in your home, how would you get along with in-laws and friends in social outings?, etc.)

10). Are you the typical leader in your relationship and the first to bend to work out an argument, or are you the one who holds grudges and waits to see if, maybe, things will work out on their own? If you did become the leader, what would you do or say to your partner to help them open their heart to you again?

Bonus Question:

11). If you are not receiving the type of love that you really want, ask yourself, what is it that you want, and what in your relationship is missing, if you had it your way, you would want to be there?

If you're a man reading this post, you are welcome to copy and paste this and print it out to give to your beloved woman. (You are also welcome to turn the questions around to address yourself as a man). If you are a woman, consider reading this and answering the questions for yourself. you may discover some things about yourself, your relationship, hidden desires, and you may get to experience what it is that is really important to YOU!

News Blogcast - Gentleman, ladies, couples and singles!!!!

2011-05-11T13:41:00.001-04:00

I am here to inform you all that it is NOW a new time ~ the creative artist that I am, and the entrepreneur that I am is excited to share with you – the ending of one cycle and the beginning of a new one!

As many, or perhaps some of you may know the dark places I had to go. Well, I went there, dealt with it (as each layer arrives), and now I am renewed. Being a Goddess, an Empath, an Artist and a Healer makes it VERY important that I HONOR each and every time my being/my Spirit/my presence/my heart requests of me to go inward. And so inward I go, and in the process I may disappear for a time, but without going inward, I could not continue to be available to you. So, in essence it is an exciting time! To constantly feel the flow of my body, my spirit, my heart and the opening and expansion each time it happens ~ the flow, the peace, the joy within my body each and every time I get to come out of the healing period and share the deep love I am experiencing for myself WITH YOU!!!

This recent inward period, I felt an orgasm in my heart chakra. My heart literally fluttered and tingled with a sensation of joy ~ right in the center of my chest, and then I felt a POP; like a balloon of energy was circulating around my heart and the POP literally popped out whatever armor was there, and I literally, as I am psychic in my own way, saw the energy expand outward all around my body and into space and time, as I was in nature a couple weeks ago! And then only a few moments later, felt a full body orgasm as I was taking little steps onto the dirt in the woods, and my whole body waved in sensation of love; like a dance, and then I felt my crown chakra open at the deepest capacity it has been in MANY MANY years. Then, as if by surprise, I felt the energy of the Earth all around me. I felt the energy of the trees, the dirt, the rocks, the wind and the awe of nature. And it was mesmerizing!It was NOT a sexual orgasm. It was a Spiritual Orgasm, and one I had not planned or done ANY spiritual exercise to create! IT JUST HAPPENED, all on its own! WOW! What a sensation of bliss, and what an experience worth sharing!

So now, I am working on merging my reclaimed spiritual power (as you see here: http://healingthesacredfeminine.blogspot.com/2011/05/newfound-spiritual-power.html) and creating a workshop for Couples and a Women's Workshop. I am here to tell you, the women of the world NEED your love! As a man, as most of you are, you must learn how to get through your wives feelings. She needs you, and she wants YOU to help her; even if she doesn’t know it, or speak it. She’s desperately calling out for your help, but gentleman, as many of you are, it is a test; a challenge for you to learn how to become that TANTRIC HEALER she needs you to be. I challenge you to come to see me with your Beloved, and let me help you heal the wounds that are keeping you apart! Women and men speak different languages, and I am here to help you learn her language so you can truly have the intimacy you desire and deserve! I will be writing more on this, and calling out for help, to help the men understand, learn and become Healers on the planet, so the women can shine and be glorious beside you!

I have only 1 or 2 weeks left of my Master Coaching Training. I shifted my project from the book to the Women’s Workshop because of what came up for me, so as soon as I complete the project of the workshop, I will be working on the writing of the book mentioned in a previous blog, and perhaps the journey of being a Healer who was raped, and a tool to help men help the women they love!

Asttarte

Many New Offerings

2011-05-07T01:10:00.006-04:00

Many new offerings from Asttarte JAH in the works as we speak. This post will be updated later! So check back for additions or corrections.

The Lovers Healing Workshop - This fall

Becoming the Healer Your Beloved always wanted you to be! Learn Spiritual practices to self heal, Chakra Balancing, and more! Get attuned and Certified as a Reiki Practitioner (Your Choice of Modality). Become your Lovers Healer and Re-unite your love again! (For Couples and Singles!)

Your Whole Breath

Spiritual Healing, Reiki, Energy Healing, Shiatsu and Thai Massage Sessions available!
yourwholebreath.com

Flower of A Woman Workshop - This summer, Aug. 26th and 27th
Taught by Asttarte Jah Ma Deva and Karly Ann Griffin.
Tell your wives and Girlfriends!

Empowering and unfolding the Goddess within you! Honoring and Embracing the Divine Feminine. Spiritual Healing practices to open up your heart, connect to your inner Goddess, Raise your Spiritual Vibration, Affirm you Deserve to be loved, let go of the pain inside you and be a stand for love ~ Becoming the Goddess you are meant to be.
A 2 Day Workshop for Women!
Day 1 will be filled with Spiritual practices, training and the workshop at large.
Day 2 women will have a chance to go deeper into their Healing, a Support Group of other women to be held by and to hold in circle, prayer and love.

See Karly's info at: VoicingTheVagina.blogspot.com and http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1400372967

My Lover My Best Friend

Relationship and Intimacy Phone Coaching. Individual Spiritual Training. Couples Sacred Spiritual Healing Training. To work with a man for in person Sacred Training, I need to at least have an interview or meet with your wife/girlfriend once. Most empowering for Couples to come together. "Helping men to become the Healers the women of the world need them to be!" "Helping women to know it is safe to heal, and you can!"
mylovermybestfriend.com

Priestess Reiki

Remember the Goddess and Priestess of Ancient times and become re-attuned to the energies of the Goddess within you! Priestess Reiki Energy Healing.
PriestessReiki.com (Will be a bigger site this summer).

Healing The Sacred Feminine

Healing The Sacred Feminine is a woman's process of unfolding her womb, the awakening of her Goddess center, allowing her vagina to speak; her tears, her joy, her private and sacred center and the safety and security she needs in doing so. The healing of the sacred feminine is an unfolding process of her sexual power and birthing her self into a Goddess of Love and sensuality! This is me being ruthless, and letting the truth, be known!

New Blog for women and men to understand what women go through. Women need each other!
Given upon request.

In Love, In Truth

Asttarte Phoenix JAH Ma Deva!

Asttarte (Goddess of Love, Celestial, of the stars)
Phoenix (One who rises into the light, an Ascending being of flight)
Jah (Vibration of God)
Ma (Mother of all)
Deva (Sanscrit word for Teacher in India)

WHY the men are Always Sexually Frustrated!

2011-05-03T16:12:00.002-04:00

Why is it the men are always sexually frustrated?

I would like to elaborate on this a little bit and fill your minds with some perspective that might not have been considered, or perhaps give you something to contemplate for a while.

Women grow up as young girls, and often as young girls we are extremely sensitive to the things around us. We as children are more open, intuitive and feel more intensely what we do as adults. We feel like Healers do, and have higher perceptions of things around us.

Young girls often go through life, having to defend themselves, fight off people who cross their boundaries where they feel threatened just for being soft, feminine and girly. These young girls are easier prey to those bigger than them and get picked on easier and sometimes, although not wanted, the worst case scenarios, we get raped. And, often times all of these things that happen to us, get ignored and many times forgotten.

These girls go through life as if nothing ever happened. We live, we move on and we survive. But, yet we have deep hidden pains inside of us. As young girls we aren't aware that we were damaged. We have strong wills and like to have fun. As young women, we express our sexuality and party all the time. But as adults, as fully integrated women, it catches up with us. By this time we are married, we have children and are fully into our careers. Our husbands don't know our pains. Our boyfriends can't understand, but we know, deeply!

Then it dawns on our husbands that they want more sex. They are frustrated. They aren't getting it, and inside, our hearts are broken. Women are often soo suppressed that they aren't even in touch with the pain inside of them. Sometimes they are, but don't think its possible to heal, or worst, don't want to. We need to be nurtured, loved, caressed, and cared for as a Goddess and fully respected as women. We need to take the time to open our hearts and expand the flower that we were meant to be. But, the husbands we are with are frustrated. They are impatient, and they want instant satisfaction. And, they aren't getting it for the exact reason that their adrenaline is high and their patience becomes thin. They become demanding, needy and pushy. And as women we see this as a turn off. We pull away. We need safety and aren't getting it. We feel threatened and unloved, and the distance between the two of us becomes larger. Eventually the split from heart and body takes place and sex becomes not something of intimacy or love, but of need and often demand.

And a lot of you men out there are wondering why your wives aren't horny! Well, we women have been through hell, and YOU need to become our Healers, or we will put up a wall from you. So, my dear gentleman, I am here to tell you and teach you, you MUST become a gentleman and give your women the nurturing and the heart of yours she fell in love with. Otherwise, distance will prevail and overshadow any potential relationship you have.

My wish is for all men to learn to listen, to hear what the women of the world truly need and to open your hearts to love them. This then, is when the women of the world will TRULY give you ALL the love you ever wanted!

Blessings to you on your journey!

Asttarte

Taking Back My Spiritual Heritage

2011-05-03T16:07:00.002-04:00

I am reclaiming myself as a Melchizedek Priestess, Interfaith Minister and Ancient Egyptian Goddess. I am taking back my offerings of: reiki healings, energy initiations, cellular cleansings, activations, and may do reiki classes at some point in the future merging the buddhist yin/ calm reiki energy with the intense goddess reiki energy of the priestess and earth elements. I am a Reiki Master in all of these lineages:

Usui Reiki Master

Tera-Mei Seichem Reiki Master

Shamballa Reiki Master

Kundalini Reiki Master

Lotus Light Reiki Master

I am also:

Axiotonal Alignment Practitioner

Frequency Balancing Practitioner

Igili Energy Healer with the Angels

Certified Melchizedek Priestess

Certified Interfaith Minister

Certified Yin Yoga Teacher, Shiatsu Massage and Thai Massage Therapist. I deserve to share that which I have to give! The name for this work will be: http://PriestessReiki.com/ God Bless you!

As a Melchizedek Priestess, I offer you initations into the light, clearing your vortex of light, channel your chakras for opening and send you into Ascended portals to your Soul.

No, Erotic Massage will EVER offer this opportunity!

I AM a Divine Mother Earth Goddess. In time, you will see me shine!

Asttarte

Helping the Men by Healing the Woman

2011-05-03T13:52:00.000-04:00

Post Coming Soon!

EXCELLENT POST

2011-04-08T15:49:00.000-04:00

http://female-orgasm-techniques.blogspot.com/2010/06/5-ways-for-women-to-achieve-orgasm-with.html

This blog is a winner!

Finale Decision

2011-04-01T16:15:00.004-04:00

I'm down to one!

Getting the Sex You Deserve

Tantra for Parents;

or anyone who thinks they deserve a better sex life.

On Getting the Pleasure YOU deserve!

Relationship & Sex Coaching Guide

I may reveal to you the contents later, as its a work in progress. I may offer a couple chapters up for free after they are complete. This is the beginning~~~

These will be worked on later.

Tantra for Expansion: For Pleasure, Joy and Bliss

(possible totally simple book to write)

Ch. 1 Letting Go of Jealousy & Possessiveness (example and coaching)

Ch. 2 Letting Go of a Relationship with someone you Love (example and coaching)

Ch. 3 Being Open to New Love Again (example and coaching)

Ch. 4 Letting Go of Anger and finding Peace Again (example and coaching)

Ch. 5 Being Open to Bliss, using the breath to experience pleasure, bliss and orgasm (example and coaching)

Ch. 6 Heightening Your Sensation for Touch (example and coaching)

Ch. 7 Intensifying Intimacy and the connection with your Lover

Ch. 8 Releasing Pain, Trauma and Emotions in the Body (example and coaching)

Book 5 of Series of

Diary of a Tantra Goddess:

A Journey to Love

Taking a Stand for Pleasure

A Memoir and Coaching Tool!

(Working Title)

Book 5 is about Intimacy Healing of a Relationship,
Taking a Stand for Pleasure, Choosing to be Sexually Fulfilled and walking away.
Titles of chapters negotiable to being more sexy.

Ch. 1 √ The Long Awaited Hug,

Coaching Tools (presence, )

Ch. 2 √ The Tempting Affair

Coaching tools (surrender, acceptance and allowing)

Ch. 3 Freedom & Intimacy with Others

Coaching tools (Coaching around healing and time alone)

Ch. 4 √ Energetic Alignment in Relationships

Coaching tools

Ch. 5 Landmark Empowerment Miracles

Coaching tools (Coaching around noticing your feelings and not putting meaning to them)

Ch. 6 Opening your Heart to the One You Love

Coaching Tools

Ch 7 Taking a Stand (for Getting the Sex and Relationship You deserve)

Coaching Tools (Being bold, powerful and brave)

Whole Series is About:
A Series of my journey as a Tantra Goddess in training, Journey of a Tantra Goddess; the journey with MANY sexual adventures, healing, polyamory and a mostly NON-sexual significant partner and coming to taking a stand for Sexual satisfaction and Empowerment in the end; with Coaching tools at the end of each chapter.

Taking a Stand for Pleasure - Revised

2011-03-31T17:20:00.003-04:00

Ok, so here I am again! Yet another day to begin; another day to find inspiration, to behold that which belongs to YOU!

So, I am standing for all the men who wish their wives would make love to them, for all the women who wish their men would make love to them and all the singles who broke up with their partners, because they knew they deserved more!

I read an article today in the USA TODAY, and it spoke of how most people are now just "hooking up" and how the dating era is soon coming to pass. Is this really what everyone is really suffering from? This appears to be a topic we shall certainly address another day!

So, I took a stand for my life, to have the commitment I deserve, the relationship and the beautiful sex life. I will not be letting my heart open to this man, who runs out of fear once things get serious, but stated firmly, "if you REALLY want to be with me, you will 1. need to REALLY commit to me, 2. get your OWN place, and 3. work out whatever issues or feelings in you that are causing you to NOT want to be intimate after things move to a serious stage. Otherwise, you can forget it!" This daddy O says he is totally committed to me, and yet has not worked out his own intimacy issues, so before ANYTHING will EVER happen, that will have to take place. So, onto Imago Therapy; another practitioner who does similar work to myself, but is a Psychotherapist and Love/Tantra Coach in their own right. This is FAB-U-LOUS work and excellent for couples. It is typical when one partner is a practitioner that the other will not listen to them. They must find "their own" way. no time for being mommy, or therapist when there are plenty of other people who need my help. so, rest assured, I am putting that whole dynamic to rest, and letting HIM take control. I've done my share for 5 years, now it's time to take control.

So, I have decided to move all info onto the AsttarteDeva.com site, as you will see, and slowly move people away from the overpriced Godaddy site SacredPathofTantra, and stick with AD.

Now, the next project, choosing the BOOK to write! What do you like to read?

There is a novel ~ Goddess Born - about a young child who comes into this world as a Goddess, has clairsentience abilities, a connection to Mother Mary, experiences with angels, and is in training to be a Healer and Sex Goddess. the later novels get into her further training as a Goddess.

A Sex and Tantra Coaching Book - the 1st of many - Tantra for Expansion; For Pleasure, Joy & Bliss.

A book of my journey as a Tantra Goddess in training, Getting the Sex You Deserve; the journey with MANY sexual adventures, polyamory and a mostly NON-sexual significant partner and coming to taking a stand for Sexual satisfaction and Empowerment in the end; with Coaching tools at the end of each chapter.

I will go over these with a couple friends to help come to the final decision and writing process to begin!

I hope for you all, journeys of pleasure, healing, satisfaction, love and peace throughout this entire week!

I am available, but only during the day during the week, to answer calls and do sessions. The rest of my time I am with my toddler!

Love,

Asttarte

Getting Real - Revised from March

2011-03-29T17:54:00.000-04:00

The reality is, I love this work. And, sometimes I need to rest, but I am still here. There are many people who often call and make appointments at the last minute, and then call me before your scheduled time and cancel; much too many. As long as you recommit to rescheduling and give me a small fee for the cancellation, this is fine with me. Sometimes the surprise time alone is awesome, but sometimes it is at a time I really need the financial support.

As far as your Beloveds: I would love to see you come in here with her. And start telling her how you feel, or get the support you need so you can. Have you ever read the book: Radical Honesty? It is a life saver! It may save your marriage, or your own life!

There are those of you are not interested in learning about healing or spiritual work. Many of you are NOT interested in healing yourself, and perhaps you don't think you need to; or maybe you don't understand what Spiritual Healing is all about. In doing this work, I took on becoming a Healer to help the world, being of service to people, to help resolve their life issues, the things they are dealing with, the relationship struggles, their intimacy issues, their spiritual blocks, their emotional blocks and anything that is getting in the way of having an extraordinary life. And, for the most part, the majority of you are sexually frustrated, and don't yet see the value in starting on a Spiritual Quest. I am here to help you, and to help you have the relationship you want and the sex life you deserve!

A possible game plan from now on:

I am going to look into becoming a regular writer for a sexy magazine; if they want me of course. (perhaps sharing some of this at http://eroticeducation.blogspot.com)

I have recommitted my relationship with my dad and will be getting together with him weekly, or bi-weekly.

I see the importance of spending quality time with my son, and will be taking more time to be with him as well.

I will be creating adding doing Life Coaching sessions over the phone, Group Coaching over the phone, and Spiritual Healing and Emotional Healing Sessions for people that want to grow.
If anyone is interested in Professional Coaching Sessions, please let me know!

I will also be devoting a large portion of my time to writing; a memoir/self help book, novels, and tantra books, articles and getting myself ready to be on radio, record cds and putting things in order to publish. This is VERY exciting!

I will be doing more events with my son.

Ever since I was a little, all I wanted to do was to be a writer, a singer, and an actress, and everything in my life was lined up to heal and grow into becoming a Goddess. Now, I have a lot to write about, a lot to sing about and a lot to be passionate about.

Enjoy the beautiful sun as we move into the spring!

Asttarte

PS. My computer died a while back and I had no means of communication. My pelvis also went completely out for a while and I could hardly walk. I am back now ~ still integrating from the intensive weekend, but I am here.

Grocery Shopping and Your Sexual Needs

2011-03-29T16:54:00.002-04:00

Do you ever go to the grocery store, and after strolling and going to the check out realize that there are other items you "still" need to get? I often go to the Acme to get my trash bags, lunch baggies, water, fresh fruit in bulk, eggs, pastas, crackers, frozen meals and deserts, and then trek to the Trader Joe's for my sons vitamins, nuts, goat cheese, orange juice and yummy yogurt and then Whole Foods for their delicious soups, organic vegetables, "my" vitamins and teas, juice for my son, my nurturing magazines to read, etc. AND, more recently, even go to the Co-op to get healthy snacks and more natural sugar treats for my son. That's a heck of a lot of different grocery stores to go to, and not all at the same time, but do ever find yourself caught in the same situation where you need to go to multiple places to get all of your needs met?

Just like your sexual needs, your intimate and personal needs, you can't always get them met by the same person, or at least not all the time. Perhaps in the beginning of relationships it may appear you can get ALL your needs met by your honey, but as time moves on, you realize more of who they are and some of your needs are better off met by others.

Perhaps your significant other gives you great nurturing, cuddles you and is great to relax with, but you also have a desire for great sex, so you may find yourself being drawn to others, and sometimes without your partners consent. You may have a best friend at work or that you talk to every day that you can vent, talk to and really feel heard. And perhaps you can't always get the massage you deely desire and need from your Beloved, so you then turn to the Massage Parlor or Spa for this need. If you're a woman and you LOVE shopping, maybe your guy will turn you away when you make his request to join you, but you have a favorite shopping buddy you like to call on when you're "in the mood" to shop! Or if you're a guy and love to go bowling, have a "guys night out", or go hunting, your woman certainly and most probably isn't interested in joining you here! Sometimes it's okay to get your "other" needs met by other people. And, often, it's nice to get a little break away from the person you see the most. It sometimes allows you to appreciate them that much more, and gives you a reason to keep the relationship going, because in the end, they are the one you love the most.

The Best Way to Get All Your Needs Met:

Talk openly about ALL of your needs and what you are or are not getting met by your significant relationship.
Discuss your other considerations for fulfilling those needs.
Make agreements with each other to have them fulfilled.
If you have weekly needs, find a day and time that they are suited best.
If you have monthly needs or bi-monthly needs or every six months, be sure to discuss them so it doesn't become your partners problem or that they don't become the blame for your lack of happiness, but instead, you are in charge of your own life!
If your partner is not supportive of your needs getting met, you might want to seek a Couples, Family or Sex Therapist to work them out. Otherwise, you might be questioning your relationship and why you are in it.

May all Your Needs Be Met in the exact time you need them!

Love,

Asttarte

Getting Back to Pleasure - revised

2011-03-24T23:19:00.003-04:00

Ok, so continuing on the path of being BOLD - -my stick it to it attitude and getting myself all cleaned out, cleared out and clutter free (literally), to write all my books! I am getting ready to write a Series of Goddess books - - SUPER exciting everyone. I think so at least.... My spirit, my heart, my soul HAS BEEN waiting for me to get my act together so I can just get down to the nitty gritty, soul digging and writing all my works of art, through the form I love, writing, and perhaps a little of painting after they're done. I also have a series of Tantra Guide Books ready to move through me! I'm on my way, getting closer as time passes. Forgive me for all the changes, transformations, and undertakings of new projects along the way. It has ALL been a part of the process.

I realize, titles don't really mean anything in the end anyway, but they CAN be super catchy!

Getting the Sex You Deserve, A Journey to Love or Journey of A Tantra Goddess? I know what you like better, but it's the same story. Tantra for Parents or Tantra for Expansion. Goddess Born or Daughter of A Goddess?

So, I need a MAJOR support system! I may join the Assisting Program with Landmark Education again, and get the support, structure and powerful connections I need. No, they are not Tantric Masters, but the Leaders at Landmark are a SURE fit for a replacement on that! Until I can make my millions and travel elsewhere, I'll take it!

I'm making a stand for having the life of MY dreams; a husband (who can handle me as a Tantric Goddess), to make love at least 3 times a week, a house and a diverse and complete life! No settling for less ANY longer! My son deserves the best, and so do I!

I'm working really hard on this Life/Relationship Coaching training! I am totally ready to do Empowerment Coaching for Women! I may start with Group Coaching, teaching a workshop or doing privates and starting to advertise for this the most! I have my heart set here, Empower those women out there, help them open their hearts (and their yoni's) and take back the juiciness and fun they REALLY want to be having! Stil decding on how I want to be promoting this, but it is at the heart of all the men who come to me with their frustrations, WOMEN need so much love and so much healing, and I am the perfect person for it. It's just a matter of how to reach them! The title I am using for women is Flower of a Woman! Wherever and however this is done, it IS TIME!!!!

Love all,

Asttarte

Another Vote - Polls Please

2011-03-24T23:17:00.001-04:00

Do you like the title www.MyLoverMyBestFriend.com for Relationship coaching, or would you just delete the whole blog and stick with this one, and the main site?

TAKING VOTES - TAKING VOTES

2011-03-24T23:15:00.003-04:00

What do you like better, as is:

My AsttarteDeva.com site or my SacredPathofTantra.com site? I want to eliminate one of them. Which one would you choose?

I can change either of them to AsttarteDeva.com

I could also rebuild the WHOLE thing with Wordpress.org (a much better program), but I totally don't want to do that right now. I need to focus on other things!

Doing This All By Myself

2011-03-23T12:22:00.003-04:00

Ok, back to basics again! I'm writing to you, my fellow intimates, beloveds and peers! I am sure you know by now, I have been doing this thing all alone; no assistant, no coaches, no business guidance, or marketing gurus to help me out in any way whatsoever! I thought I could do it all by myself, and have attempted in so many ways by trial and error to see which approach was best! I realize now, doing this thing alone has made it very unsettled!

I have been contemplating joining a group, so that I can receive the support I really need here, and may, but for now, I am asking your advice!

I have a site, I created, with godaddy that costs about $100 per year. SacredPathofTantra.com I don't even know how many people see this site, or how valuable it is. That would be good to know, and I am considering moving all the information onto my AsttarteDeva.com site and putting everything in one place. On the Asttarte site, I can add as many pages as I like, with no extra cost, and it is extremely reasonable. I created that site too! I've gotten some viewers suggesting to keep only that one, and this blog (and any other means I can express my fluid writings). But eliminating the multiple sites. SacredPathofTantra.com is beautiful so I'm a bit attached to it, but I can let it go, if it is not giving back as much as I'm putting in, and to eliminate the confusion to those who are viewing all these portals. I had started to rebuild the SacredPathofTantra.com site, to save the $100 per year with the same co. as where the AsttarteDeva.com site is, with no extra cost since you get 5 sites for the same price. This is at SacredTantratherapy.moonfruit.com I only created one page as it is time consuming and I have enough to manage. I would either have that one OR AsttarteDeva.com. The templates and design of the layout makes all the difference. If its not much better, I'll just delete the whole thing. I do like the red at the top and the other template with AsttarteDeva.com does not allow you to add extra banners like that, so it's either one or the other. Or I can just continue with my progress and rebuild the SacredPathofTantra.com to SacredTantraTherapy... and delete the one that costs $100/yr.

My goal here is to minimize, break it down to 2 sites, and then have time to write newsletters, update my facebook and twitter, get back to calls and emails and write the books I REALLY want to be doing!!!!

MORE TO COME!!

Getting Real Part II and Recommitting to Life

2011-03-15T13:09:00.004-04:00

Ok guys, so I know how bold, bravely bold I speak in these words and how sensitive some of you are! Please don't think I am talking to all of you, or maybe even any of you who do read this. Yes, there have been many who have tried to seduce me into being your significant partner over the course of these last years, however, I have enough balls, guts and boundaries to keep the limits where they need to be. And, for those of you who we do have a strong compatibility and connection, you know who you are. You don't need to automatically come to the assumption that I'm talking to you when you know the love is there. If it's there, it's there. If it's not, it's not. It's pretty simple and you know who you are, and my heart will forever be with you.

So, please forgive me if I have ever done anything to upset you, take you off guard, make you feel unloved, invisible, awkward, or thrown your hands up. I don't mean to do anything to you. You are all very important beings going through your own process, your own journey, and yes I know you need me sometimes. And, sometimes I need someone too!

During these times after I take a MAJORLY powerful training, or do a therapy session of my own, or go through a MAJOR change in my life, or take on a new Certification Training... I am going through a HUGE process of (what my son's daddy likes to say) recapitulation period! I call it a transition, real transformation, a processing stage or integration phase. It is that period of time after having done something extraordinary, something that blew your mind, something that totally shocked your system into collapse, and a time where you need to put aside everything you were doing and just come back to yourself, rest, slow down, think things through, talk them out and reorganize your life! And, my friends, this is what is happening as we speak!

So, please forgive me for the sudden bolts of expression that may sometimes throw you into a Wow, where did that come from!? Yup, it's all those amazing trainings! And, I say, they are what needs to be done! And, they sometimes open up a can of worms, so its a settling down and letting those heeby jeabies, those slimy thought patterns come down to a place of stillness. A meditation of sorts to realign who you are, and come out to be someone EVER GREATER than before! And someone who came from a background of destruction, chaos, disarray and abuse I know all to well the importance of looking at oneself and doing the work it takes to go down the rabbit hole and climb out a better person! I was never one to take medication, ever, as I know that many who have usually spend their entire lives taking them, and never change much of who they are; unless they have the courage to do some major psychotherapy or transformation work, but few do it to the point of being able to get off the meds. They only "UP" the dosage! In my opinion, that sucks, and I know too many people I LOVE who live that way. I took the challenging path, but the path that actually creates real changes, and thus I took the Forum again! The last time being about my mom, totally forgiving her, letting her into my life and my heart again, where we now have an AMAZING relationship! This time, about my dad, to create order, organization, structure and success in my life - to forgive him for never being there, to no longer be jealous of other women who DO and always have had amazing relationships with their dads - to no longer need to be taken care of, but instead to fully take care of myself! That is a huge intention and as I integrate and see the results, I WILL be a walking miracle, yet one more time! AND, this is why I need to write my story! And, I will! But, I am still doing this work. I will not stop. Now, it is time to create a schedule for my day, my life, and plan so that my life doesn't pass before my eyes, but instead so that "I" truly create a life that "I" want to live!

Right now I am resting, but I am here. If you want to do something relaxing, loving, nurturing and healing, I would love to hear from you!

Don't Be Alarmed

2011-03-14T19:36:00.004-04:00

I'm NOT, by any means, going away!

I will still be here for sessions 3 or 4 days a week.

I will add Group Coaching slots as soon as I am ready.

I will be working on writing my books from now on, totally committed and would love your support to keep going! I will be writing a book by Asttarte, and 2 by my real name.

I am adding some order into my life, organization, structure - - the reason I took the Forum again, and forgiving my dad is the biggest blessing I could have. And, there may be layers, but accepting he was never in my life to now wanting him in my life and letting him in IS HUGE!

I love you guys! I always will!

10 Famous Female Cheaters

2011-02-25T19:10:00.000-05:00

10 Famous Female Cheaters

Girls need some love action just as much as guys! And when your man is giving you problems and not supporting you the way you want, sometimes the girls just have to take care of themself too! It's only natural!

Daphne & Fred - My Best friend's hot

2011-02-24T19:46:00.002-05:00

What's a girl gotta do to get a guys attention?

I LOVE this video! It reminds me of me in all my pursuits of a hot guy that is completely not interested in sex. What's a girl gotta do to get the guy she loves to notice and take some action? This video completely fits the plot! You can only wait around so long, right girls! Maybe putting your attention on someone else will make him notice, and then again, maybe NOT! :-) Just thought I'd share with you.

Sexy Wish Lists and Erotic Photos

2011-02-11T20:48:00.003-05:00

Going to Victoria's Secret, is a deep reminder, of how I LOVE to be sexy, dress sexy, live sexy and LOVE sexy!

I added my own wish list, just for fun, and perhaps to get a couple things at a time. It's great how they let you do that! If anyone wants to surprise me when arriving to see me, check this out! Or, perhaps you want to get something for the one you love!

http://www.victoriassecret.com/commerce/wishlist/viewRecipWishlist.jsf?paramKey=4263de26c337f743f22e97d2115b24

Does anyone else like this as much as I do?

http://www.victoriassecret.com/panties/most-loved-panties

Enticing, Sexy, Perfect Curves, Beautiful...

From a Goddess to a Goddess!

Dangerous Beauty - Videos to Shock your wives!

2011-02-10T22:34:00.003-05:00

I LOVE this, LOVE this!!!

Only the MOST powerful of women could stand for their truth to those who are afraid of loving at such an intensity. If only all humankind could love so openly and live to tell their loved ones and others as freely as this.

Only SHE knows how they are all doing, and all the wives want to be her! Vindictive Jealousy strikes them! Her gentle love over powers all!

A VERY Sexy Posting - Movie

2011-02-10T18:23:00.003-05:00

Check this out!!!!

Absolutely gorgeous and simply awesome!

http://blog.cia.edu/cinematheque/?p=1037

See the trailer here:

Women Who Love Too Much

2011-02-10T17:21:00.005-05:00

...When you Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change.
A book by: Robin Norwood.

To all those women who are addicted to love, to loving or can't quite seem to break free of someone who won't really love them back.

Like in the movie/book: He's Just Not That Into You:

If he's not calling you
If he's not taking you to meet his parents
If he's not buying you flowers
If he's not having sex with you
If he's not taking your calls
If he's consistently more interested in work, other friends, anything but you...
If he always has an excuse...
If he's not buying you presents...
If he's not taking you out to (dinner, movies, etc).
Etcetera, Etcetera, Etcetera...

Check out the contents of this girls (and guys who care or fit perfectly in this role):
1. Loving the Man Who Doesn't Love Back
2. Good Sex in Bad Relationships (Bad Sex in Good Relationships fits here too!)
3. If I suffer for You, Will You Love Me?
4. The Need to Be Needed
5. Shall We Dance?
6. Men Who Choose Women Who Love Too Much
7. Beauty and the Beast
8. When One Addiction Feeds Another
9. Dying for Love
10. The Road to Recovery
11. Recovery and Intimacy: Closing the Gap

It's not easy leaving a pattern like this, especially for those of us who have children. However, when you're doing all the work, all the leading, all the initiating and making things work, it may be up to you to also be the one to walk away. You can spend your entire life forgiving and accepting and compromising to make things work, but when you have to compromise your self and what matters to you, you may be in for a sentence that will never change. It's much easier to be polyamorous (to have other affairs) than to walk away cold turkey, especially when the heart is involved!

Tantric Therapy: Traditional Therapy Vs. Tantric Therapy – Part 2 ...

2011-02-10T15:32:00.000-05:00

Tantric Therapy: Traditional Therapy Vs. Tantric Therapy – Part 2 ...: "This is a follow-up to a post I made on Traditional Therapy vs. Tantric Therapy. Is traditional psychotherapy, couples or family therapy eff..."

The Heart of Asttarte: A Self Portrait

2011-02-08T15:14:00.004-05:00

I suppose you all know by now, I have a lot of creative energy. And, if you don't, I do!

I've spent the past several years embarking on new projects, new ideas, new directions and mostly in the form of building new and wondrous websites! Now building websites is not my business, but in the business of working for yourself, it is important to have a website that you can update on your own, add, edit and delete as you desire! However, I realize it can be cumbersome to have multiple websites to manage and update regularly. And, it has gotten to the point where several or many of you get confused as to what information is what or are unclear of the work that "I" actually offer! Well, to answer that question, YES, I offer all of it. However, I am stating here to be humble and fes up that I have gone overboard and I realize now that my focus needs to and will change!

When my son was born I started painting. I was really passionate about it, but stopped when he turned 8 months due to the rolling around and knocking things all over, and then as he got older walking and touching everything and throwing it on the floor; not what a new artist wants when her drawings or paintings are so precious to her.

Before he was in the picture, I was a regular singer. I sang in kirtans, went to bhajan practice, practiced singing at the Amma Satsang, went to her live and sang, sang in the Commonground Fellowship Spiritual Community and was getting ready to sing solo pieces, and sometimes sang at the Center of Peace Interfaith Community. I had bought myself a harmonium and had several friends who dove into starting bands with less experience than myself. I wanted to do something since I was little with singing. And then, my child arrived! Recently I spoke to Rhetta and she told me she was leaving Commonground as the Music Director and suggested highly I get over there to sing before she was gone! However, it's on Tuesday nights and I have my son. I can't go. I try singing with my son around, but he's going through a stage of being extra bossy and often jumps on me or yells at me to be quiet. He's like a tiny little football player with a lot of zest and demands of a coach! I have promised myself I will do something with this again, but I don't know when. A sweet friend of mine who is a professional musician has been coming over again lately, and he might teach me to play the guitar and practice singing with me solo so I can exercise my vocal muscles again. For this I am grateful, but I don't know how often or how much I'll be able to commit to it.

I used to dance every weekend. I have several girlfriends who are Professional Dancers, Dance Therapists and Movement Arts Therapists. I've often thought about going back to school for Creative Arts Therapy to combine all the arts, but I don't know. I take latin, bellydance, african dance and dance with friends when I can, but my time is limited!

I lean on writing and the creativity I can create on the computer, graphics, web design, blog posting and articles! This IS something I can do with a toddler! But, I realize now I must get organized with it all.

I'm eliminating several websites now, merging them into AsttarteDeva.com, will be rebuilding SacredPathofTantra.com and putting it into a format that has more than 10 pages, more flexibility and less costly! I would love feedback on this site and if you all like this name. I also think SacredTantraTherapy.com is relevant, but don't want to change it if you like the way it is!

So, I'll be keeping this blog, AsttarteDeva.com and SacredPathofTantra.com. And the Relationship, Intimacy & Life Coaching blog. I'm taking a poll for this as well. Do you all like the name it is MyLoverMyBestFriend.com or do you like the name YourRelationshipYourLife.com? I had built both at a time, but eliminated the other, as I'm focusing on Asttarte as the Relationship & Intimacy Coach.

So, the bottom line, when I'm not having sex, or getting my daily sexual & sensual needs met, putting my high creative energy back into the proper creative passions and doing it in an organized, consistent and professional way, is my next direction! And, I hope for your sake, you can finally see all of who I am!

Love to you,

Asttarte

For the Guys - Your Prostate is your Vitality!

2011-02-07T19:51:00.004-05:00

To all those guys who have come to me for prostate issues, frequent urinary issues and inflammation of the bladder or prostate, this one is for you!

I was walking through the Health Food Store tonight and turned my head towards the shelf that had this tiny little bottle just staring at me with tantalizing eyes! I had been passing by this bottle for eons and decided to ask the knowledgeable nutrition clerk for some answers!

To my discovery, Nettle is a potent ancient herb for medicinal usage, for hay fever, allergies and to reduce inflammation of the prostate.

CHECK THIS OUT!!!!

"Nettle is known for its ability to relieve symptoms of benign prostatic hypertrophy (BPH), a condition in which the prostate becomes enlarged and causes men to develop problems with urination. Nettle helps men to urinate more successfully during the day, and thus helps eliminate another annoying symptom of BPH—frequent nighttime urination. Nettle keeps the body from converting testosterone into 5-alpha-reductase, an enzyme that causes the prostate gland to begin growing again in middle age. Taking nettle in combination with either pygeum bark extract or saw palmetto may be to be at least as effective against BPH as the prescription drug finasteride. Commission E also approves the use of nettle to treat BPH." ( source: http://www.vitaminstuff.com/herbs-nettle.html)

ALSO SEE THESE:
http://www.prostate-massage-and-health.com/Stinging-Nettle.html

http://www.botanical.com/botanical/mgmh/n/nettle03.html

You can also try eating lots of tomatoes! This is also known for reducing inflammation of the prostate as well!

I also give a nice prostate massage to your Tantra Session, as requested! A prostate Massage is good for Healing AND for pleasure!

To your prostate health, and your vitality!

Love, Asttarte

How to Use Nettle to Treat Allergies | eHow.com

2011-02-07T19:50:00.000-05:00

How to Use Nettle to Treat Allergies | eHow.com

Wow check this out!

How Girls Can Keep Your Yoni (Vagina) Smelling Sweet; and not fishy (and guys who want to help)!

2011-01-19T16:07:00.006-05:00

Every woman knows that there is a certain odor that your body releases from time to time. Sometimes your body releases a powerful smell after having a passionate lovemaking session, and sometimes the lovemaking stops before it starts because the odor is so strong.

Men like their women smelling sweet and yummy; like a flower and not like they're walking through the fish market. It's a guys worst turn off when you get really close with each other and then just as he starts getting excited, a wave of air rushes over his body, and he gags in disgust, and instead of being honest and telling you he can't stand the smell, he gets limp and decides to leave the room without giving much of a reason or warning. He swallows his heart and slowly; with caution, leaves the situation.

"Hunny, I have a headache". Or, "Hunny, my stomach really hurts. I don't feel well" etc.

But girls, I'm telling you, you are in complete control of this situation. You can make him crave you, or be repulsed by you; it's your choice, but if you want to know how to make him want you every time you get close, do everything you can to make your body smell sweet and tasty.

Drink LOTS of water!
Go on a green binge, and eat lots of veggies!
Go on a raw food quest.
Eat sweets, dairy and sugar in moderation. The vagina takes in yeast products like a sponge. If you eat anything that will develop candida, your body will smell like a fish store, so do it in moderation.
Cleanse the candida as a regular habit; take acidophilus and eat more veggies!
Eat apples, bananas, oranges; any fruit will do, but stop when your body tells you to; they have sugar in them too!
Don't eat too much pineapple or mango. They have the most sugar of any fruit.
Drink Chamomile tea!
Go on a detox regularly.
Drink more water!
Go to the health food store or book store and buy a book on candida cleanses, yeast free products, or eating yeast free! All women need this!
When all is said and done, go please your man!
Use Feminine Deodorant spray's and wipes as a last resort; but don't rely on them.
Use essential oils for healing candida, and drink more water!
Just breathe; it will go away. It's all temporary. The body is made of 70% water, so if you just wait a couple days it will soon pass.
Another thing for guys - if you're horny and you've had this issue for a while, get a nice hot bowl of bubble or pure aromatherapy water. Lay your woman down and rub her with the warm wash cloth. It will turn her on and make you happy too!

Guys, pass this on to your girls!

Love,

Asttarte

More later....

Women in Their Sexual Prime - Very Adult Posting

2011-01-18T11:03:00.007-05:00

There comes a time in a man's life when they reach their sexual peak, and there comes a time in a woman's life when they've reached their sexual prime.

It has now been 2 years since I've healed completely from the rape, since post partum, have completed my relationship with my mom and we're close for the first time in my life (since I was 4) and am now doing Power Yoga classes again and getting back into shape and I'm only 2 MONTHS away from my 37th Birthday; the year women begin their cycle of explosive sexuality and passion. Given this is who I already was before, now it has reached a new height.

I feel like I did in my early twenties, when I had to masturbate or have sex practically every day to feel content. I was an extremely sexually promiscuous girl in my teens and twenties, and now, in my prime, that energy reaches new heights and with a lot more consciousness and wisdom.

I have this amazing purple vibrator I had gotten in my Passion Parties Business Kit a couple years ago. When I had decided to put the business on hold I gave most of the products away to friends, but kept that one to myself.

It is better than the famous pink Rabbit. It doesn't have beads that spin around in one place, but the entire shaft rotates around in small circles; like a stick shift that goes up and down with gears, it moves in a circular direction massaging every wall inside the yoni (the front, back and sides) and it has an additional mini vibrator that sticks out just for massaging the clitoris and the lips. Every girl needs this thing! Until I find a new friend to play with on a regular basis, this will have to do.

Seriously, I've never had this much energy in my life; not that I remember. I'm going to have to commit to dancing Friday nights (except when I have a meetup or date, getting back into athletics, my purple friend and pray for a Daka Lover, or Dakini; NO, not just anyone will do. Perhaps I could write a sex column, like Carrie in Sex in The City, or be like Samantha again and go wild, or perhaps I could start a Group Coaching Monthly Phone Session for Men & Women Sexually Repressed, and coach them to SEXUAL FREEDOM! Maybe I need to pray, more meditation, paint, sing, more writing, maybe I need a miracle, maybe Bellydancing again; maybe something else!

Love,
me!

PS. For more posts on Sex Toys, go to: http://sensualyogaerotica.blogspot.com

A Little About Me & Some Thoughts

2011-01-17T17:56:00.003-05:00

I'm a total Sandra Bullock fan! She's a Leo with a moon in Taurus. Totally hysterical!
I also love Jennifer Aniston, Sex and the City, Diane Keaton, Bette Midler, Kate Hudson, Ryan Reynolds, Ben Stiller, Ben Affleck, Hugh Grant, Patrick Dempsey, Colin Firth, Renee Zellweger, Adam Sandler, Reese Witherspoon, Isla Fisher, John Cusack, Meet the Fockers, any movie on magic and anything funny (I mean REALLY funny ~ No dark humor please).
I love Sci-Fi, Humor, Romance, Adventure and loads of kids movies! (Yes, my son and I do have a blast together!)
I can't really stand living in Philadelphia, but I've been here forever (I'd much rather be in NY or somewhere else). Although, I'm very close with my family and I'm lucky to have them.
It really irks me when clients schedule and then casually cancel. I'm not rich and I often have very little money in my pocket doing this work, so do me a favor and DON'T cancel! I don't request a deposit but someday I might, so please follow through on what you say. I can understand that it probably upsets others that I don't check my voicemail religiously and those of you that are waiting I'm sorry. I suppose I deserve that.
I love being a mom AND I can't stand it!
If it wasn't for spending the past 15 years healing my childhood, and having been raped and all that (which I have COMPLETELY healed by the way), I'd be pursuing my childhood dream of being an actress instead of this, but perhaps someday I can be both!
I have 3 brothers that I love and am very close to and I sometimes have to tone down what I promote online to make them happy (as well as some other family members). I try to keep everyone happy, but it isn't always easy.
I, on the other hand, would prefer having sex every day and 2 to 3 times a week I would be very content.
I'm not shocked by much. I've heard it all.
Whoever anonymous person that sent me those Sexual Addict books, Thanks! I'm not a sexual addict. I've been patiently waiting for a boyfriend to be sexually open for 5 years (I'm retiring from that job - but I'll still keep an open heart - yes it's usually the guy waiting for the girl). However, it's a great reference book for clients or those who need it.
I love sexy and gorgeous girls (as much as I love sexy and gorgeous men).
The funnier the better!
Yes, I do love to write, but I also love to sing, dance, make art and be outdoors!
I love REALLY great vibrators!
I prefer to be with groups of people, but I'm often alone.
I love doing these sessions, but only when people want them.
If you have a question, ask me!
I love all people; even those that sometimes drive me nuts!
I love learning and I will probably always take new classes, except when I'm teaching.
Sex is really important to me, and so are a lot of other things.
I believe in miracles!
I love seeing children laugh. And, I can't stand seeing rage-ful parents with kids!
I love it when you are willing to cry. It shows me you are strong.
Anything is possible if you believe!
Love is always there underneath any feeling, even if you can't see it and think it doesn't exist.
Most people are more afraid of showing love than fear.
I have a positive outlook on life and believe in the good of mankind.
I'd rather watch happy news than all the negative. Although, it's sometimes important to talk about negative things that are going on in the world, don't dwell on it! You've lost my interest if you do.
I believe any relationship troubles can be resolved, but only if BOTH people are willing to work through them.
Everyone deserves to have great sex. And no sex is sometimes better than bad sex.
The myth that women who have had babies need large dicks, is, for the most part...pretty true!
If you're not going to have sex with me, you can at least use your hands and tongue.
Guys like women to seduce them, but women love the same thing.
Don't give up before you get started.
Wounded women or going through PMS need sex MORE often; not less. They're lying to you if they say different.
If a woman's giving you the cold shoulder and not talking to you, just seduce her. It will pretty much resolve everything.
Women who are mom's do need a girls night out, but more importantly, they need a babysitter to take the kids, and for YOU to take control of their bodies; not for minutes; but for HOURS!!!!
I love going out to eat at good restaurants and I love to party; when I can find the right crowd (that's what Tantra Communities are for)!
Sex with 3 or 4 people is definitely more exciting than 1.
I used to work at a Gentleman's Club and loved it!
I thought about being a porn star, but it was ALWAYS just a thought.
Most people are sexually repressed, and have one area or another of Sexual Wounding to heal, but most people think that they don't need to heal, when in fact you can ALWAYS expand yourself to another level, and it gets to the point of being VERY fun!
I'd rather be honest than keep everything inside. The more honest you can be, the more in touch with your power you are, and the more passionate you become.
Life is meant to be fun, but sometimes it takes a little work!
Everyone is precious and deserves a chance!
Sex can heal anything, and Tantra practices that is.

Merry Christmas Greetings!!!

2010-12-22T11:41:00.002-05:00

Hello Blessed friends, peers and perhaps those I haven't see for a while or
never before! I want to wish you all a special Holiday Season, and hope your Season is bright, joyous and sensual like never before!

Don't forget to take time to be with your hunny(s), and give them extra special love and attention! Don't let their hearts or their drawers be forgotten. If you do, you might be paying for it later!

This is the time we all want to be adored, pampered, loved, nurtured and caressed in those sometimes forgotten places. When the times are busy, and you're rushing to get your work done, your home clean, your family happy, your shopping and making sure you and your family are well fed, don't forget to also feed your soul with some down to earth good core pampering and intimate sexual moments! It's the biggest turn on when you can forget about all those things, put them on hold and find a way to dive in deep with your hunny! He or she, will thank you for it later, and even give you a surprise of your own!

My wish for all is that they are deeply loved, caressed like NEVER before, and given the biggest orgasm of their lives! Now, is the time to make special memories with those you love, and especially your most sexual and intimate partner(s). Maybe even make a proposal, celebrate together or take an extra honeymoon! Everyone deserves to be loved! Why not do it during a time that everyone else in the world is celebrating too!

Much Much Love to all of you!

Merry Christmas And happy orgasms to all!

Edited - All Things Business - Tantra & Coaching!

2010-12-21T20:19:00.000-05:00

Hello folks,

I know you might be waiting for that BIG thing I keep talking about! Well, it is coming VERY soon! I must say! I am coming near the end of my Professional Coaching Certification Training, and my focus is getting narrower and narrower! I'm starting to see the light, and yes it is very exciting!

Very specifically, it is most definitely dealing with people and their relationships; as this is something many have come to me for in the past, with minimal results, and I am passionate about others having results much more than minimal and much more than a temporary healing or an escape from their own life, but rather true and lasting results that last a lifetime!

I believe my work to be extremely powerful, effective and healing, however, when one does not do their own inner work, nor has someone to be accountable for their personal journey of healing, rarely does lasting results occur. It takes a rare individual who truly wants healing on their own, but when they have others who can stand for them and say, "have you done your homework today? Did you do you breathing practices, your meditation, your yoga, do your emotional release work, etc?" This is when they can achieve deeper results. Now, as my training in coaching develops, I will have more skills I can utilize in my Tantra Therapy Sessions, my Spiritual Healing Sessions and my work at large.

The bigger picture is this:
I will be launching an official business soon as Center for Intimacy & Life Enhancement, LLC. and this Blog, Awaken To Living is a branch off of this. Along with Sacred Path of Tantra, Dance With Bliss, Soul Heart Body, Soul Healings, Hugging Power and Temple of Love. My portal home page for Center for Intimacy & Life Enhancement is www.AsttarteDeva.com or www.SexSpiritLife.com. This takes you to all my other places!

My Professional Relationship, Intimacy & Life Coaching Blog is:
My Lover My Best Friend, "Turning a fine relationship into something A-MAZ-ING! ~ And filling the rest of your life with joy, so your relationships can benefit!" Asttarte
www.MyLoverMyBestFriend.com Please let me know what layout or style you like better: mylovermybestfriend.blogspot.com, or mylovermybestfriend.wordpress.com You are my GREATEST feedback!

Enhancing Intimacy in the bedroom by transforming how you’re being in your most significant relationship.

Letting Go of past loves, Bereavement Coaching, other aspects are Parenting & Family Coaching, Spiritual Coaching, Relationship and Life Coaching! See http://mylovermybestfriend.com/whole-life-coaching/ and http://mylovermybestfriend.com/relationship-professional-coaching/

Sometimes, the most significant reason why our sex life is suffering is not because of the relationship in front of you, but the relationship inside yourself!

I have also launched a Whole Life Coaching Business. Family, Spiritual, Life & Relationship Coaching with Transformation Coaching Center. I will be getting Certified as a Mentor Master Coach, an NLP Coach and a Whole Life Coach. The focus here is on Family, Parenting, Spiritual, Life & Relationship Coaching. This will be more related to transformation and healing your inner self; your relationship with your beloved, yet really the solution being your relationship with your parents. This will be a completely separate business and you cannot find it through this site. If you want more information on this, please send me a separate email or call me!

Please Know: Professional Coaching Sessions are not the same as my Tantra & Intimacy Therapy Sessions. They are for the most part talk or inner journey Sessions over the phone or in person. They are the closest to traditional Psychotherapy, then anything else!

The next bigger is launching my career as an author, the beginnings of many books is coming in the year 2011, and a Healing School, for your education and creating a structure to your learning and your healing on this journey!

Feel free to see the beginnings of my full Profile and About Me Site!

Many Many Blessings,

~Asttarte

Intentional Community & Temple of Love Meetups

2010-11-30T12:58:00.005-05:00

Our last meetup group was scheduled and although I did not have babysitting set up, I chose to offer to those who wanted to join the Temple of Love Meetup, to go ahead and do so. I put it out as an offer, and 2 brave individuals agreed to join us!

I lead a Yin Yoga Class, we played music, sang, got didgeridoo healing, and received an awesome full body massage from one of the participants, and my vibrant little guy got to join in with us. He loved the full body massage and attempted to do some Yoga with us too. And, amazingly he stayed still long enough to receive the didgeridoo treatment! We all had fun, ate delicious fruit and were delighted by love, play and laughter!

It brought to my attention the old desire of raising my son in an Intentional Community, with others of like mind, Spiritual Seekers, Healer, Practitioners, those on a Conscious Path and those who continuously practice more of a Buddhist mind of loving kindness, patience, acceptance, surrender, trust, truth and allowing! It has always been a desire to raise my son in a Community where he can learn love, be received by a group community of acceptance and encouragement for him to be his true self and to learn and grow in an environment that is more supportive of him and be part of a Family of true Seekers and Spiritual Aspirants!

I came to notice that having him be a part of the Meetup Group focused on love is a tiny version of what a large Intentional Community would be! I am grateful I surrendered and allowed him to be a part of this gathering, and humbled that it worked out better than I imagined! I want to thank you to those who did come and gave graciously to my child, just loved and adored him and helped him feel welcomed and were willing to surrender to his wild side and just let him be fully expressed and free!

It is exceptionally great that my son gets to grow up with a father who is a Shaman, a Reiki Master, Interfaith Minister, Energetic Alignment Healer and continually seeking the truth. And, a mother who is a Goddess, a Transformational Healer, Tantric Shaman, Tantra & Intimacy Therapist, Reiki Master, Interfaith Minister, Energy Healer, Life Coach, Massage Practitioner, etc. but it is even better that we can spread this beauty out and have others join us in our passions and be the vessel to this little being in the world!

The next gathering is a Hugging Power Class and this time we will certainly be alone and given an opportunity to be filled with peace, love and joy!

Love to all of you!

Asttarte

When You're In The Mood and Your Hunny Isn't

2010-11-23T15:58:00.005-05:00

Upon waking this morning, I was horny as a banshee. I looked over at my hunny and he was simply out cold! I was up and ready to go. Our son was sleeping in the bed beside us. Since we have a toddler, we often sneak out of the bedroom before he wakes and slip into another room to have a rendezvous in the morning, or a late hour snack. I tried comforting him to waking, but he still would not move. I cuddled him, carressed him, moved my body into his, leaned into his shoulder and put my face on his shoulder, breathing and making deep sounds... letting him know in my own way I was fully alert, awake and ready for some love making! My hips were rocking, I was breathing heavy and I tried taking his hand to lift him and walk him into the other room, but he did not budge.

What do you do when you're excited to connect to your loved one and they are either not interested, not horny or are just completely exhausted?

In the past I would massage him and caress him for about a half an hour to wake him up and eventually he would, but this time, we were running out of time and doing all my tactics of convincing and seducing for a half an hour was not an option. And then, I went to set up the other space and when I came back he was cuddled up nicely next to our son and solid as a rock in this next place. Within a few minutes our son woke up, and that opportunity was lost.

I started grunting, and still wanted to escape to the other room; letting our son be alone for 5 to 10 minutes. It didn't happen.

So, instead I decide to shift all that creative energy to getting ready in the morning, getting my son's schoolbox ready and to make myself available for clients later. Thanksgiving is this week and we agreed we would sleep together Thanksgiving night and I would sacrifice a portion of my Friday morning to be with him, with the intention to sneak again somewhere we could be alone for a few minutes. Our schedules are conflicted with time to be alone, and with his new job, my role as a mother, and our son either being in school or with one of us, being alone isn't always easy. So, I take advantage of those few opportunity's we do have, and trust that eventually we will take another date night alone, and make some time for a couple hours of a rendezvous for ourselves!

The best way to deal with these kinds of situations is to 1). come from a place of non-attachment, 2) do not judge, 3). speak words of kindness, 4). accept your partners needs, wants and their concerns as well, 5). make a new promise or agreement for the future, and 6). take care of yourself today in the best way for you!

In the meantime, I take to my favorite purple toy, seduce him every moment I can; even if only a tease, and take on clients that LOVE my loving sexual energy! And, of course, the writing I love to do!

Just a little story of my personal journey on being Sexy, Horny and patiently waiting!

Asttarte

How Sessions Happen - What They Look Like

2010-11-13T16:48:00.001-05:00

How Sessions Happen was written out of many who don't know what sessions look like, are unsure, confused or nervous!

Any Session can be created as desired!

When we being the Healing & Sacred Ceremony part of the Session, it be:
Coaching, Healing, Therapy, Counseling or Teaching!

We can stay on the coach, move to the massage table or the floor bedding mat!

http://www.sacredpathoftantra.com/How_Sessions_Happen.html

Namaste!

Changes to My Site!!! And, then some...

2010-11-11T15:06:00.005-05:00

A little tweaking sometimes makes a big difference!!!

Change is good! It keeps the mind fresh, alive and alert!

I changed my Yoga, Classes, Temple page on my Tantra Site to Boundaries & Intimacy. For those of you who have significant others and don't want to do Sessions out of fear that you might be doing something wrong, here are some answers for you! Go to www.SacredPathofTantra.com and click on the page Boundaries & Intimacy!

Also, to those of you who would love to create deeper intimacy with your Beloveds, your Self or in Session, you can see that there as well!

I added my old writing on Sessions Based on Love to the Sexual Healing page here...
That page will have some additions soon.

The old page is still where it was before. You can find out more about the Hugging Power Classes at www.HuggingPower.com and www.TempleOfLove.info. And, I moved my dear Goddess friends to the bottom of this blog!

Thank you to all of you who gave me positive feedback on the last post. I'm still excited and wish I could share this love with more of you more often. Perhaps that is why I am writing so much, will definitely be on the journey to writing and publishing full books soon, am adding the Coaching piece to my work and considering what it would look like to start a Healing School.

Love, Love, Love...
Bliss, Bliss, Bliss...
Peace, Peace, Peace...
Celebration, Transformation, Glory and Surrender to what may come!

Namaste****
A Ho!
Om Sah
Blessed Be~~~
Blessings to All...
With Love,
Goddess Asttarte

New New New - All things New

2010-11-10T15:54:00.002-05:00

Hey everyone,

It's so great to be back here and talking to you! Things are SUPER exciting; on the rise and watch out as things continue to progress!

All things new:

Sessions broken down in completely distinct elements - -

Sessions now available for all levels, short sessions all the way to all day Healing Sessions:
See http://www.sacredpathoftantra.com/Healing_Sessions.html and scroll down to Fees Broken Down!

Possible new baby kitten - don't worry I've learned from my mistakes. This will be the one and only until my family moves to a house/condo or townhome. I will keep him in a separate room so our sessions are not disturbed. And if you want to play with him, he is all black with green eyes. A sure magic cat that is a virgo - my prayers for organization, order, structure, balance, and cleanliness have finally been answered and surprisingly from the gift of this little being! For those of you who may have allergies, we'll have to discuss other possible options, locations, or I will be sure to have an air purifier to keep the air fresh and clean!

NEW and exciting, I am NOW offering pro-bono Coaching Sessions for your Life, your Relationship and any area of your life that matters to you most! My target is on getting your relationships back to that juicy place they were in the past, and perhaps to a place your relationship has not yet experienced; to make that love life of yours surely divine! These Sessions are conducted over the phone or in person. See MyLoverMyBestFriend.com for more information. Remember, these Sessions are completely distinct from my one-on-one hands on Healing Sessions. Healing and Coaching and separate, offered at different times, and if appropriate we can schedule Healing out of Coaching, or Coaching out of Healing.

Potential new King Size Bed - I am super excited to have my Family Bed be something that is nourishing, comfortable and relaxing!

Resorting my entire home and discovering that an Assistant may definitely be in order, and the process of writing and publishing will be beginning in 2011~

New photos coming soon!!!! My Beloved photo friend and I WILL be getting together VERY soon!

I am available this Thursday and Friday and looking for Sessions! My love, presence and Healing is at another level of development. I've taken on a new Reiki Training class and my healing gifts are developing to another level of clarity, intuition and peacefulness! Feel free to reach out to me. 610-801-2822

Love to you all,

Asttarte

A Tantrica's Yoga Practice & being a Sexual Advocate Out in The World

2010-10-23T12:00:00.007-04:00

There is a fine distinction between being the role of student and the role of teacher, however, sometimes things happen and you can't but be your true self!

I went to an Anusara Yoga class this morning, as a student, and being the fully expressed breather that I am, I came to find that it triggered some people and "disrupted" them in the class.

I did the normal practice that everyone does. I followed the instructions on each and every pose, and very shortly after class started, my breath started to expand to its full capacity. It doesn't take long for an avid Tantrica and advocate to start moaning and groaning to practically anything that feels good in the body. I being the case, I started to breathe heavily, being so fully present and joyous to what I was experiencing I didn't notice anything going on around me.

After about an hour, when I started giggling and taking deep sighs and layed there in half straddle after a back bend pose, the assistant teacher came over to me. She guided me to move my feet closer together to go back up in the back bend, and I really wasn't paying any attention at all to the seriousness of her or the rhythm of the rest of the class. I went out of focus and came to that euphoric place of bliss and just stayed still smiling. She looked at me again, "just move your feet closer together...a little closer." I said okay, taking a momentous breath and pushed myself back up in the back bend.

After a few minutes, I contemplated having a conversation with the teacher on asking her to "let the class know before you start that there is a Sex & Bliss Coach and Tantra Teacher visitor with us today, so if you hear extra sounds of breathing that is the reason." Instead, she told me that she had heard from quite a few people that my breathing was disrupting the others from experiencing their own breath and being in their own body. She asked me if I could, as a teacher, take the higher road and hold back my breathing to its capacity and just breathe in a normal rhythm. I felt that this would be suppressing to my own joy and I get a lot of joy out of doing a normal yoga class; perhaps much more than the average yogi.

I thought for a moment and said, "well, I could perhaps breathe out of my nose instead of out of my mouth." She said, "when you are the teacher, you can teach any way you want, but when you are wearing the students hat, I'd prefer you do your deep breathing practice at home and control your breath when you are here."

I said, "you're awesome, and I wouldn't want to not come to your class." She said, YOU'RE awesome and it was really thoughtful of you to come up to talk to me about this. And, ya know when I'm at home in my own practice, I let myself go there, but around others its different. Just think about it. It's something to meditate on."

It is something for me to think about, however, I would in no way choose to suppress my breath; especially when it comes naturally. Doing Yoga is a practice that naturally opens the breath, and if other people are not as expanded in their own bodies I cannot control that. However, what I can do is teach others how to expand themselves so they can have the full body experience that I have. So what I am taking out of this experience is perhaps, that yes, I am truly meant to start teaching Yoga Classes in a Tantric tone, and find avenues to do this, I have a gift to help women feel more comfortable in their bodies, I definitely need to go to another studio that is more liberal, and seeking for other alternatives of sharing myself and having a yoga practice is key. It sure is much more fun to do yoga with other people, but not if you have to change your identity in the process.

I totally love this teacher and love Anusara Yoga. So, I will try that nose breathing as a compromise next time, and if I still am disruptive, I suppose I'll seek yoga elsewhere! As a Tantrica, when you nose breathe and you are connected to your sexual kundalini energy and breath, even the nose breathing isn't so quiet! The humming and vibrational tone that comes from the throat can be just as loud, and I will consider other options.

Everything IS a choice. When it comes to choosing between feeling orgasmic or suppressed, and you have a choice, as a Tantrica I'll make the moans. It's much more fun, and as a Practitioner and Teacher, sometimes being self-less is the better option, AND the moaning can also be the teaching. It all depends on the audience.

I'll keep you posted!

Keep on being your true self. If you don't no one will know what you have to share with the world!

With Love,
Asttarte

The most liberal yoga studio I know of in all of Philadelphia is Studio 34. When it comes time for me to teach my classes, this is the 1st place I will go.
www.studio34yoga.com
Namaste!~~~~

Erectile Dysfunction - A Common Phenomenon

2010-10-15T11:08:00.008-04:00

After about a dozen phone calls of people seeking help with their personal erectile dysfunction issues, I thought it was time to do something about this, and write to you.

Many men go through a stage in their life that takes them off of their normal routine of a healthy sex life, and often it comes as a shock to them; not knowing how to turn things around, and sometimes go back to the way it was just the day before. And, after many months of feeling frustrated, mostly from their partner wanting them to be able to be fully erect and feel the full sensation they had before, they start looking for answers.

First off, I want to say, ladies, please have patience for your honey's. Sometimes they don't know the source of this and they really do need help. It is important that they know YOU love them, accept them, and can be fully supportive of what they are dealing with. #1 this is utmost of importance. It will help them feel nurtured, cared for, and in the end get to the other side of this condition.

Second, guys, it will take a lot of compassion on your part to let your women go through what they are going through given they were always used to things being a certain way, and now they need to adjust to the changes and learn within themselves how to accept your situation, and eventually support you to heal it. If this core foundation doesn't happen, this is where a lot of relationships start going under and can, without warning, walk a path of termination. This is not what I would want for you, however, some people can only handle so much disappointment. The good news is, is that there are answers and this CAN, I am telling you, be cured. It will take DEEP soul searching on your part, a determination to heal your inner self and take charge of the problem. Going to the route of viagra or other drugs is NOT the solution. It will only lead to other health problems later, but I can't make that decision for you. You have to.

So guys, soul searching IS the answer. It's not the fastest solution, and it's not an easy one, but it is the most powerful solution. And, with Tantra and other Spiritual Healing practices, you can find yourself getting closer to your old healthy body again, and sometimes, EVEN HEALTHIER!

Sometimes the issue stems from one or more of these things:
Your Health
Stress
Past Traumas

Often when you have a health concern, this can cause stress. Often when you have stress it can be created in many ways; work, your closest relationships, family and on many occasions Past Traumas that you never even knew were traumas, but your body took them in and integrated them into a part of you, and now it has caught up with you. The most noble thing you can do would be to allow yourself to be vulnerable, surrender to what your body is telling you, and go deep within. Not every modality out there will help you. Just like food; some people like chocolate, some like vanilla and some like strawberry. We all have different likes and dislikes and our bodies respond to different modalities in different ways. The best thing to do is experiment. However, now that you are here reading this, I would like to say that practicing tantra, spiritual healing, doing emotional release practices and strengthening your sexual muscles will help. However, with a little guidance, a little push and a little practice.

Some other modalities I recommend are (I offer most of these btw):
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)
NET (Neuro Emotional Technique) (I have a great referral here)
Matrix (Matrix Work - Core Energetics)
Re-Alignments
IET (Integrated Energy Therapy)
Psychotherapy
Breathwork
Tantra
Caring for your health and eating proper foods
Yoga
Acupuncture (I know of a couple really great clinics around Phiadelphia that cost $20 to $35)
Getting Massages
and more!

Some other expert practitioners I highly recommend and can also work with you over the phone:
Baba Dez Nichols www.babadez.com
David Cates www.dakacoach.com
Lawrence Lanoff www.lawrencelanoff.com
Amrita Grace www.amritagrace.com
Carla Tara www.carlatara.com
Goddess Ambika www.goddessambika.com
Tracy Elise http://www.sedonatemple.com/practitioners.php#tracy
(If you call any of these individuals, tell them I said hi!)

Some reading material: http://en.allexperts.com/q/Spiritual-Healing-3882/2009/12/Erectile-dysfunction-1.htm
http://healing.about.com/od/ritalouise/a/erectiledysf.htm

If you would like a woman and someone different than here, let me know and I can give you another referral. Or, of course, you can see me! Good luck to you, and much much love on this journey!

Asttarte

Sacred Halloween - Sacred Whores

2010-10-13T13:15:00.015-04:00

Sacred:
1. Dedicated to or set apart for the worship of a deity
2. Worthy of religious veneration
3. Made or declared holy
4. Dedicated or devoted exclusively to a single use, purpose or person
5. Worthy of respect; venerable
6. Of or related to religious objects, rites, or practices.

Sacred Halloween
A holiday worthy of devotion, declared holy, dedicated to an exclusive purpose and related to religious objects, rites and practices!

For those of you raised in the United States, or other cultures where Halloween has become a popular holiday, it was a time of celebration, fun, play and honoring to those who have left us before; similar to Shamanism in honoring our ancestors. And for those who consider themselves pagan, druids or wiccan a holiday that actually is considered taken from the original holiday Samhain. However, it became so popular that other religions took it as as their own. It is a sacred time to celebrate and take it on as something to do for fun, pleasure and in our recent times, a time to cherish and take on additional purchases for decorating, trick or treating and dressing up for those fun parties, guests or just because! Because of its attraction to many, it has become a time that many like to take part in, and it has become sacred; a holiday to remember and honor.

Sacred Whore
What is a Sacred Whore?
A female (or male), a Goddess or God, who partakes in powerful initiation rites to celebrate ones divinity, connection to spirit, and sees others as holy. One who celebrates their sexuality by offering others healing through loving touch, energetic clearing and movement and is a Master Shaman and Healer that takes on practices to help support the other with what they are dealing with in that exact moment, and allows them-self; their body to be connected to the other in healing, body movement, the breath, and other acts not limited to any boundaries but what boundaries they choose to behold. A Sacred Whore is a Sacred Healer; a Shaman, a Master Healer who is here to serve others in their fears, their pains, their frustrations and their whole self in love, spirit and honor! Every moment is a choice; a choice to act, or not to, a choice to be fearful or not, a choice to judge or to love. Whatever choices you make, make choices to bring you more into your power, more into your spirit and more into your divinity with your self. You are the only one in charge of your choices. Whatever you choose, make it a life worth remembering. Make it a life that is sacred!

See some other links related to this entry:
http://www.passionofmarymagdalen.com/pages/sacred%20whore%20paper.html
http://www.sexualfables.com/sacred_prostitute.php
http://www.widdershins.org/vol2iss1/b9602.htm
http://www.witchvox.com/

Some books for reading:
Reclaiming Eros; Sacred Whores and Healers, by: Suzanne Blackburn & Margaret Wade
The Ethical Slut, by: Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt
Blue Truth, by: David Deida
Sacred Sexual Healing; The Shaman Method of Sex Magic, by: Baba Dez & Kamala Devi
Sex Secrets of Escorts; by: Veronica Monet

Happy Halloween!

I Find It Fascinating

2010-10-12T16:55:00.003-04:00

I got an anonymous comment today that said "You are a whore." I find it fascinating because this comment came out of nowhere, and really it is interesting because when someone makes a judgment on another without knowing the person very well, and coming to assumptions it is more a judgment on the self than it is on the other.

When I read this I almost feel compassion for this individual. Perhaps they themselves are feeling threatened by someone who expresses themself fully. Perhaps they would come to judge them self if they were to be vocally open of their sexual needs or desires, or afraid others would judge them, or perhaps they are not getting their needs met and instead of celebrating someone else's expression, they come to judge them instead.

We can never know the real reason why someone judges another, unless we sit and talk to them, but listening to them being upset about something; hearing things from their point of view and maybe even having compassion for them can instead help them heal their own broken hearts.

If this person knew what it took for me to get where I am, perhaps they would not judge. Or if they really knew the depth of love and compassion and healing I offer to others out of desire, perhaps they might see it in a different way. In all honesty, this work is about love; simple yet very profound. Many don't know what true love is. Many have never felt the love they really needed as children and they spend their entire adulthood's searching for love to make up for what happened in the past. Sexuality is an adult's version of receiving that nurturing love children crave. When someone comes at you with harsh words and criticism, perhaps, the best way to spread healing to this planet, is just to love them!

Lovingly,

Asttarte

What's Next for my Tantra Practice

2010-10-11T17:37:00.006-04:00

Hello ladies and gents,

It's an honor to meet you here! I love this work with the deepest passion, and it is my joy to continue expanding myself to higher levels and offer myself to you!

Now that the ILP is over, I am now moving into new realms within my work; some of which involve further confidence boosting and leadership training that Landmark did not quite offer in the area of certification and advancement within one's own career.

It is my promise to give you new photos within the next couple of weeks, and as my look is quite different than it was 5 years ago, it might appear to be different, but perhaps not. I would love to add those blue, purple and red highlights to my somewhat dark medium brown hair, and a glow to my skin with artistic fashions and designs! These are things to contemplate given I am now stepping into new areas of my offerings. However, what will come will come!

I have given you a brief summary on this blog of the new programs I am pursuing, however, here is a more indepth description on my other blog that will be mainly for Relationship, Professional, Spiritual & Life Coaching (Healing). While this blog, as its partner, is focused primarily on Sex, Intimacy, Bliss & Tantra Coaching!

http://mylovermybestfriend.blogspot.com/p/relationship-professional-coaching.html

All the BEST to all of YOU!!!!

Blessed Be & Namaste!

Asttarte

Green Porn from Sundance and Isabella Rossellini

2010-10-08T20:47:00.003-04:00

Sex Humor from the Sex Coach

Pam Babbitt, Editor-Sex Coach

http://link.brightcove.com/services/player/bcpid1745093298?bctid=18005809001

Asttarte Temple News

2010-10-06T12:49:00.005-04:00

What's new and exciting! So, I'd like to welcome you back to my humble abode, my sacred temple and energy of love! Here is the beginnings of a new beginning!

My Leadership Program now IS complete! It is time to celebrate, relax, renew and create. I am now available 5 days a week; something I haven't done since I was pregnant, and I am totally THRILLED that my intensive Landmark Introduction to Leadership Program now is officially OVER! A breath of fresh air - - literaly! It was the hardest and most intense thing I've ever done in my LIFE, and I DID IT, AND, it is over! :-))))) And, it was SOOOO worth it! I am forever grateful! That group was a team of warriors really getting their whole life and making ANYTHING possible for ANYONE who walked on their paths. That was/is their/our mission. period, and now I get to transfer all that power and love right back into my own life! I love you guys, and I will miss you!

My schedule is now changed. My hunny got promoted as Sieu Chef (Head Chef) and is working more hours, however, different hours, so his schedule and my schedule have benefited greatly and we get to have evenings, more time with our son, and more time to work(sessions or classes with you). It really just worked out that way!!!! I love it! So, Sunday will be our family day instead. We'll get to take our son to do fun things as a family, instead of as individuals, music festivals, art shows, play dates, whatever... (and choose to be alone, or others, if we desire as well)

My schedule now is:
Monday - 8:30 to 8pm (or later if needed)
Tuesday - 9:30 to 5:30pm
Wednesday - 9:30 to 2:30pm
Thursday - 9:30 to 5:30pm
Friday - 8:30 to 4pm, and 7 to 11pm

Sat & Sunday full day retreat sessions available with at least 3 weeks scheduled in advance.

Next Hugging Power Class is scheduled for next Friday evening at 7:30pm, Oct. 15th. Location has not been finalized. If anyone has a home that is clean, warm and cozy and open for visitors, please let me know. I will let the group know the final decision, or you, in the coming days.

Next Sat. evening, Oct. 16th I will be hosting at a Couple's Party to help rejuvenate and vitalize the couples at the party! Sexy juices and intimate love is coming for them!

I am enrolling in a teleconference and self study Professional Coaching program this week for Leadership Coaching, Wellness Coaching, Relationship Coaching, Spiritual Coaching and becoming a Master Mentor Coach. This will be my catalyst to writing and completing my first book to publish, starting a healing school, and gaining the confidence at an even greater level to accept invitations for radio and tv. What this means for you is that I will offer top notch Tantra Intimacy Healing practices at a level of Leadership and Mastery; greater than it is now! There is always room for improvement!

And, I am reclaiming myself as a Love Goddess out of the Leadership program I completed and am so thrilled to be available to give you my love, and whatever form of healing that is supportive and needed for you! (FYI - my original sites were www.Goddessoflove.us and Goddessoflove.info)

With Love,

Asttarte

Temple of Love Meetup Group

2010-09-27T12:00:00.003-04:00

Blessings and Om to you fellow seekers,

This past Friday I held my third meetup group. I had been putting them on hold over the summer until the completion of my ILP program, as is coming THIS Friday!!!! But, this past Friday, I made an exception as I knew many had been waiting.

I don't have any photos for you at this time, but I promise in the future, I will make that happen!

We met, everyone introduced themselves, said a little about their journeys, why they were there and what exactly they were interested in studying and learning. The evening was called Tantra Study Group & Meditation. And, we did just that! We took readings from a book called Intimacy; Trusting Oneself and The Other, and Radical Forgiveness. We read a Chapter Called Relating, Not Relationship and the love of loving another without holding on the attaching or possessing of them. And we listened to a participant read a section called: Tools For Transformation; Accept Yourself, Let Yourself Be Vulnerable, Be Selfish and A Meditation Technique.

It gave us all a chance to give stories that we could relate to from the readings and our feedback on what it meant to each of us. Then we went into a Tantra Meditation and blissed out for a half an hour, and then got into a cuddle pile and let that bliss melt into a group huddle on the floor. It was a very relaxing and nurturing experience that was definitely needed and deserved; for all of us!

The Roles I Play

2010-09-23T13:11:00.006-04:00

Hello fellow seekers and Tantricas on the path!

When you are out there looking for a practitioner and someone to work with, what is the role you want your practitioner to be for you?

Are you looking for a Healer, a Massage Therapist, a Counselor, a Coach, a Tantra Teacher, a Breathwork Coach, a Relationship Coach, a Yoga Teacher, a Psychotherapist, someone to help your bliss, heal your heart, guide you to learn, empower you, relax you, feel nurtured and loved, teach you practices to do alone or with a loved one...?

I really can play a part in any of these roles. When you are looking for a specific type of session, what I need from you is to be clear on what it is you are looking for or need. There have been times when I gave a session that the client didn't know exactly what they were looking for, had wanted something specific, and then was left not wanting to come back because "I" didn't play the role for them that "they" wanted; when they weren't clear. It is really difficult to play a role with someone when they don't have clarity around what it is that they want. I would love to be so psychic that I can read peoples minds and know what's going on in there to support their needs, but I really don't have that capability. I don't know anyone who does.

What would make the session really work for me, and for you, is for you to have as much clarity into yourself of what you need and want, and then I can go ahead and fulfill on that need. It is really that simple!

So if you want something specific; contemplate, think ahead, get really clear and find the answer within yourself to what you REALLY want and need. The more clarity YOU have, the better the session we create together will be! I have a page Specific Sessions, Treatment Package Plans and Sessions For Women. We can take any piece of those details and make it your own. These sessions really are like art. Anything can be created that will bring you what it is you would like to experience, what you need, and where your heart is.

If you are open to allowing the session to unfold in its natural process, then this does not apply to you!

Love to you,

Asttarte

Something Big is STILL Coming!

2010-09-17T21:57:00.006-04:00

Two days in a row, something big has started.

I got a call yesterday and was asked to be a part of a reality tv show. We scheduled an appointment for an interview as the first part of the process and we are meeting next week. In the past I would have been too afraid, and would have let the message go and never call them back. This time I responded with a big YES!

I got a call today and was asked to be the teacher of a Couples Party to teach Tantra Yoga and agreed!

I had a breakthrough with my dad, and spoke to him this morning about an area that has kept me stuck since I was only 4 years old. We were able to get it really out in the open, speak openly and honestly, and create acknowledgment and create a new way of relating to each other in our relationship. I was moved to tears and gratitude!

I lead my mock this past Monday to be passed to lead an introduction. This is the first step to being a Leader in the work of Transformation I am in and I was passed. The next step is leading an event with new people I don't know who are unfamiliar with this process of transformation and cause a breakthrough for them. I am scheduling my next leading event next week. I have two weeks to make this happen!

I am considering a course after this leadership course called Living Passionately. I have my next Meetup scheduled for next Friday. I may just do it here this time; my little private Healing Temple.

After my Leadership Course I am looking into a Coaching School and am considering combining the Relationship, Professional and Mentor Coach Programs together and be trained to transform peoples relationships to an even higher level and be trained as a mentor to mentor other practitioners and start a school, publish books, create videos and have the support to really make my practice happen!

And, on top of that, my boyfriend is also moving into Leadership in his career and is becoming the Head Chef at his restaurant. He'll create the menus, the schedule and will become the boss. We are both moving into new directions. And, there is always more to come!

Visioning a New Dream

2010-09-14T16:34:00.002-04:00

I am on the verge of something big, and am moving towards coaching at a level of mentor-ship, creating videos, the ability to create a radio show or school. I am on the verge of becoming an Introduction Leader, and for me this is something really HUGE! It takes a lot to get to be an Introduction Leader, and a lot of having gone through and facing yourself at a level that takes balls. I've done some major transformation work in the past 15 years, but none like Landmark Education. And, what's next for me after this is a Relationship Coach Certification, Professional Coach Certification and Mentor Coach Certification. This puts Life Coaching in a totally different bracket, something that is already within these, however, the training offered in these programs take you to an even higher level.

I'm looking to create an International Healing School, that includes all forms of Healing Arts, Coaching, Private Sessions, Teaching and classes that are available online, via email, ebooks and videos.

Something big is DEFINITELY coming!

Asttarte Deva, www.SoulHeartBody.com