Getting the Sexual Energy You Need - The Beginning

Everyone has different levels of need and desire for their sexual passions to be filled, and for different reasons in people's lives their needs don't get filled. Some people are single, some are parents with no or very little time, some have a medical or health condition, and some are couples but the desire or commitment to pleasure has diminished or is completely gone.

What are the best things you can do to feel your own sexual energy when you are alone? Some people like to exercise as exercise increases your physical energy, raises endorphins, opens up pheromone secretions, helps circulate the energy throughout your body and reduces stress. All of these things help you to feel your own sexual energy and your own power.

Creative expressions and art is another expression. Creative energy and artistic expression is built from your 2nd chakra; as this is your pleasure zone of the body. When you release creative passions and artistic expression, you are using your own sexual energy, raising it and releasing it through a loving and healthy form. It helps one to feel their own sexual energy, channel it with beauty and coming to the height of it; a climax and orgasm when a project is complete and satisfies you. Many people who have a lot of energy are also very creative at heart.

Some people like to connect to the elements of the earth and nature to feel an energetic rise or release. Standing on the Earth, on the grass and dirt, sitting or lying on the ground cleanses ones spirit and sometimes if you're sensitive, can bring a rush of sensual pleasure. Being amongst plants or trees can be utterly refreshing and many like to live in the suburbs or country for this reason alone. Building a fire and standing or sitting amongst its flames, feeling the energy of the heat can fill ones soul with relief and satisfaction. There are many tribes of the past and communities in the present created to suit this purpose alone.

However, the most fulfilling of sexual energy comes from an exchange with another person. What are some Ways of Exchanging Sexual Energy?

Well, in Tantra, the breath is key! When you breathe with intention, you're creating the energy of life! It only makes sense that this is the time you can sometimes create a true life during this process when the energy is aligned, the love connection is strong enough and the souls link up, that a new life is created. When you breathe with the intention of giving, you help lift the spirits, nourish, relax, or increase the energy of another. When you breathe with the intention of receiving, you feel filled with life, joy, peace and pleasure. However, be wary of your giver knowing or agreeing for the exchange to happen; otherwise they might leave feeling exhausted, drained, and perhaps used or confused.

Eye gazing, holding hands, the yab yum, cuddling, energy scanning each other, massaging each other, pleasuring each other, and of course making love are all excellent ways of feeling fulfilled from the sexual energy you crave and deserve.

How do you ask for someone you love or care about to give you the intimacy and sexual energy you desire when they feel easily intimidated, overwhelmed, bashful, stressed, or are distracted with life?

You can start with making it about you, and not about them. Share with them how it makes you feel when you connect to them; rather than asking or telling them what you want. When you share with them what it means to you to connect to them, they see your authentic self and your heart, and when you make demands or requests all they see are demands, and this can often turn people off; unless they're the submissive type. However, most people like to know that they're in control of the decisions they make, and when they're not given the choice, their initial first response is to first negate or reject, but when offered as a request or suggestion, they have the chance to consider it and to give their own answer. And, usually their answer is Yes!

<3 Love! ***

Spiritual Insight - Element Test

I pulled this from a Quiz site, and found it to be a useful awareness.


What Element or Elements are You Most Aligned With?

The four basic elements are air, earth, fire, and water. This ten question quiz will help you define what characteristics and preferences you have that align with the four basic elements. Understanding what each element represents helps us evaluate where our individual strengths and weaknesses are. Look to any elements that you are not aligned with to discover pieces that may be missing or lacking in your life.

My Quiz Answers were:

"Remarkably, you are aligned with each of the four elements equally. AIR EARTH, FIRE, and WATER.
Air represents intellect, mental intention, and connection to universal life force. Earth represents grounding, foundation of life, substance, connection to life path, and family roots. Fire represents energy, tool for transformation, connection to personal power, and inner strength. Water represents emotional release, intuition, and inner reflection."

Take the Quiz

I found this to be interesting, because of my passionate connection to all elements of the Earth. Elemental Practices is what keep me most balanced in my Spiritual Life, and I life to integrate the positive aspects of all elements in my work, my teachings and healing myself. This is a nice confirmation that a balance to all aspects of nature and life are important and one is not any more important than another. They each have something to offer us and to teach us. Even in our deepest moments of intimacy and relationships, does working with the elements in your Tantric practice benefit you!

I would like to offer that I am a Reiki Master of several types of Reiki; one which is my MOST (they are all awesome) favorite is called Tera-Mei Seichem Reiki. It is a Reiki that was first created in Hawaii and has to do with bringing in the energies from the elements of the Earth and utilizing for balance, cleansing, releasing and healing; the physical body and the aura. If anyone is interested in becoming Reiki Trained, please let me know. This is the foundation of my Practice that I've been doing since 1997.

How Much Energy is She Stealing From You? (included links)

Do you experience interactions with people who drain you? Do they fight with you even when you offer compassion or support and continue pushing you into an argument? I realized yesterday morning that this is what had been happening to me. Although Rama passed, I don't want to give him all the credit to what happened in my own energy system. I am a powerful conduit for energy, and because of how giving I am, and sensitive to who I surround myself with, I sometimes overlook the fact that some people I deal with, who I do my best to offer support, actually do anything they can to take my loving energy. You would think I would have figured this out sooner since I've been a Reiki Master for about 14 years, however, when in the midst of it, sometimes the shadow of the moment eludes me.


I am presently in a Seminar Program and chose to be the Leader of a Group. I am actually in an extremely powerful group with Senior graduates who have been doing this work for over 10 or 15 years. However, there is one person who is in my Group I have been dealing with that actually has what most would put it, pushed my buttons. She interrupts, offers advice or coaching when unwanted or necessary and looks for ways to make people justify who they are, their actions and their choices. However, I chose to be the Leader, and I am out to cause people's greatness, transformations and contribute to what it is they are dealing with. However this person has not wanted help. My experience is that anger just releases out of her in most situations and what I had done in the past couple months was just keep my distance. I didn't really know how to be with this type of person. I also was confused as to how someone could be this angry and have done all this work on herself for over 25 years, but I realize now that is not my place to judge.


What was so was that she terrified me. I imagined her as Medusa with snakes coming out of her head. I would get coaching from others but it didn't really diminish how she made me feel. Over two months have gone by and this pretty much didn't change. Then recently she decided to confront "me". She wanted to talk to "coach" me and see why her, what I termed as being a bully, pushed me into avoiding her. We spoke over the phone and it didn't go anywhere. I had asked her if she would please let this go and let me work this out on my own and get coaching from others, and she didn't like that either. She expressed how she didn't like how I give people space to think and come up with their own answers and be present in someone's moment. She shared how she didn't like this either. The silence triggered her. So I finally decided to deal with this and see how I could contribute to her; despite how she was treating me. I realized that she must be dealing with something really big to be this angry, and I expressed that it wasn't ok for her to lash out her anger at anyone anytime she felt like it, or forced them into conversations when they didn't want to talk. However, I offered that I would be a stand for her to get the support she needs and be a space of forgiveness, compassion and love, AND that I will step in and create a boundary when necessary. I sent her and the Group a letter expressing my stand, my contribution and thanked her for helping me face in my own healing process the bully's that I've had to deal with in my past. I got to get clear with my own mother in how she forced me to clean religiously, weekly, hourly, and compulsively for years. Now, the resistance to cleaning is gone and I am cleaning my place to make it spectacular and am excited about that!


However, I realized that she literally sucked the life out of me. My energy was zapped, drained for weeks that turned into a couple months and it dawned on me yesterday to do a clearing of my energy connection to her. The term Energy Vampires has become a popular phenomenon these past few years with the Vampire movies coming out. However, there is some definite truth to the meaning of Vampire, taking away the myth, or perhaps old history that blood is involved. However, there are people out there who get a hit off of taking other peoples energy. Usually these people are those who are depressed and their energy is so low that they need others to help them feel happy and filled with life. Whatever this means to you or me, doesn't matter (in this moment), and could perhaps involve heavy conversation, but what does matter is the result to bring something positive. I have cut my energy from her and low and behold I feel magnificent.

From now on, I will put a post it note in different places in my home, to remind myself if someone is needing me, or had attacked me energetically, that I will probably need to clear myself of them and protect my energy of them in the future. Next step, a new school for my son, or cooperative program with other parents!

Love to you all!

Cutting Cords to Toxic Relationships
Exercises to alleviate the pain and suffering from relationships that are no longer working.

Be Wary of Energy Suckers
When an attack takes place, the Psychic Vampire receives an energy surge while the victim experiences fatigue.

Psychic Vampires
How to Stop Psychic Vampires from Draining your Energy

Accidental Cancelation - Temple of Love Meetup Group

As you all know, I've had a Meetup Group called Temple of Love for a couple of years now. In being a part time Practitioner, and mostly stay at home mom, I haven't had the freedom that I have wanted to live my own life. AND, I have been committed to offering the love to my son that I didn't get from my own parents! However, I realize there is a conflict here. I want to do what I love; have a strong Practice for Healing others, continue to be fully expressed as an artist (writer, singer, etc), and live powerfully and with joy AND spend plenty of time with my son and my family!

I realize my commitment has been more to my son than to anything else, and I also know that doesn't really work for everyone involved! So, I am brewing a new possibility for a Meetup Group and/or Gatherings that may (or may not) include my son where he gets to be a part of a vibrant, conscious, loving and Gentle Tantra Community (with other children so the parents can express who they are) OR gatherings of other parents and their children where we can play, connect, with a common interest of tantra, metaphysics, the arts, and a yogic or hippy type of lifestyle.

There is a possibility that I can renew the Temple of Love Meetup Group. It actually was canceled by mistake and I am in conversation with the Meetup Administrators to possibly resolve this. However, I ALSO still have the Community called http://EastCoastTantra.ning.com that has been pretty in-active. And, too much going on can become quite disconcerting and confusing. This may be the universe's way of cleaning up what is unneeded and put more energy into the http://EastCoastTantra.ning.com Group! I will keep you posted and let you know what happens!

If anyone has any feedback or a preference, please let me know!

Asttarte

The New Year - Letting Go of the Past

The new year is still fresh and for the richness of this sharing, I offer you a new place of power and enlightenment of what was, and what is now aware to me, and the future I am moving into!

The past few months have been a deep time of personal healing for me, and I apologize I did not share with you my depth of growth and what has come out of this time, but as I write here now, I humbly offer you my love and apologize for perhaps not being a shining light for you in helping support you in yours!

As you all know, my Beloved friend Rama is now gone! This brought up a lot for me. I hadn't lost someone who was that close to me since I was a young child. It was a big deal to me for one very powerful reason in particular. He was a very positive support system in my life; period, and his love was more powerful than I had realized. All my life, I had to be the Warrior and overcome a HUGE load of abuse. I had to parent myself, find other parents to perhaps love me, and do the best I could to leave an abusive home environment, when at all possible. I stayed away, lived my own life, stayed after school, befriended my teachers, tutors or other parents of my friends in order to receive the parental love I truly needed. In the end, I had to parent myself. It has been close to 17 years since I began my own healing journey, which I started VERY young because I KNEW I had to.

In the Landmark Education program I came to peace with how my parents raised me and accepted that they knew no other way. I decided to forgive them and chose to be the Leader in my family's Healing, and bring love and joy whenever family functions occurred. I knew their way of parenting was what they were taught and was also something I have been committed to transform and create a new way of being in relationship with children.

I have healed what most don't get to heal in one lifetime, and know from experience anything can be healed. However, it DOES take work and commitment, and what I like to term as DETERMINATION! However, since I am still human and in a human body, there is still more work to be done. When there are times of absence, it is my body/and spirit's way of working on another layer. And, as I strive for perfection, I know that I already am perfect, and perfection is in the eye of the beholder!

I know I have so much to offer and so much to share how one little person can make a HUGE difference in other people's lives! I believe I am here to be of service to humanity and my greatest offering is to teach love; in giving and in receiving and to teach forgiveness, and what it means to open your heart, even to the people who hurt you the most!

Perhaps I am still healing some remainder of Child Abuse, and if I am not here for you in the way you want me to be, I am truly sorry. I will always come back to my passionate firey self, as this is a big part of who I am, and move into that joyous and playful state!

As I share my own growth, I know I get to be who it is I really love; me!

I love you all, and invite your emails, calls and messages!

Blessings,

Asttarte

Communication, the Phone and Messages

Happy Holidays again Sweet Beings,

I wanted to write to you, in acknowledgment, apologies, and understanding of what perhaps you might or might have been going through.

I realize that some of you never hear from me after you call and leave a message. And, in the past what was so was that my voice mail system with my phone company would store up to over 100 messages and never delete them. Even if I got to you a couple or more weeks later, I still got back to you. Now, what's occurring is that my phone provider actually deletes ALL of my messages after ONLY a couple weeks, and often I don't get to check all of them. They are gone before I can even see who has called. I realize that I am a solo Practitioner here in this office, and I am also a single mom, so of course I cannot check these messages every day. What would be great would be if the phone company allowed me to keep the messages stored for longer lengths of time with an additional payment, but they don't give this as an option.

So, first thing, I apologize for this occurrence and the lack of getting back to you. And, 2, I will do my best to check all of my messages every week when I am alone. I now have my phone forwarded to my cell, so if I am not at home and you call, I can always get the call when I am out.

I understand how frustrating this may be to many of you who are wondering if I am still here, or perhaps are considering seeing me again, or perhaps really need me and don't know why I haven't gotten back to you. If you don't hear from me within the time frame you need, PLEASE email me. That is the best solution right now! I also may be able to check these messages online, and will check this out as well. Or call, and it will go straight to my cell when I am out. If I am with my son, it will be brief, but at least I will get to talk to you for a moment!

Much Love, and Happy New Year everyone!

asttarte@sexblisslifecoach.com is my new email, or you can write to me at asttarte@asttartedeva.com

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Merry Christmas - a Universal Holiday

Hello my Beloved clients, Seekers of Truth and Love, and friends!

I first want to wish you ALL a Happy Holiday Season. (I apologize for my delayed message).

For some of you, you celebrate Hanukkah, some it is Yule, some Winter Solstice, some other Religious Celebrations, and for many it is Christmas. I grew up in a Strong German Catholic background, and although this still my be my parents beliefs, it is no longer my own.

What I find fascinating, is that there is becoming a Universality to the Christmas Holiday, and it is less about the Religion Christianity, and more about family, togetherness, fun and celebration! For this reason, I continue to celebrate this Holiday.

The Christmas tree is actually about reminding us that soon it will be Spring, and to bring a Spirit of Beauty and Harvest, and to awaken the life of plants and growth in a time that is so dark and cold.

If I could I would celebrate all the Religious festivities, however, what's exciting is that Christmas is just so fun! I love how there are so many movies to watch, and media around the Holiday, and I see it less about promoting a religion, but instead a Holiday that the Whole World comes together; in spirit, love, and celebration!

I wish you all the best and joyous celebration during this Holiday Season, in whatever fashion or flavor you celebrate, and make it as delicious and pleasurable as possible! Even those yummy pieces of chocolate, or treats of pie or cake can hold a memory of unfathomable pleasure in your mouth. We all deserve to have pleasure, and it takes MANY forms!

MUCH MUCH Love! I care about all of you and wish you a beautiful Holiday Season, and an amazing Happy New Year!

Love, Asttarte

Update on My Beloved Friend Rama Bala

My dear Beloved friend Rama is still here with us, in spirit, and my acknowledgment is some new information I recently discovered.

What apparently was the case, was that 20 years ago, he had been suffering from a form of Leukemia called Hodgkin's Disease. He was suffering from this for 10 years until 10 years ago, when it was considered cured. However, what a few of us believe, is that it was actually laying dormant in his body. And, something like the food poisoning he acquired back in March of 2011, actually triggered what was already there.

The doctors actually did do the best they could do. They knew what they were treating was not food poisoning anymore. All of his symptoms were actually the same symptoms of someone suffering from Leukemia. He resisted this information and was firm that that the "food poisoning" was the culprit. I believed him since I hadn't been talking to anyone who was treating him throughout this process and was sort-of in the unknown.

He kept many friends in the dark that he didn't want around, not because of embarrassment, but because of pride. He was too proud to believe that this was actually happening. Even though we ALL loved him VERY much and wished we could be there for him.

I don't have any new digital photos of him yet, but soon will be editing this post with a new picture of him.

What I am most attune to, is a STRONG intuitive sense that his father may not choose to live much longer. He lost, I believe his favorite son and his wife not that long ago. He is feeling a sense of not really wanting to be around because of this. Please pray for his father! He needs the most prayers now, and his family!

MUCH MUCH Love to ALL of you!!!!

Asttarte

Remembering Rama!!!

(Sharing of Rama Bala on Commonground Fellowship)

One of my best friends just recently passed away.

I am still in total shock of his passing. I found out on Thursday, Dec. 15th, in a text message. I was just waiting for him to get out of a rehab center. He was on his way to health, and he was embarrassed to have me see him the way he was, and requested powerfully for me to not visit him. I now wish I didn't listen to him.

We spoke over the phone often throughout his entire journey to recovery and I feel as though the doctors who were treating him didn't really know how to treat him; they were unsure of what his real diagnosis was and he was treated like a guinea pig. I remember talking to him about filing a complaint on food poisoning to the Health Department as this is what triggered the start of the illness. I may want to follow up on this for him.

This is very sad news for all of us who knew him. Who he was for me was someone who truly cared about humanity and people. He was one of the most kind and loving people I've ever known, and some of the kindness that would come out of him would completely blow me away. He honored, respected and appreciated me more than anyone I've ever known. In truth, he adored me and it was a closeness I haven't had in a very long time. We were incredible friends and he looked up to me often to help him in his relationships.He was someone that always had a smile on his face, but deep down he was really sad and lonely.

People appreciated him, respected him and looked up to him as a teacher. He was an incredible musician; a genius, and has been performing all over the world for the past decade. I just found out last night that his father who taught him everything he knew is a legend in music in India and in the United States and his compositions are all around the world. And my dear friend shared that knowledge with everyone he knew.

He performed in a band with David Newman and he would often come home from being on tour and spend some time with me. He would share with me the difficulties he had with his friend David, but my dear friend Rama never once judged him or made him wrong for who he was. He was incredibly loyal and devoted to the people in his life. He is known by many in the Yoga Communities, as well as some of those in Common Ground.

The past year and 1/2 he started teaching music to young children and a few of his students were at the memorial last night. I got to share with them what he meant to me in private and they shared with me what he meant to them. He was deeply loved, and he will be very very missed.

I will be in communication with his family and available to support them in their time of grieving. I know his father is impacted the most, and I feel more sad for him than anyone. Rama was supporting him in his own health and taking care of him. Now his father is at a treatment center and is being cared for by nurses. My heart is open to his whole family, and my heart has been blown open because of this. I will be grieving for perhaps some time as well.

May you all please pray to him. He is still here hanging around on the Earth realms and is easily available in Spirit when called upon. I know he trying to make sense of all of this as well!

I'm sorry to be writing this to you this late. There was a memorial service for him this past Friday, Dec. 16th at Jai Yoga Studio and on Saturday evening at Yoga on Main in Manayunk, PA. I was grieving deeply all weekend, so to those who are just getting this message, please know my heart is with you. If you wish to reach out to me, or want to connect to anyone who was impacted, feel free to let me know!

Much Love, Asttarte





Teardrop Blues by Cattie


Sharing of Rama Bala on facebook!

It's been so many years that I've had someone this close to me die in my life; not since I was a young child. And, for one thing I am grateful in this moment is the opening he has brought to me in my heart. He is reminding me of the love I have for those I have closed my heart to, or have lost touch with for some time. I am forever grateful and look forward to connecting to you on the Astral Realm Rama! Rama Rama Bolo Jai Jai Sita Rama Bolo! Sri Ram, Jai Ram, Sri Krishna Govinda Hare......Hare Rama. Hare Rama. Sri Rama. Jai Rama. My Beloved Rama! Ommmmmm Love to you!!! (imagine music lyrics to this as you read).

Rama Bala is not the one singing in the video above. It is David Newman's composition from the Kirtan Yoga and Music Community here in Philadelphia I've been a part of for about 10 years. However, Rama is a Musical GENIUS and helped David on many levels become the success he is today. Rama's father taught him everything he knows and is considered a Musical Legend here in the States and in India and has compositions in Ashrams, Temples and places ALL over the Globe! Rama and I played music together often and I was VERY close to recording with him. Perhaps this will inspire to share my musical voice with someone else, in devotion of my friend Rama! I am still trying to accept this myself. I wrote a blogpost on this in my other Spiritual Community, http://CommongroundFellowship.com/. Part of this blogpost is a copy.

Please celebrate this amazing beings life with me! He passed recently, from food poisoning! Please take this as a reminder of what we put in our bodies, and how important it is to use caution when putting food in the body. This is a time of deep grief right now. Please pray for Rama, his family, friends and myself and that we accept this loss easily and with love! I love you all and am thinking of you!

I will forever remember him during the Christmas and Hanukkah Season!

Much Love, Asttarte

Yoga Girl - Music Video [HD]

Totally hysterical and TOTALLY true! :-)

The Many Vaginas of One Female Body

Now, I know you are thinking about a woman’s vagina as soon as I speak this word, however, her actual physical vagina is not what I am speaking about. A woman is an entire vessel of orgasmic possibilities, and when she is honored in her entirety of vaginas, she opens into a full lotus of pleasure, love and her Goddess self. A woman deserves to have her body touched in its entirety, and when she does, her whole body moves into orgasm, and it doesn’t even have to include her actual genitals.

When she is touched in all of her vaginas that are around her entire body, she slowly moves closer and closer to her orgasmic ride and wave of bliss that she is capable of. Each of her vaginas also have a clitoris and a central focal point surrounding the clitoris that desire to be adored. The “lips” of her vagina then are pampered and rubbed, or pressed, or caressed and slowly they move into engorgement and relax inside of her. This relaxation in each of these vaginas creates an awakening of her entire body where the Chi flow is then able to start and continues to expand and move as each vagina is nurtured and given the attention she really needs.

What are all of these extra vaginas I speak of?

There are many, and they are ALL over the woman’s body.

Her neck: the back of her neck, the spine that leads up to the coccyx, the muscles wrapping around the spine on the neck are her lips, and the coccyx is her clitoris, the spine is the empty space and opening, and the entire neck is her entire vagina as a whole. When squeezed, and muscles are worked out to their entirety; not just teased and given a small amount of attention, but truly worked out all of their knots and tightness, with firm or gentle pressure and as long as it take, this area become an access to her full body orgasm.

Her arm: the area of her arm below the shoulder and between her elbow on the exterior part of her arm is another clitoris. When you find the point that is that one special pressure point and when pressed on directly and held for 10 seconds or more, she has the capability of moving into orgasmic breath and wave of pleasure fills through her body.

Her thigh: the outside of her thigh from above the knee all the way to her hips on the yang, or exterior side of her body are another vagina of her body. The clitoris of this area is along the rubber-band muscle that is in the inner layer of her muscles closer to the back side of her leg also has another clitoris. The whole thigh muscle on the outside is her lips, and LOVE to be pressed firmly and squeezed to release their tightness.

The feet: the top of the foot and the bottom of the foot are an entire vagina. The top of the foot is the outer lips, the bottom of the foot is the inner lips and labia, and the entrance to her vaginal canal and her clitoris is somewhere along the bottom of her foot. For each woman it will be in a different location, and only she can lead you to the right place.

There are many more vaginas for each woman, and when you have sincere interest in discovering ALL of her clitoris’, she will surely lead you to how she likes to pleasured. And, after you have opened and given her all the expansion and foreplay in her entire body, then, when you reach her actual vagina, she will be that much more open and ready for you.

How do you Massage Each of These Vaginas?

It is a woman’s job to tell her partner(s) how she wants to be touched, and a man’s job (or her partners) to hear her and listen to her desires as she requests them. She might want firm pressure and holding still on one spot, or firm pressure and movement. The movement can be very slow or as fast as she likes. She might like grabbing and squeezing, or pressing and rubbing. She might like pinching, or gliding, or a tickling sensation. Each area might have different needs, but once each area is opened, it will allow her body to slowly move into a full body sensation of pleasure.

For example: I like my thigh vagina to be squeezed all the way down with pressure from both sides of my thigh, then squeezed all along one side all the way down. Then I like to have the massage go in circular motions around my clitoris, and stay in these circles for quite some time. Then I like the clitoris of my leg teased and only approached slightly with gentle and firm pressure on its point. Once the leg is opened and the clitoris has been slightly teased, then when going back to the direct clitoral spot, my whole body moves in waves of sensation and my breathing intensifies and I make sounds of orgasm; just from massaging my leg.

When the whole body and all of these vaginas are massaged in this way, I move into total bliss and euphoria that is difficult to stand. Then my actual vagina is extremely engorged and ready to be massaged directly and MUCH more sensitive to the touch when only massaged there. It’s like having foreplay for the body instead of going straight in to having sex right away. You have MUCH more pleasure when you have lots of foreplay than when you dive right in. The WHOLE body has the ability to have an orgasm and the more orgasms, the better!

In Preparation for the Moon

This past weekends training in Basic Sensuality was a phenomenal program, and there were SO many things I would love to share about this course, however, today I want to start with the Woman, and who she is in preparation for her moon cycle.

It's so fascinating to hear what a woman already knows, and how she truly can be acknowledged for her feminine power during the time she is preparing to release the blood that is in her cells and a part of her power. We learned how when a woman is on the pill, it actually numbs all the possible hormones that allow her to get in touch with her femininity. It shuts off the connection and diminishes what's possible in her body. I suppose I have always known this because I only tried the pill for 3 days of my life, and knew, INSTANTLY, it cut me off from my real self. It's been over 20 years since I ever put one of those little pellets in my body. A woman deserves to feel ALL of her power, her grace, her vulnerability, her softness, and her hardness (that is her rage, anger, or dark side). During the time of preparation for the moon, all of the deepest parts of a woman are revealed, and when she can learn to honor those parts of herself and do her deep work during those times, as well as let herself be nurtured by others around her, she can move closer and closer to her true power and Goddess self, and be truly SEEN as a Goddess!

In preparation for the moon, it is a woman's natural birthright to receive the touch her body so desperately craves. And, touch IS truly what will help all of those hormones going through her body to relax; and so simply under the palm of your hand. Massage, taking baths, relaxing, doing yoga, cuddling, and love making are so precious and sacred during this time, and it is the time the woman's body desires it the most, and truly needs it. Her body is SO worked up, and it is going through changes inside of her; many changes she is completely unaware of, or the partner(s) in her life. It is a natural biological process, that when honored and nurtured can be used to truly embrace her and lift to her to her natural state of awakened juicy flow and the glowing Goddess she truly is.

She LOVES to be touched, with the palm of your hand, literally, and your fingers have all the magic she really needs. There is a process to touching her that when taught and truly learned, will have her yearning for your every offer to be close to her.

What they taught in this course, was like Tantra with a fine tuned fork. It was SO specific, and all the Spiritual talk and energy movement was not present here. It was more a dialogue of how to communicate to her, communicate to her body and have her craving for more. How powerful to bring the world of Spirit (Tantra) and Communication of Sex in one!

Love,

Asttarte

ALSO: There was also a powerful process of massaging the man's genital area in a way SO specific; much more than any other Tantra training I have taken, that it gives space to expand on in my own life's work. More to say on this.

Positive Sex Talk Group - Day 2

Ok, so on to Day 2, however, I apologize no photos for this day, or the next few I believe. We were all so much in the moment, that the memories will be instilled in my mind and forever treasured. Perhaps next time, I'll make requests of shots!

These Groups were originally created by the Moorehouse Foundation based out of California. http://www.lafayettemorehouse.com/ My beloved friends here in Philadelphia have been hosting these groups, leading them, and organizing the Basic And Advanced Sensuality Courses right here, in our neck of the woods, near and around Philadelphia, PA. I made a call to them several weeks ago, claiming I am ready to return to the juicy conversations and keep the dialogue going; or perhaps get it started ALL OVER again!

This past Saturday was my second appearance from my several year absence, and it was a night worth remembering. However, the 1st night, a week prior, was pretty damn funny too! (However, some of the people might feel I betrayed their privacy if I shared the depths of that weekend, because the conversations were flat out sexual and seductive, and extremely personal). This past Sat. the group was taken place in West Chester, and around 16 people were there. It started with a potluck and the sexy leaders being late, so we mingled for a while longer than normal.

I got to share in my excitement and passion over the night of Day 1 to those who had heard some major stories of prior Dom experiences I have had, and experiences I would have had given I was put in the position of leadership with some particular people in the room. This made several people crack up laughing; particularly Miss Goddess Leader in action; whom I find daringly and magically attractive! The person whom I first shared these experiences with is a positive, outgoing, Landmark Graduate, and outspoken gay man, whom I find HILARIOUS and charming!

There were many people there, from many walks of life, and several people I was immediately drawn to, were brilliant and mysterious women; one in particular who is a Clinical Psychologist. Her presence and intensity is so powerful, she could stare down a parade of mad men into tears! On our break I immediately took the opportunity to hug her into a long and warm embraced hug and she announced later in the group to me "You give REALLY good hugs!"

I sat in the front of the room with our Leaders, and my friends, and I offered to find another seat, but with the limited chairs and space, was held down next to this sexy man by his firm hands, with his words "NO, you are staying RIGHT here!" I got to flirt with him and his sexy wife as much as I wanted with my arms teasing their backs and my eyes watching their powerful love and seduction with each other in the front of the room. The way he stared at her lower back and butt in her tight leather skirt, while she moved to the edge in the loveseat and spoke so powerfully to the group, describing instructions for the next exercise, was so moving and erotic!

There were 2 men there, who had a passion for a term that could be interpreted as Bi-Sexual, but the word they used was more open and fluid and described the unlimited capacity to love another, no matter their sexual preference, and leaving it open to just loving. They called it Pansexual. One had a fascination and joy for using Electrical Shock in his foreplay and pre-requesite to seduction with his lovers. Everyone was extremely curios and in some ways afraid at this somewhat sadistic and masochistic form of sexual play. However, his excitement and amusement for the art made him appear curious to the outsider. His favorite part of the exercise was the "thrill of the shock and the unknowing of when it would happen again," and the "pleasure of the shock making waves that expanded inches from the focal point and put into a state of unknowing." I had no idea how to interpret any reaction to this "desire" of this man's, other than thinking, "hmm, this might be something I know someone else might like!" And, I could visualize how someone with a somewhat twisted mind would probably like this, but I'll just stay as an observer. No, thank you!

There was a woman there who hadn't been to an event of
this type before, nor knew what she was coming to, and it was extremely difficult for her to be in the presence of others so comfortable around their sexuality, but many of us acknowledged her for staying, in the midst of the discomfort and having the desire to move through her pain and still enjoy an evening of fun and perhaps deep healing of her own.

There was another man who described experiences from Burning Man, and the reason he has committed to going every year; his passion for dress up, and how the one event turned into a total business opportunity that lead to major success. I LOVED listening to his regular play of dressing up like a Vampire and giving out fake "blood" as drinks to the customers of the bar, and that it actually drew in MANY people from all over the world. What a testimony to following your dreams and listening to your heart!

The Group is consisted of three exercises; a mirroring exercise, someone who sits on the "Hot Seat" and is asked questions from the others in the room (any question of their desire that is), and then ends with sharing a Withhold from others in the room, or even those who are not even present that you might need to express something to get it off your shoulders. What was great about this event, was the ability to share my true sexual power and passion, that has been awakened from my own releasing of sexual predators and energy vampires; where I can now be my true self and let me heart and passion shine! About 4 people in the room shared how they adored my energy at the front of the room, my vivaciousness, passion, presence, and playfulness and "would love to see me leading the front of the room again!" So, perhaps this is something in the making, and another opportunity to help me move into leadership of my own!

The evening ended with a seductive kiss on my neck from the playful gay man whom considered questioning his stand in only liking men and thought, "hmm, you inspire me to think otherwise!" It was quite hilarious and fun, moving, and an opportunity to be fully self expressed; something I LOVE!

The Pleasure of Surrendering Control - Day 1

Coming home from 4 days of Sexual play, I am now taking rest and a little time to reflect. Here I share Day 1.

Friday night is normally an opportunity for me to have a full evening of Sessions with clients, however, this past Friday I met with one person and still had several hours left before the evening was over. To my surprise, an amazing being, whom has been a friend for over 7 years asks the question "So, when are we getting together for that inappropriate Professional Massage?" I say something like, "I didn't know we were planning an inappropriate Professional Massage. I was sure you just wanted a Mainstream Regular Massage." He says, "Well, I did." I say, "So when did this desire come about?" He said, "Just now." I say, "So Are you free tonight?"

He arrives a little after 10 pm. Little did I know the tricks that were under his sleeve. We sat face to face as though we were planning a conservative sweet connection, but soon after I sat on his lap, his heart starting beating fast, and I felt desire in me that had laid dormant for some time burst to the surface. He was a typical Yoga guy and not as trained in the Tantra world as I, so I sat with him in his discomfort and let him move into relaxation. Moments later, he said, "So I assume you must be a professional if you have latex gloves in your Healing room. Are there any other tools you have that aren't visible?" I mentioned casually how I have toys hiding in my secret hideout. Immediately ideas started brewing in his mind and he disappeared to the other room, only to return with this hemp rope in his hands. I say, "Wow, these look a little rough. I have much softer rope in my closet." But I went with it. "Do you have a lot of experience with this?" I say. "Just a little." comes his response. Then all of a sudden I'm being wrapped up like a professional slave, and he just laughs like its no big deal. I say, "So do all your playmates let you wrap them up like this?' He says, "No, you're being a good girl!"

Never in my life have I done something like this, and NEVER had considered it, but because I adored this person and was extremely attracted to his spirit for MANY years, I let go. I had to trust in order to surrender to his power. And, sexy was it. It started with receiving an intense Thai Yoga Massage, and one of the best I had received in a long time, but intermittently going back and forth between nice sensual loving strokes, to deep forceful squeezing of my thighs, my back, shoulders, arms and buttocks. All of a sudden I'm totally relaxed and being loved, and then I feel a forceful bite on my ass, or a bruise impounding slap all down my body. After each slap or bite, I jump up screaming, but after the third or fourth torturous slap or bite my whole body jumps up in surprise screaming "JESUS, can you do that a LITTLE more gently?" However, for a while my right arm was also tied up and there was nothing I could do but just breathe in this pain, AND pleasure and wait to see what would happen next. I was moaning and screaming for almost 2 hours, and near the 2 hour mark, when my one arm was finally free from its grip and I didn't worry about the bookcase falling over anymore, I escaped for a moment by crawling on my toes and using my hands to walk to the restroom. When I returned it was my turn.

I crawled over to him to give him kisses on the small part of his hip bones and right below his belly button to returning pleasure bites like his own. I instructed him to lie down, face down while my legs were still bound. I started with a gentle touch massage, my own Coconut Oil, and letting him relax as a new receiver. I put firm pressure on his ass, and used sweeping strokes down his legs. I grabbed his toys he so easily used to strike me, and returned the passionate slapping of my own. He requested I do it gently right away, and admitted, "I've never been on the receiving end of this." I said, "Oh, well that makes two of us. It just takes some practice." He wasn't as good a boy as I being a good girl, so I went easier on him, but still gave him his pleasure practice to the level he was open to receiving. I took it that he needed a little more time to trust me, but being that this was so spontaneous and something I NEVER would have expected with him, I rolled with it.

There were several kisses throughout the evening, and he took care of me. So I took the opportunity to take care of him with a Tantric Massage unlike he had received before. Being the Professional Healer and Teacher himself, he was quite impressed. I knew this was just a moment to cherish and not relationship material, but I will certainly let you know if I advance in my skills AND experience!

What I am grateful for about this experience, is that NOW, I can let myself receive as well as be in the receptive position with my lovers and it is SO nice to let go and let your lover make love to you with you laying down looking up at them. It has been years I have surrendered in this way, and I am grateful to this man for breaking me open!

Oh to the Power AND Pleasure of Surrendering Control!

Namaste!

Tantric Sex - Hitler reacts

Protecting Your Sexy

You know the sayings, "Sexy is as sexy does~" and "You are who you hang around!"

Well, what do you do when all of the people you hang around or the person you sleep with (or are in a relationship with for that matter) is not letting you be your sexy and is holding you down?

How long do you let the people in your life hold you back? Do you keep hanging out with the same friends, or support them to help them open up to their potential? Do you stay in a relationship with a partner who has no sex drive and try to burst their bubble and open them up to you, or do you walk?

These are questions many contemplate. The people in your life are people you care about. You want to be happy with them. You want to grow with them. You don't want to hurt them by walking away, or yourself from having to grieve them and start the whole dating process all over again. But, do you ever question, is STAYING worth it? And, am I really being my full authentic self with this person? Will he/she EVER truly get me? How long am I willing to sacrifice my passion, my identity, my purpose?

As a VERY sexy and passionate person myself, I have asked these questions MANY times, and in the past unsuccessfully left a relationship only to be sucked back into it again. I realize the power that was lost in the process; the giving away of my own power, my own identity, and as I stand here and reclaim my true self again, it is so liberating and freeing to detach from someone who sucks the life out of you; literally!!!

But what do you do, if they try to convince you "OH, I know you love me!!!" or "Oh, hunny, we're meant to be together!" or "Baby, I need you!" "I'm nothing without you." or worse, if they demand you stay with them, "You HAVE to be with me." or perhaps if they do it secretly and unknowingly by manipulating your thoughts or beliefs and try to control you. How long will you let this continue going on? At some point, the manipulation HAS to stop, and the truth WILL set you free! YOU know you HAVE to walk, and no ounce of convincing will change your mind. You are ready, you are clear, and you set yourself free! This is a battle, I like to call, Protecting Your Sexy, because as time goes by, your sexiness elopes you when you stay, and when you detach, your sexiness flies!!! Only then do you see the truth, the cycle and can finally take a stand for yourself, protect your self, and walk away!

Some relationships just don't work, and some people in our lives are meant to be with us for a certain period of time, and when they keep holding you back from your true self, you know, the time has come!

I am here now, Protecting my own sexy! Do you care to join me in the quest?

I've learned some great new tools the past few weeks in Tantra, and I am available, here and would love to see you!

Here's to your sexiness, your passion, and your life!!! Cheers!!!

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Amazing Video for Empowering Women!!!

Taoist Tantra & Intimacy Retreat

Hi guys (and gals). I'm sorry to announce that I'm writing to you AFTER coming back from this Retreat, but all that has been going on all summer left me MIA, and I've been working through some of my own personal journey that I neglected to let you all know of this, prior to its happening. However, it was a private invitation, and a VERY small group of people.

NOW, I get to tell you of its happenings and the amazing experience received during this time!

First off, this happened in Caanan, NY, ALL the way at the tippy top of New York state right next to Massachusetts, and YES, I drove up there, alone! I wanted to drive to see all of the visions and settings across the land and get a feel for the energy up there, and re-kindle my desire to move to NY myself! I have a passion for the mountains, for nature, rocks and waterfalls. I do love the ocean and the beach, but I REALLY LOVE the mountains and the deep settings of the Earth! Just being in these areas

heightens my sensation for pleasure, for
bliss and a connection to Gaia, Nature Spirits and the Divine! There is nothing like it!

So, what was THIS Retreat like? Ahh, aren't all Tantra Vacations and Trainings amazing? Yes, they are, and this was NO exception! The purpose of this event was much different than my Beloved Baba Dez's Daka Dakini Conferences. Dez has practically no limits or boundaries in his trainings, and yet they offer an extraordinary experience filled with love, divinity and bliss. Where-as this event, was lead by Anton from Sexy Spirits in NY, a friend of mine I love, admire and adore! And he brought his gorgeous and sexy wife, and they both shared their love with all of the participants. It's SO amazing to see how a powerful Couple, that unconditionally give to each other, and ravish in each others pleasures and fantasies can be so fulfilling to their inner self and to a community at large! It was awe-inspiring! My dream man would be someone such as him; a Leader of a Tantric Community himself and completely Mastered the Art of Love, Pleasure and Orgasm! Yes, these beings take YEARS of training. It is not your hand me down, run of the mill training of being a horny teenager and growing up just adoring sex and touching a woman. It is a whole different ball game!

1). We learned how to pleasure a woman in an entirely different and loving fashion; one that did not include ejaculation and full blown orgasm, but one that included intimacy, patience and gentle orgasms that were stopped prior to its height; keeping the flame going for minutes or hours. And, the men just surrendered into giving, and were trained in this fashion so as to allow the woman he gave to, to experience what it felt like to be trusted and safe in his arms. There were three positions he practiced; the breast massage, the Do Date, and a position I don't know the name of, but where she was gently guided to lay over his legs face down with her legs wrapped around his waist as he practiced helping her open her energy in her entire rib cage, lower back and buttocks. All positions were done with MANY pillows, and we were trained how to recognize when someone would need a pillow, and to what degree.

2). Naked Yoga every morning! How joyful and relaxing and fun! Then we ran to the back where a stream filled with large rocks and small waterfalls overlapped the earth. The men graciously and gently guided us all through the water as we went to a deep part in the creek and jumped all the way in to let the water cover our entire bodies; naked and freezing! Wow, what a rush!

3). Tantra Tango; need I say more! You could wear as little or as much as you wanted and swing those hips around to step-step! (Yes, I later realized my sarong was in the way!)

4). Organic Food! We were seriously treated like Kings and Queens!

5). Cuddling with whoever you wanted in each series of practices in the Group Setting!

6). Energy Cleansing and Honoring the Self Ritual. I went into full body waves as I was finally given permission to be my true self and let all the muck from here in Philadelphia, just disappear and dissipate away from me!

7). Good Bye, but not good bye! We were all invited to Anton and Rita's soon to be official wedding that is to be scheduled within 6 months! This is now another one of my Beloved Tantra Communities, I dare not stray too far away from! Coming to this event, was my coming home!

If anyone is interested in being my trainee or receiver of this Taoist Art, please let me know. Guys and ladies!

I will share more with you of the summer coming soon!

Love you All, and NO, I have NOT stopped doing this work and don't plan to; ever!

Check out: http://www.sensualloveandintimacy.com/ for more info on the Retreat! The second Training will be in the Winter as a Part II Taoist Tantra Training and Healing for men!

PS. My Private Tantra and Sacred Sexuality Healing site was never taken down. Here it is just an FYI: http://GoddessofLove.us My very basic and old site! My Coaching site is http://IntimacyandLifeEnhancementCenter.com
Tantra, Coaching and Healing for Women is FlowerofAWoman.com

LOVE! <3

The Mystery of Woman; A Book for Men

To all those seeking knowledge and understanding of the woman; the Goddess. Here is a book of a compilation of many powerful Women, Healers and Tantra Schools. I finally got a piece of my own writing in here, and hope this is the start of many more to come!

*Paperback*..."The Mystery of Woman" is a fascinating new book that explains what women really want from men in relationships and in life, in the voices of women themselves. In Part 1, Mr. Morris shares his own thought-provoking insights on men, women, love, sexuality and the true potential for male-female relationships, once men and women figure out how to genuinely connect. In Part 2, 24 women write in personal and very intimate terms on love, romance, yin and yang, sexuality, spirituality, tantra, femininity, masculinity...you name it. And in Part 3, 8 men give their take on all of the above. Though it's a book for men, women will no doubt find it an intriguing and deeply informative read as well. NOTE: THIS INCLUDES A FREE E-COPY of "Kundalini and the Art of Being", by Gabriel Morris...Click "Preview" below the cover image at left to read excerpts from the book. Lulu ships worldwide, within a few days. *Also available as an e-book* (Search Lulu.com for "The Mystery of Woman".)

Written by Gabriel himself:
"I also added several new pieces to it, including a great piece by Asttarte Deva Shakti Bliss, a 15-page interview with Maya Yonika, subject of the movie "Sex Magic: Manifesting Maya", and also two amazing pieces from each of the founding members of the School of Tantra in Maui, Hawaii, Janet and Sasha Lessin. So, I'm including a PDF of the new version of the book attached here for everyone. And if anyone wanted to get a paperback version of the new book, or else tell their friends about it, post on Facebook, etc., here's the link to where people can pick up a copy (the e-books can be downloaded immediately, and the paperbacks can be shipped worldwide):"

Check it out!!! http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/Gabrieltraveler

Blessings of Love and Light all!!!

Asttarte

Coaching Tip from Asttarte June 24th - Detoxing Your Life

Now that we are moving into the dead of summer, lifestyles are changing. We are moving into wearing fewer clothes, having more time at home to stay cool, and sometimes our visions of our-selves change in the process. As I contemplate my summer, I feel the passion for cleansing; cleansing my body, my spirit and my home. I’m changing eating habits to cleanse the extra weight from eating foods that put on pounds and within days I’m noticing the water weight quickly leaving me. I’ve replaced sugar for stevia, coffee with flavored creams to plain organic teas, salads with heavy dressing to olive oil and balsamic vinegar, and energy drinks to kombucha, essential oils and flower essences. In my home I’ve donated my son’s outgrown toys and clothes, cleaned the bathtub and toilet, and purchased excellent All Natural Massage Creams and Oils for new Sessions.

Tips to Detoxify Your Life

Instead of holding grudges on people, you could:

• Consider their viewpoints; contemplate another way of looking at the situation

• Hold compassion for others in your mind

• Be more giving.

Instead of eating the same foods the same way, you could:

• Consider some foods that put weight on you (make a list of the foods that make you feel bloated, lethargic, depleted or sick)

• Trust your own body and listen to your body rhythms

• Consider substituting out foods for better choices

• Drink more water, and less soda, coffee or juices

• Replace caffeine for herbs, vitamins or vegetables

Instead of harboring anger against your children, you could:

• Be more patient and understanding

• Look at the situation from their point of view

• Take a moment to breathe before responding

• Consider new ways to interact

• Offer a new solution

• Consider a family adventure

Instead of blaming your partner for your relationship problems, you could:

• Start looking at why you are creating the situation in the first place

• Ponder what it is that you are thinking that causes their reaction

• Deal with your own stress responsibly

• Communicate from a place of compassion and take time away if you are upset before speaking

• Look at what it is you are doing, AND not doing, and go back to your relationship agreements (if there has been no agreements made, make them)

• Communicate your needs and listen to the needs of your partner

• Compromise

Instead of blaming everyone else in your life for your problems, you could:

• Eliminate or maintain minimal contact with certain people in your life that are toxic

• Talk to a Therapist, Counselor, Healer or Coach to sort things out

• Start a Journal

• Go for a Daily Walk

• Go to Yoga or Exercise

• Get a Massage, Acupuncture, Chiropractic care, or a Spiritual/Holistic Healing Session

• Meditate

• Start or recommit to your own personal growth

• Find friends on the same page as you (similar goals, beliefs, passions, etc).

• Try Ayurveda, Aromatherapy or Flower Essences

• Recommit to a Spiritual Practice

• Look at yourself!

What do you do to detoxify your life?

If you’re unhappy, do you keep doing the same things, or do you consider a new approach?If your friends are making you miserable, do you keep them in your life or find new friends?

What are beliefs that are making you miserable?

Do you maintain a physically healthy diet, and if you feel lethargic or bloated, what do you do to detox?

Do you keep your home clutter free, and if there are things you want to get rid of, what will you do to remove them?

If you’re unhappy in your relationship, what will you do to make a difference?

What are new approaches you will take with your children to bring you closer?

What practices will you do over the next few weeks to relax your mind and nourish your spirits?

The next time you feel an argument coming on, will you walk away or pursue the conversation in that moment?

If your family or neighbors irk you, what will you do to harbor compassion?

What is one thing you will do over the next week to take care of YOU?

During the times of Seasons Changing, it is important to take a broad perspective and look at your whole life at large. During times of seasons changing, often also what show’s up are changes in our viewpoints, our desires, our passions and our focus. Contemplate what the summer will bring you or what it could do to cause you suffering, and change your approach so the next couple months for you are rewarding, satisfying and enjoyable!

“Unless you change how you are, you will always have what you’ve got.” Jim Rohn