Giving a Tantric Massage

Imagine that you are taking the evening to pamper your Beloved. You have the night alone, and you want to really take care of your lover. You know that he or she really deserves to receive a night of blissful adoration. You don't have a lot of experience in giving a Tantric Massage, but you want to learn, and you want to try. You attempt to take your first risk of really giving all of yourself to the person you love the most, and you put everything aside to make this whole evening extremely special for her (or him).

Perhaps you've had at least one Session with Asttarte, and she taught you how to give a glorious Tantric Massage, or perhaps you learned somewhere else, or even through watching a video or reading an article such as this. But you know, you are ready. You have waited for this moment for quite some time, and you are up for the challenge.

No matter if you are giving to a guy or to a girl, the rules of energy movement are the same; you must take your time for the energy to move, to expand, and to flow, and in this way, you are creating a Tantric experience.

How To Get Started

You first want to create a connection with the person you are going to work on and connect to. You want to connect your energies together so that the person receiving can feel the energy of the person giving. And, as the giver, you want to be able to feel the energy of the person you are working on, so you can really tune in to how he or she is responding to what you are doing to them.

In order to create a connection to the person you are going to work on, your own energy must be clear. You need to cleanse your own energy, and remove any stress, stagnation, suppression, or blocked energy in yourself in order for your own energy to flow, to move freely within and around yourself, and in order for your energy to be passed on to the person who is receiving from you.

There are many paths to cleansing ones own energy, and you may utilize some or all of them, but the most important thing is that you pay attention to your energy, and notice what it feels like, what it is, or is not doing and how open it is. The most basic and subtle way of cleansing your own energy is through meditation. You may prepare cleansing your own energy prior to doing the Session for your Beloved, or you may attempt at doing it when they are in your presence. My recommendation is to do some cleansing prior, and then again a cleansing and connecting practice when they are in front of you. For more tools on cleansing practices, you may contact me at asttarte@sexblisslifecoach.com or my site at: http://asttartedeva.com

After your energy is clear and you are ready to submerge your partner into his or her own pleasure, you will want to sit in front of them, face to face if possible, or next to each other if that is more comfortable for them. Guide them gently into sitting into a lotus position, and offer your hands in theirs. Place your right hand on top of their left, and your left under their right. This way the energy will flow properly from the giving hand to the receiving hand. After they have grounded and calmed their energy, ask him or her if they will look into your eyes. Guide them to merge into your eyes with your love, and suggest gently that they look into your left eye; this eye is the eye for receiving and giving love (the right eye is for giving and receiving power). After a few minutes the energy should be connected. If you desire to do this practice longer, feel free to sit with it for up to 10 minutes or so. You or your receiver may feel uncomfortable with this the first few times, as it is a very vulnerable practice and literally opens one up to seeing your true self and your inner soul. If they need to look away for a moment, it is ok. They can come back when they are ready. 

Body to Body

At this point you may want to hug each other in the yab-yum position for a minute or two. By this time, your energies may really be moving and arousal energies may start to arise. This is a perfect time to guide your partner to lie down where you are giving him or her the Tantric Massage.

You want to make sure your partner is comfortable. If they are laying on a floor mat, or blanket, be sure they have pillows under their knees, their head if they desire, and maybe even their wrists for added support. If their body is cold, have a sheet handy or a light blanket, to have a light cover on some of their body while you are working on them.

You want to start with them face down. You always want to open up the back chakras before opening the front chakras, and the back always lead to the front. If you start with the front or only try to open the front, the energy won't flow properly, and they'll only have half of the experience leading to bliss. They'll be something missing, and the energies will be blocked. Some people can have a full orgasmic experience after opening the back chakras and then working on the buttocks, lower coccyx, hips and kundalini points. 

Always move in a very slow rhythm similar to the speed of your breath when you are VERY relaxed. Place FIRM, deep pressure with your whole hand while making the palm the leading part of your hand you are working with. Never use your fingertips as the lead in a massage. It is uncomfortable and not very relaxing for most, and could feel invasive and awkward; however they may not feel comfortable in telling you they don't like it to avoid hurting your feelings. 

Grab the whole back with LONG strokes and put your whole body into it. Move into their body as if it is a dance, and it is something you love! They will completely feel how much joy you are getting out of giving and will respond very positively if you are feeling just as good as they are. Make it your entire focus of attention to give them complete pleasure. You will be rewarded for it later!

Massage their buttocks with love, adoration, and awe, as if this is your very first time seeing their body, and you care about them as deeply as if you were first in love, or just married. Pay attention to their energy. Be a witness to their response. Notice how they are melting, or not melting and what their body is telling you. Are they moving in waves and moaning? Are they stiff as a board and not relaxing at all? They may be somewhere in the middle and need to clear some energy points but don't have the words for it. If you are also unable to have the clairsentience to pick up on where their energy is blocked, they just may need more time. You may want to ask them, is their a certain part that feels dense you want me to put more attention on? Or, can you notice where in your body feels especially tight? That may be the exact thing that will bring them to bliss.

Guiding Them To Breathe

If you notice they are holding their breath, suggest to them to take a deep breath, and then a deeper breath. Then if you see this helps them to melt a little, suggest again they continue breathing this way. It is always important to do a breathing practice while receiving AND giving a Tantric Massage; otherwise it may just be erotic, or therapeutic, and the point of a Tantric Massage, is pleasure and orgasmic, isn't it?

When you breathe during a Tantric Massage, you are opening up your senses for higher capacity. Your breath then merges with your cells and opens up all energy centers that are blocked and allow for full body orgasm. This is the point of a Tantric Massage, but not many achieve this; not because they are not experienced, but because they are NOT breathing deeply. If you want a full blown experience, try listening to your giver when they tell you to breathe; you will have one, and often in a very short period of time.

The Front Side - Your Vulnerable Flower, or A Man's Time to Be Patient

This is the place you have been waiting for. As a man, this is the place you have been waiting to give, or to receive. As a woman, this is the place you might have been waiting so long, you forgot you were waiting. When starting on the front side of the body, you always want to start with the arms, or the legs and then the belly. The belly is a sacred area of a man and a woman's body. It is a very vulnerable place where stress gets held, and can be embarrassing to women as much as it is to men; as well as arousing to men, as well as arousing to women. However they may respond differently, or need a different approach, the result is the same.

Both men and women like to receive massage on the belly in very slow circular movements. Women will want less attention on her lower belly at first, and men will want more. However, it's the energy that needs to move; not the sexual gratification that needs to be pleased. For women to feel safe in a belly massage, simply ask her, "Is this ok?" or, "Would you like me to change my pressure?" She may like very light pressure here and request you to slow down. On the other hand, men may ask his woman to please move faster. However, men need to learn patience, and women to feel safe, so the goal is not to go faster and do what the mind wants, but instead, tune into the body. Continue breathing and relaxing into the massage, and the body will catch up with your desire.

The Chest or Breast, a Tempting Seduction

Before diving into a woman's breasts, or quickly massaging a man's chest, always ask. May I massage your breasts now? Watch her body. Watch her breath. She may say yes before she is ready. She may want you to massage her belly longer, or the sides of her waste and chest or around her neck and collar bone area. Pay attention as the giver what your Beloved's responses are; not just the words they speak. The more you make them wait and draw out the Massage, the more they will have time to melt under your hands. 

Women like figure eight strokes around their breasts. They like full attention all over them; not just the nipples. In fact, it is best to either not touch the nipples at all, or wait until you have fully awakened the breasts in their completeness before diving into the most sensitive area of her chest. She may not like this, and it may turn her off, and you definitely don't want to do this when you have worked so hard to relax her.

Many men have very sensitive chests. They like them massaged just as much as women like their breasts massaged. Men often work out and lift lots of weights or carry stress in their chests, so a Chest Massage for a guy can be a complete glory and weight lifter. Really move into him here and give him all your love. He will feel it. And some really love having their nipples massaged, and you may want to ask him how he likes it. Usually if he does, he will tell you right away.

The Sacred Center

Here is the grand finale; the area your Beloved has been waiting for; dying for your touch, your hands caressing them deeply. They may still have their undergarments on at this point, and that is perfectly ok. Moving the energy in this area is much more important than physically touching them to erotic pleasure; one comes before the other. Here you want to do a lot of palm pressure all over him or her; feeling into your Beloveds body. You may want to look into their eyes at this point and let them know they are safe, and that you love them. The slower you move with them, the more they will feel your love and your energy. Listen to them. Listen to their body. Really tune into them here, more than you have anywhere so far; really tune in. This is not about an erotic pleasure; it is about a full body igniting your love into them, and you will be so much closer for it.

Pressure, on her lips; her outer lips of the vaginal area as well as pressure over her pubic bone area and lower stomach; the uterus in hiding. Moving the energy of her sacred center and his sacred area is more important than the actual stimulation itself. When you finally do prepare the body to be touched more intimately, you will want to take great attention to detail, and prepare them for their following pleasure zones to be fully ignited into bliss. 

Take all the time they need for you to pleasure around their sacred centers. Open the kundalini points fully, their chakra fully, and the energy surrounding the lingham and the yoni. When you do finally make direct contact, be sure to ask their permission, and follow the next sequence of steps of moving slowly and asking questions. 

Diving Deep

When they have said, "Yes", and can't wait any longer, it is now time for their complete rush of passion. Be sure you can handle feedback, requests for more, less, or any changes in momentum, pressure, or technique. It is not that you are doing something wrong; it is more that they are more in tune with their own body and really want to do something right! When you listen, and listen fully, without getting the ego in the way, you will be giving them the gift of their dreams, and then you will know how to do it again, and again, and again! When you can handle feedback, you get everything; including the person you love the most!

AHO!

Asttarte

http://www.amazon.com/How-Make-Sacred-Love-Woman/dp/1475003293/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpt_9

Have you ever wondered why you haven't been able to connect to a woman? Have you ever struggled in getting close to the woman you love? Here is an excellent book that explains the process of a woman's unfolding and from a man's and a woman's point of view what women really need. It also has a section in the book of my own writing that has been published and is the beginning seed of many to follow!

Enjoy!

Some Women Orgasm During Exercise

Some Women Orgasm During Exercise

Thanks Jim for sharing!

Withholding Love from those You Love

When you withhold love from the people you love, what is it you are gaining? Are you withholding in order to protect yourself? Are you holding onto resentment or regret? How long will you continue to hold onto these feelings? Are you doing it because you feel you are right? How does it feel to be right? Does it make you feel strong, proud, confident or some other emotion?

Choosing to be right is the old paradigm of communication and only creates distance, separation, upset, and keeps your-self under control; rather than dealing with how you really feel; a loss for the connection to the person you love.

How many people do you choose to withhold your love from? If you think about it, there are probably at least half a dozen people you are withholding love from. If you are not feeling utter peace and joy in the presence of those you care about, you are withholding love; even in the subtlest capacity.

Withholding your love keeps your body in an armored state; your chest becomes tighter, your breathing is more shallow, your body feels rigid and anxious.

More to Come......

Mothers As Sexual Beings

As a Parent, you have a lot of responsibilities. There are many people in your life that you need to consider how they feel, but you must not forget, in particular as a woman, how important you are, and how imperative it is in getting your own needs met. Women who avoid their personal, intimate and sexual needs often start out as being irritable, then they move to disgust and anger, and eventually they go numb. They can spend many years forgetting that their body is in need of touch, and live life unfulfilled and with a huge void where pressures of their children, work, and their external family become more important. They then live in a reality where their intimate selves are completely pushed under the carpet and they don't even know that they exist. Their bodies become armored, stiff, stuck in a cave hidden to their own passions; their own pleasures and most importantly forgetting their inner hearts and the love that is deep inside of them.

This then sets up a trap for her husband, her co-parent in action and they then move from lovers to perhaps best friends or business partners. They justify their lack of intimacy that their children are more important and "they really need us right now." However, consider this: when you are unhappy, when your body is guarded, when you are not seen as a sexual beautiful woman or are not letting yourself be seen as a beautiful woman of pleasure, joy and power, your children will feel this. They will feel your suppression. They will feel your anger. They will feel your frustration, because most likely, you will put more energy into the children. You will react more to their behaviors and become more disciplinarian with them. And this then sets up another trap; your children avoiding you, or becoming distant from you; the one thing you truly did NOT want to happen.

Children who see their parents in love, sharing love, and experiencing love with each other grow up to view intimacy with others in a more natural healthy way. When children grow up viewing their parents; their direct most important and significant teachers, avoiding each other, giving each other the silent treatment or in other words not speaking about topics that are crucial to their relationship, to their sexual life and to their family, the children learn from this. They grow up thinking it is okay to keep secrets from people, that it is ok to avoid the people they love, that it is normal to not be close to the people they love, and this then sets them up for failure. They lose their self in this reality of what they believe to be true. They have no other role models that are more important than their parents. And when you want to be a good parent and a good teacher to your children, express your sexual self to your husband, your Beloved, your Lover and don't make him your friend or business partner.

If you have young children, of course you want to express your full sexual desires in the bedroom AFTER your child is asleep, however your affections with each other after the fact bring long term affects, to each other and to your children. The love you bring to each other gets shared and spread out throughout your whole family. Everyone will feel it, and EVERYONE will benefit.

See also my site for Women: www.FlowerofAWoman.com

Keeping Your Energy Flowing

Blessings Amazing Beings! I wanted to share with you a new breakthrough I've had in performance, effectiveness, and keeping my own energy flowing, spiraling and alive. Here is a little sharing on this new-found awareness and what you too can do to keep yourself from needing to drink coffee all day, and get things done that are really important to you!

Much Love to ALL of you!!!!

Asttarte

Creating Intimacy with A Woman

Here is my first video I made on the Dynamics and Approaching a Woman in your life. There will definitely be a Volume 2, and so on to this, and I may at some point re-do the 1st one and create an Introduction instead. However, this is the 2nd video I made. Like I said, these are the baby steps to creating videos. I may be getting some professionals to help out of this, or I may just get better at doing this myself. I'll be playing with different lighting, backgrounds, and spacial arrangements to see what is best, but the delivery is good. I hope you enjoy this, and find it, at the least, a bit helpful.

I was not looking at notes in this one. I was just looking down while I was thinking and choosing my next words. I sometimes pause to think of what I am going to say next. I like the distance of my face the best in this, but I will be creative with this process with you, and am happy to make changes as people recommend things to try.

I am in the process of creating a Video for the Book: Mystery of Women, and will be working on getting this succinct. I am enjoying this journey of sharing what I love to you, and hope you are enjoying my journey of giving it just as much!




Namaste~

Asttarte

Getting Your Sexual Energy to Move

Many people come to me for Tantra Massage, and are interested in having a Sensual experience. However, some people come without the desire to work with their own energy, or are aware of how their own energy has a HUGE impact on the way the Session is going to go. I am a conduit for energy and can help people shape it in any way they want. I can help expand it, light it up, get it flowing, get it relaxing, get it circulating, get it cooled off, bring movement to it, or bring it to stillness.

The energy around the body and the energy inside the body have a HUGE impact to how much pleasure you will receive and experience during a Session, and in the exchange of sexual experiences in your life. I am getting read yo create a video on this topic, but since I have a client coming momentarily, I don't have a lot of time to put these thoughts and ideas into action. However, if my client is late, I will have a larger moment to express this. For now, I will do so here.

A lot of people come to Massage Therapists for a relaxing experience and often times they will come to them and feel a level of arousal that they wish to emit from the body. However, not all massages will bring someone to a level of arousal. Only those who are close to arousal, or have a high sex drive are able to get to a place of arousal with a simple massage. Someone who is trained in energy, and Tantra only can help those who have contracted, or repressed energy move to a place of pleasure (that I am aware of).

Here is a simple example of explaining how I might go about this:
(There are other ways I might move energy, but here is a sample of one I did recently that I found to be extremely powerful).

1. Start with gentle breathing and relaxing your body with your breath.
2. Place your hand on your abdomen or belly and let your hand move your body into grounding and a deeper place of breathing into the body.
3. Visualize your energy moving from the top of your head, down to the body of your spinal column, and then down your legs and into the earth.
4. This next part is the MOST important. This is where I will come in and discover where your energy might be stagnant, repressed, guarded, blocked, or leaking.
5. Then I will go into that area and bring awareness to it, communicate this awareness and perhaps do some Coaching to help you get it moving, as well as interject and work with your energy to help you.
6. Next we may move to the floor
7. I'll doing Laying on of Hands here, perhaps holding them from behind, and filling them up with my Healing Energy to help them expand the Sensation of love.
8. Then I may help them move their Kundalini Energy
9. THEN move into Tantric Massage
10. The rest is History!
11. Complete with a kiss!

I created a video out of writing this. Yes, it IS my first video ever! Please forgive me that the camera fell in a moment, and the lighting gets a little dark as the sun starts to go down (about 10 or 11 minutes in), but I tried finding a way to edit it with no success. I used my camera in this. My eyes blinked a lot in the beginning and I am not perfect, but this was my first attempt. I recommend keeping the volume low, but do what works for you. My 2nd video I used a Webcam. My next video I will find a way to set up the camera or Webcam so I am directly in front and looking at the camera, and with perhaps better lighting, etc, but this isn't bad and it's a great start. As in building sites, blogs and the like, I know I will keep practicing and getting better. Here's to a new beginning!





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Namaste!

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Communities & Events You've Been Asking Me For

Local Meetup Groups
http://www.meetup.com/BmorePoly/
http://www.meetup.com/TantraWisdom/
http://www.meetup.com/The-Erotic-Literary-Salon/
http://www.meetup.com/Hunterdon-CountyTantraAwakeningMeetup-com/
http://www.meetup.com/phillypoly/

Active Yahoo Groups Close to Philly
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ExpansiveLoving/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/TantricShamanism/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sandboxexplorations/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/REAL_NATURISTS/

For Women:
http://www.meetup.com/wellness-263/
http://www.meetup.com/Sacred-AwakeningsThe-Dance-Of-The-Goddess/

I am sure there are more if you decide to search for them yourself! I have been known to be a good networker, so if there is a type of Community you would like to connect with, just let me know!

Why I Love Coconut Oil

Have you ever heard of Coconut Oil as a substitute for erotic lubricant? Why would someone consider this as even a possibility? What are the benefits of using Coconut Oil?

Most people use lubricants such as KY jelly, or other such synthetic made lubricants commonly found at the Drug Store or Grocery Store. However, these stores don't know what the best naturally made products are for someone and usually sell the run of the mill company made or products that can made at a lower such with a higher volume. However, the extra couple dollars for Coconut Oil, has SO many added benefits, I wanted to write a specific post just for this.

What Coconut Oil is to me:

Coconut Oil is an organic natural oil that actually feels like magic when you place it on the body. It is made for cooking, so naturally it is something that is good for the inside of the body. But not only is it good for cooking, but good for your skin and your pleasure! The oils made of Coconuts when found as Organic Extra Virgin feel so unbelievably delicious on the body, you can literally moan with pleasure with the slightest touch just slowly rubbing it on the skin. AND, it smells and tastes delicious. I LOVE putting it on my partner, and then slowly licking it with my tongue. Talk about arousal at its best!

However, Coconut Oil, I feel is best used when giving yourself pleasure. Don't get me wrong, it is ALSO amazing when giving delicately and intimately with someone you care about, so long as you are giving them the ultimate and divine attention. However, when alone, and you want to give yourself love, treat yourself as though you are the perfect lover, and make love to yourself with Coconut Oil. I promise you, you will never have had an experience like this before. It forces you to go inward with its rich aroma, and as this aroma goes into your body it slowly nourishes you from the inside out. It actually is a very powerful healing oil and is used often in India for Healing the body. And, it is an oil commonly found in Tai Food; which I ABSOLUTELY love; a rare treat you don't want to give up when you're in the mood!

First you want to scoop up the oil in the bottle, as it is cold and firm from being in the room temperature. THEN, you want to squeeze it into your hands and let it melt on your fingertips. After it has melted in your hands, then it is the perfect time to rub it on your body. You don't want to wait until it melts too much, because then it will turn like water and will be too liquid. Rub it caressingly and slowly over your belly, your inner thighs and let your body feel the sensation of your skin touching skin. It feels like silk running across your body, and it is such a divine experience! Sometimes the sensation of just rubbing it on the skin without going anywhere too personal is fulfilling enough and you feel as though you are utterly satisfied. Although, there is more to come.

When you are ready to pleasure your body in more depth, don't forget to massage your chest, your arms, your belly, your hips and your pubic bone area. This helps stimulate your senses to help open you up to a richer experience. Then when you are ready to be fully satisfied, remember to move as though your breath is moving you. Don't try to rush or speed up the process; otherwise, you've lost the joy of the pleasure and satisfaction becomes like a 5 minute quicky. Take your time. Massage yourself with this Coconut Oil for 30 minutes or even hours if you like, but you will feel fulfilled and totally in love with the Coconut Oil, and yourself when you are done! And, at this point, you can't tell anyone you don't love yourself, because you have given yourself the gentle time that your body and heart really needed. If your lover isn't around to take care of you, that's ok. This is sometimes better than sex!

The Best Types of Coconut Oil:

Organic Extra Virgin Coconut Oil
The ones best for cooking!
Be sure to read the labels!
If you look closely, it may even say great for massages!

Expeller Pressed is also ok, but Extra Virgin is a little finer and smoother!

I have been using Coconut Oil is my Sessions with clients and myself the past few months and the experiences have been delicious!

Getting the Sexual Energy You Need - The Beginning

Everyone has different levels of need and desire for their sexual passions to be filled, and for different reasons in people's lives their needs don't get filled. Some people are single, some are parents with no or very little time, some have a medical or health condition, and some are couples but the desire or commitment to pleasure has diminished or is completely gone.

What are the best things you can do to feel your own sexual energy when you are alone? Some people like to exercise as exercise increases your physical energy, raises endorphins, opens up pheromone secretions, helps circulate the energy throughout your body and reduces stress. All of these things help you to feel your own sexual energy and your own power.

Creative expressions and art is another expression. Creative energy and artistic expression is built from your 2nd chakra; as this is your pleasure zone of the body. When you release creative passions and artistic expression, you are using your own sexual energy, raising it and releasing it through a loving and healthy form. It helps one to feel their own sexual energy, channel it with beauty and coming to the height of it; a climax and orgasm when a project is complete and satisfies you. Many people who have a lot of energy are also very creative at heart.

Some people like to connect to the elements of the earth and nature to feel an energetic rise or release. Standing on the Earth, on the grass and dirt, sitting or lying on the ground cleanses ones spirit and sometimes if you're sensitive, can bring a rush of sensual pleasure. Being amongst plants or trees can be utterly refreshing and many like to live in the suburbs or country for this reason alone. Building a fire and standing or sitting amongst its flames, feeling the energy of the heat can fill ones soul with relief and satisfaction. There are many tribes of the past and communities in the present created to suit this purpose alone.

However, the most fulfilling of sexual energy comes from an exchange with another person. What are some Ways of Exchanging Sexual Energy?

Well, in Tantra, the breath is key! When you breathe with intention, you're creating the energy of life! It only makes sense that this is the time you can sometimes create a true life during this process when the energy is aligned, the love connection is strong enough and the souls link up, that a new life is created. When you breathe with the intention of giving, you help lift the spirits, nourish, relax, or increase the energy of another. When you breathe with the intention of receiving, you feel filled with life, joy, peace and pleasure. However, be wary of your giver knowing or agreeing for the exchange to happen; otherwise they might leave feeling exhausted, drained, and perhaps used or confused.

Eye gazing, holding hands, the yab yum, cuddling, energy scanning each other, massaging each other, pleasuring each other, and of course making love are all excellent ways of feeling fulfilled from the sexual energy you crave and deserve.

How do you ask for someone you love or care about to give you the intimacy and sexual energy you desire when they feel easily intimidated, overwhelmed, bashful, stressed, or are distracted with life?

You can start with making it about you, and not about them. Share with them how it makes you feel when you connect to them; rather than asking or telling them what you want. When you share with them what it means to you to connect to them, they see your authentic self and your heart, and when you make demands or requests all they see are demands, and this can often turn people off; unless they're the submissive type. However, most people like to know that they're in control of the decisions they make, and when they're not given the choice, their initial first response is to first negate or reject, but when offered as a request or suggestion, they have the chance to consider it and to give their own answer. And, usually their answer is Yes!

<3 Love! ***

Spiritual Insight - Element Test

I pulled this from a Quiz site, and found it to be a useful awareness.


What Element or Elements are You Most Aligned With?

The four basic elements are air, earth, fire, and water. This ten question quiz will help you define what characteristics and preferences you have that align with the four basic elements. Understanding what each element represents helps us evaluate where our individual strengths and weaknesses are. Look to any elements that you are not aligned with to discover pieces that may be missing or lacking in your life.

My Quiz Answers were:

"Remarkably, you are aligned with each of the four elements equally. AIR EARTH, FIRE, and WATER.
Air represents intellect, mental intention, and connection to universal life force. Earth represents grounding, foundation of life, substance, connection to life path, and family roots. Fire represents energy, tool for transformation, connection to personal power, and inner strength. Water represents emotional release, intuition, and inner reflection."

Take the Quiz

I found this to be interesting, because of my passionate connection to all elements of the Earth. Elemental Practices is what keep me most balanced in my Spiritual Life, and I life to integrate the positive aspects of all elements in my work, my teachings and healing myself. This is a nice confirmation that a balance to all aspects of nature and life are important and one is not any more important than another. They each have something to offer us and to teach us. Even in our deepest moments of intimacy and relationships, does working with the elements in your Tantric practice benefit you!

I would like to offer that I am a Reiki Master of several types of Reiki; one which is my MOST (they are all awesome) favorite is called Tera-Mei Seichem Reiki. It is a Reiki that was first created in Hawaii and has to do with bringing in the energies from the elements of the Earth and utilizing for balance, cleansing, releasing and healing; the physical body and the aura. If anyone is interested in becoming Reiki Trained, please let me know. This is the foundation of my Practice that I've been doing since 1997.

How Much Energy is She Stealing From You? (included links)

Do you experience interactions with people who drain you? Do they fight with you even when you offer compassion or support and continue pushing you into an argument? I realized yesterday morning that this is what had been happening to me. Although Rama passed, I don't want to give him all the credit to what happened in my own energy system. I am a powerful conduit for energy, and because of how giving I am, and sensitive to who I surround myself with, I sometimes overlook the fact that some people I deal with, who I do my best to offer support, actually do anything they can to take my loving energy. You would think I would have figured this out sooner since I've been a Reiki Master for about 14 years, however, when in the midst of it, sometimes the shadow of the moment eludes me.


I am presently in a Seminar Program and chose to be the Leader of a Group. I am actually in an extremely powerful group with Senior graduates who have been doing this work for over 10 or 15 years. However, there is one person who is in my Group I have been dealing with that actually has what most would put it, pushed my buttons. She interrupts, offers advice or coaching when unwanted or necessary and looks for ways to make people justify who they are, their actions and their choices. However, I chose to be the Leader, and I am out to cause people's greatness, transformations and contribute to what it is they are dealing with. However this person has not wanted help. My experience is that anger just releases out of her in most situations and what I had done in the past couple months was just keep my distance. I didn't really know how to be with this type of person. I also was confused as to how someone could be this angry and have done all this work on herself for over 25 years, but I realize now that is not my place to judge.


What was so was that she terrified me. I imagined her as Medusa with snakes coming out of her head. I would get coaching from others but it didn't really diminish how she made me feel. Over two months have gone by and this pretty much didn't change. Then recently she decided to confront "me". She wanted to talk to "coach" me and see why her, what I termed as being a bully, pushed me into avoiding her. We spoke over the phone and it didn't go anywhere. I had asked her if she would please let this go and let me work this out on my own and get coaching from others, and she didn't like that either. She expressed how she didn't like how I give people space to think and come up with their own answers and be present in someone's moment. She shared how she didn't like this either. The silence triggered her. So I finally decided to deal with this and see how I could contribute to her; despite how she was treating me. I realized that she must be dealing with something really big to be this angry, and I expressed that it wasn't ok for her to lash out her anger at anyone anytime she felt like it, or forced them into conversations when they didn't want to talk. However, I offered that I would be a stand for her to get the support she needs and be a space of forgiveness, compassion and love, AND that I will step in and create a boundary when necessary. I sent her and the Group a letter expressing my stand, my contribution and thanked her for helping me face in my own healing process the bully's that I've had to deal with in my past. I got to get clear with my own mother in how she forced me to clean religiously, weekly, hourly, and compulsively for years. Now, the resistance to cleaning is gone and I am cleaning my place to make it spectacular and am excited about that!


However, I realized that she literally sucked the life out of me. My energy was zapped, drained for weeks that turned into a couple months and it dawned on me yesterday to do a clearing of my energy connection to her. The term Energy Vampires has become a popular phenomenon these past few years with the Vampire movies coming out. However, there is some definite truth to the meaning of Vampire, taking away the myth, or perhaps old history that blood is involved. However, there are people out there who get a hit off of taking other peoples energy. Usually these people are those who are depressed and their energy is so low that they need others to help them feel happy and filled with life. Whatever this means to you or me, doesn't matter (in this moment), and could perhaps involve heavy conversation, but what does matter is the result to bring something positive. I have cut my energy from her and low and behold I feel magnificent.

From now on, I will put a post it note in different places in my home, to remind myself if someone is needing me, or had attacked me energetically, that I will probably need to clear myself of them and protect my energy of them in the future. Next step, a new school for my son, or cooperative program with other parents!

Love to you all!

Cutting Cords to Toxic Relationships
Exercises to alleviate the pain and suffering from relationships that are no longer working.

Be Wary of Energy Suckers
When an attack takes place, the Psychic Vampire receives an energy surge while the victim experiences fatigue.

Psychic Vampires
How to Stop Psychic Vampires from Draining your Energy

Accidental Cancelation - Temple of Love Meetup Group

As you all know, I've had a Meetup Group called Temple of Love for a couple of years now. In being a part time Practitioner, and mostly stay at home mom, I haven't had the freedom that I have wanted to live my own life. AND, I have been committed to offering the love to my son that I didn't get from my own parents! However, I realize there is a conflict here. I want to do what I love; have a strong Practice for Healing others, continue to be fully expressed as an artist (writer, singer, etc), and live powerfully and with joy AND spend plenty of time with my son and my family!

I realize my commitment has been more to my son than to anything else, and I also know that doesn't really work for everyone involved! So, I am brewing a new possibility for a Meetup Group and/or Gatherings that may (or may not) include my son where he gets to be a part of a vibrant, conscious, loving and Gentle Tantra Community (with other children so the parents can express who they are) OR gatherings of other parents and their children where we can play, connect, with a common interest of tantra, metaphysics, the arts, and a yogic or hippy type of lifestyle.

There is a possibility that I can renew the Temple of Love Meetup Group. It actually was canceled by mistake and I am in conversation with the Meetup Administrators to possibly resolve this. However, I ALSO still have the Community called http://EastCoastTantra.ning.com that has been pretty in-active. And, too much going on can become quite disconcerting and confusing. This may be the universe's way of cleaning up what is unneeded and put more energy into the http://EastCoastTantra.ning.com Group! I will keep you posted and let you know what happens!

If anyone has any feedback or a preference, please let me know!

Asttarte

The New Year - Letting Go of the Past

The new year is still fresh and for the richness of this sharing, I offer you a new place of power and enlightenment of what was, and what is now aware to me, and the future I am moving into!

The past few months have been a deep time of personal healing for me, and I apologize I did not share with you my depth of growth and what has come out of this time, but as I write here now, I humbly offer you my love and apologize for perhaps not being a shining light for you in helping support you in yours!

As you all know, my Beloved friend Rama is now gone! This brought up a lot for me. I hadn't lost someone who was that close to me since I was a young child. It was a big deal to me for one very powerful reason in particular. He was a very positive support system in my life; period, and his love was more powerful than I had realized. All my life, I had to be the Warrior and overcome a HUGE load of abuse. I had to parent myself, find other parents to perhaps love me, and do the best I could to leave an abusive home environment, when at all possible. I stayed away, lived my own life, stayed after school, befriended my teachers, tutors or other parents of my friends in order to receive the parental love I truly needed. In the end, I had to parent myself. It has been close to 17 years since I began my own healing journey, which I started VERY young because I KNEW I had to.

In the Landmark Education program I came to peace with how my parents raised me and accepted that they knew no other way. I decided to forgive them and chose to be the Leader in my family's Healing, and bring love and joy whenever family functions occurred. I knew their way of parenting was what they were taught and was also something I have been committed to transform and create a new way of being in relationship with children.

I have healed what most don't get to heal in one lifetime, and know from experience anything can be healed. However, it DOES take work and commitment, and what I like to term as DETERMINATION! However, since I am still human and in a human body, there is still more work to be done. When there are times of absence, it is my body/and spirit's way of working on another layer. And, as I strive for perfection, I know that I already am perfect, and perfection is in the eye of the beholder!

I know I have so much to offer and so much to share how one little person can make a HUGE difference in other people's lives! I believe I am here to be of service to humanity and my greatest offering is to teach love; in giving and in receiving and to teach forgiveness, and what it means to open your heart, even to the people who hurt you the most!

Perhaps I am still healing some remainder of Child Abuse, and if I am not here for you in the way you want me to be, I am truly sorry. I will always come back to my passionate firey self, as this is a big part of who I am, and move into that joyous and playful state!

As I share my own growth, I know I get to be who it is I really love; me!

I love you all, and invite your emails, calls and messages!

Blessings,

Asttarte

Communication, the Phone and Messages

Happy Holidays again Sweet Beings,

I wanted to write to you, in acknowledgment, apologies, and understanding of what perhaps you might or might have been going through.

I realize that some of you never hear from me after you call and leave a message. And, in the past what was so was that my voice mail system with my phone company would store up to over 100 messages and never delete them. Even if I got to you a couple or more weeks later, I still got back to you. Now, what's occurring is that my phone provider actually deletes ALL of my messages after ONLY a couple weeks, and often I don't get to check all of them. They are gone before I can even see who has called. I realize that I am a solo Practitioner here in this office, and I am also a single mom, so of course I cannot check these messages every day. What would be great would be if the phone company allowed me to keep the messages stored for longer lengths of time with an additional payment, but they don't give this as an option.

So, first thing, I apologize for this occurrence and the lack of getting back to you. And, 2, I will do my best to check all of my messages every week when I am alone. I now have my phone forwarded to my cell, so if I am not at home and you call, I can always get the call when I am out.

I understand how frustrating this may be to many of you who are wondering if I am still here, or perhaps are considering seeing me again, or perhaps really need me and don't know why I haven't gotten back to you. If you don't hear from me within the time frame you need, PLEASE email me. That is the best solution right now! I also may be able to check these messages online, and will check this out as well. Or call, and it will go straight to my cell when I am out. If I am with my son, it will be brief, but at least I will get to talk to you for a moment!

Much Love, and Happy New Year everyone!

asttarte@sexblisslifecoach.com is my new email, or you can write to me at asttarte@asttartedeva.com

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Merry Christmas - a Universal Holiday

Hello my Beloved clients, Seekers of Truth and Love, and friends!

I first want to wish you ALL a Happy Holiday Season. (I apologize for my delayed message).

For some of you, you celebrate Hanukkah, some it is Yule, some Winter Solstice, some other Religious Celebrations, and for many it is Christmas. I grew up in a Strong German Catholic background, and although this still my be my parents beliefs, it is no longer my own.

What I find fascinating, is that there is becoming a Universality to the Christmas Holiday, and it is less about the Religion Christianity, and more about family, togetherness, fun and celebration! For this reason, I continue to celebrate this Holiday.

The Christmas tree is actually about reminding us that soon it will be Spring, and to bring a Spirit of Beauty and Harvest, and to awaken the life of plants and growth in a time that is so dark and cold.

If I could I would celebrate all the Religious festivities, however, what's exciting is that Christmas is just so fun! I love how there are so many movies to watch, and media around the Holiday, and I see it less about promoting a religion, but instead a Holiday that the Whole World comes together; in spirit, love, and celebration!

I wish you all the best and joyous celebration during this Holiday Season, in whatever fashion or flavor you celebrate, and make it as delicious and pleasurable as possible! Even those yummy pieces of chocolate, or treats of pie or cake can hold a memory of unfathomable pleasure in your mouth. We all deserve to have pleasure, and it takes MANY forms!

MUCH MUCH Love! I care about all of you and wish you a beautiful Holiday Season, and an amazing Happy New Year!

Love, Asttarte

Update on My Beloved Friend Rama Bala

My dear Beloved friend Rama is still here with us, in spirit, and my acknowledgment is some new information I recently discovered.

What apparently was the case, was that 20 years ago, he had been suffering from a form of Leukemia called Hodgkin's Disease. He was suffering from this for 10 years until 10 years ago, when it was considered cured. However, what a few of us believe, is that it was actually laying dormant in his body. And, something like the food poisoning he acquired back in March of 2011, actually triggered what was already there.

The doctors actually did do the best they could do. They knew what they were treating was not food poisoning anymore. All of his symptoms were actually the same symptoms of someone suffering from Leukemia. He resisted this information and was firm that that the "food poisoning" was the culprit. I believed him since I hadn't been talking to anyone who was treating him throughout this process and was sort-of in the unknown.

He kept many friends in the dark that he didn't want around, not because of embarrassment, but because of pride. He was too proud to believe that this was actually happening. Even though we ALL loved him VERY much and wished we could be there for him.

I don't have any new digital photos of him yet, but soon will be editing this post with a new picture of him.

What I am most attune to, is a STRONG intuitive sense that his father may not choose to live much longer. He lost, I believe his favorite son and his wife not that long ago. He is feeling a sense of not really wanting to be around because of this. Please pray for his father! He needs the most prayers now, and his family!

MUCH MUCH Love to ALL of you!!!!

Asttarte

Remembering Rama!!!

(Sharing of Rama Bala on Commonground Fellowship)

One of my best friends just recently passed away.

I am still in total shock of his passing. I found out on Thursday, Dec. 15th, in a text message. I was just waiting for him to get out of a rehab center. He was on his way to health, and he was embarrassed to have me see him the way he was, and requested powerfully for me to not visit him. I now wish I didn't listen to him.

We spoke over the phone often throughout his entire journey to recovery and I feel as though the doctors who were treating him didn't really know how to treat him; they were unsure of what his real diagnosis was and he was treated like a guinea pig. I remember talking to him about filing a complaint on food poisoning to the Health Department as this is what triggered the start of the illness. I may want to follow up on this for him.

This is very sad news for all of us who knew him. Who he was for me was someone who truly cared about humanity and people. He was one of the most kind and loving people I've ever known, and some of the kindness that would come out of him would completely blow me away. He honored, respected and appreciated me more than anyone I've ever known. In truth, he adored me and it was a closeness I haven't had in a very long time. We were incredible friends and he looked up to me often to help him in his relationships.He was someone that always had a smile on his face, but deep down he was really sad and lonely.

People appreciated him, respected him and looked up to him as a teacher. He was an incredible musician; a genius, and has been performing all over the world for the past decade. I just found out last night that his father who taught him everything he knew is a legend in music in India and in the United States and his compositions are all around the world. And my dear friend shared that knowledge with everyone he knew.

He performed in a band with David Newman and he would often come home from being on tour and spend some time with me. He would share with me the difficulties he had with his friend David, but my dear friend Rama never once judged him or made him wrong for who he was. He was incredibly loyal and devoted to the people in his life. He is known by many in the Yoga Communities, as well as some of those in Common Ground.

The past year and 1/2 he started teaching music to young children and a few of his students were at the memorial last night. I got to share with them what he meant to me in private and they shared with me what he meant to them. He was deeply loved, and he will be very very missed.

I will be in communication with his family and available to support them in their time of grieving. I know his father is impacted the most, and I feel more sad for him than anyone. Rama was supporting him in his own health and taking care of him. Now his father is at a treatment center and is being cared for by nurses. My heart is open to his whole family, and my heart has been blown open because of this. I will be grieving for perhaps some time as well.

May you all please pray to him. He is still here hanging around on the Earth realms and is easily available in Spirit when called upon. I know he trying to make sense of all of this as well!

I'm sorry to be writing this to you this late. There was a memorial service for him this past Friday, Dec. 16th at Jai Yoga Studio and on Saturday evening at Yoga on Main in Manayunk, PA. I was grieving deeply all weekend, so to those who are just getting this message, please know my heart is with you. If you wish to reach out to me, or want to connect to anyone who was impacted, feel free to let me know!

Much Love, Asttarte





Teardrop Blues by Cattie


Sharing of Rama Bala on facebook!

It's been so many years that I've had someone this close to me die in my life; not since I was a young child. And, for one thing I am grateful in this moment is the opening he has brought to me in my heart. He is reminding me of the love I have for those I have closed my heart to, or have lost touch with for some time. I am forever grateful and look forward to connecting to you on the Astral Realm Rama! Rama Rama Bolo Jai Jai Sita Rama Bolo! Sri Ram, Jai Ram, Sri Krishna Govinda Hare......Hare Rama. Hare Rama. Sri Rama. Jai Rama. My Beloved Rama! Ommmmmm Love to you!!! (imagine music lyrics to this as you read).

Rama Bala is not the one singing in the video above. It is David Newman's composition from the Kirtan Yoga and Music Community here in Philadelphia I've been a part of for about 10 years. However, Rama is a Musical GENIUS and helped David on many levels become the success he is today. Rama's father taught him everything he knows and is considered a Musical Legend here in the States and in India and has compositions in Ashrams, Temples and places ALL over the Globe! Rama and I played music together often and I was VERY close to recording with him. Perhaps this will inspire to share my musical voice with someone else, in devotion of my friend Rama! I am still trying to accept this myself. I wrote a blogpost on this in my other Spiritual Community, http://CommongroundFellowship.com/. Part of this blogpost is a copy.

Please celebrate this amazing beings life with me! He passed recently, from food poisoning! Please take this as a reminder of what we put in our bodies, and how important it is to use caution when putting food in the body. This is a time of deep grief right now. Please pray for Rama, his family, friends and myself and that we accept this loss easily and with love! I love you all and am thinking of you!

I will forever remember him during the Christmas and Hanukkah Season!

Much Love, Asttarte