Tuesday, April 01, 2014

Blessings Beloveds



Hello all,

I've truly missed everyone who I have seen in the past and would SO love to meet with you again! I am still doing my work and would love to let EVERYONE know that I've merged everything over. Have an awesome, deliciously rich and fabulous day!!!! come visit me. I still would love to see you!

Asttarte

Monday, March 17, 2014

Moving All Sites to True Tantra

Goddess Blessings of love and light to anyone who has ever been here or who has wondered what has happened to this blog!

As many of you know, I have a vision to turn a lot of blogs into books, and this blog has been dwindled away. However, I wanted to let anyone who may come across this post know that I am merging all my blogs from all other blog urls' as well as all my sites into one site.

It's been an interesting three years since the beginning of my health crisis, to realizing I needed to move, to getting back with my son's father, to then separating again, and to then completely changing the way I did my sessions and merging a more professional practice to offer those who truly want to do their personal work! There's a fine distinction between working with those who don't want any tantra and solely doing emotional and spiritual healing to those who want intense red tantra and only have a sexual experience. I am not defining how I'm doing my sessions to the pubic as I had, however, each person has their own story and their own needs and we will discover together what they are and how we can best serve those needs to get them met. For those who find me here, I'll meet you on the other side!

Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Your Partners (Sexual) Needs vs Yours

When we make our partners needs, and in particular their sexual needs, more important than our own, we lose ourselves in the pursuit in making them happy. We may think we are helping them and doing them a favor, however, they were not originally attracted to us because we gave up our power, passion, and drive for them. In essence, we lose our control, our life force and our value for living when we give in always to someone else's needs.
When we let go of control, and surrender to someone else's it does something to our spirit, our heart, our relationship with the other person, but also the relationship to ourselves and all the other relationships in our lives. We get lost in the mess of the relationship and become something; someone else. It's like the expression "trying to fit a square peg into a round hole" and it never works!
It is important to honor someone else's feelings, beliefs, opinions and needs, however, not at the expense of your own, and in particular not at the expense of one's own life. Sometimes we can forget who we are, and forget ourselves during that drive to make someone else happy. However, if the other person, your partner, does not honor, value and hold your own feelings, needs, beliefs and opinions up high and shuns them, ignores them and just quietly smiles that he (or she) is getting everything they need and want and avoiding you, the relationship is not worth staying in.  In psychological terms, one might call that a Narcissistic Abusive Relationship, but on more common terms, the relationship is just not healthy, and definitely not balanced.
There MUST be balance for a relationship to work. There must be a healthy give and take, and if someone is getting something at the expense of the other person and incapable of seeing how they are hurting the other person, only doing their best to manipulate, coerce and control them, it is definitely a toxic relationship.
Sometimes people have to throw themselves into the fire over and over again until they finally learn their lesson, and finally learn that what they are doing to themselves might be harming them. I threw myself into the fire, and did it again and again, until I truly got the lesson. "My life is NOT about someone else; it is about myself, and no one can save you but yourself! My life is about living NOW; not next year; not next month and NOT in ten years. It is about today; for today is all we have!" And when we give up our passion to make someone else happy, and in particular to make sure they do not become unhappy or angry, it is definitely considered abusive! I am on clear alert that after all the power surged through me to stand up for myself, I am moving to the place of standing up for others as well. I claim the position to be a stand for all women and children to be protected and loved, and that men truly get the help they need when they need it, and for all to open their hearts to surrender to their truth and look inside for the answers!
Make your life your own, and on occasion hold someone else's hand, (but not at the expense of yours)!

Spiritual Sex vs Erotic Sex - What is the difference?