Why I Love Coconut Oil

Have you ever heard of Coconut Oil as a substitute for erotic lubricant? Why would someone consider this as even a possibility? What are the benefits of using Coconut Oil?

Most people use lubricants such as KY jelly, or other such synthetic made lubricants commonly found at the Drug Store or Grocery Store. However, these stores don't know what the best naturally made products are for someone and usually sell the run of the mill company made or products that can made at a lower such with a higher volume. However, the extra couple dollars for Coconut Oil, has SO many added benefits, I wanted to write a specific post just for this.

What Coconut Oil is to me:

Coconut Oil is an organic natural oil that actually feels like magic when you place it on the body. It is made for cooking, so naturally it is something that is good for the inside of the body. But not only is it good for cooking, but good for your skin and your pleasure! The oils made of Coconuts when found as Organic Extra Virgin feel so unbelievably delicious on the body, you can literally moan with pleasure with the slightest touch just slowly rubbing it on the skin. AND, it smells and tastes delicious. I LOVE putting it on my partner, and then slowly licking it with my tongue. Talk about arousal at its best!

However, Coconut Oil, I feel is best used when giving yourself pleasure. Don't get me wrong, it is ALSO amazing when giving delicately and intimately with someone you care about, so long as you are giving them the ultimate and divine attention. However, when alone, and you want to give yourself love, treat yourself as though you are the perfect lover, and make love to yourself with Coconut Oil. I promise you, you will never have had an experience like this before. It forces you to go inward with its rich aroma, and as this aroma goes into your body it slowly nourishes you from the inside out. It actually is a very powerful healing oil and is used often in India for Healing the body. And, it is an oil commonly found in Tai Food; which I ABSOLUTELY love; a rare treat you don't want to give up when you're in the mood!

First you want to scoop up the oil in the bottle, as it is cold and firm from being in the room temperature. THEN, you want to squeeze it into your hands and let it melt on your fingertips. After it has melted in your hands, then it is the perfect time to rub it on your body. You don't want to wait until it melts too much, because then it will turn like water and will be too liquid. Rub it caressingly and slowly over your belly, your inner thighs and let your body feel the sensation of your skin touching skin. It feels like silk running across your body, and it is such a divine experience! Sometimes the sensation of just rubbing it on the skin without going anywhere too personal is fulfilling enough and you feel as though you are utterly satisfied. Although, there is more to come.

When you are ready to pleasure your body in more depth, don't forget to massage your chest, your arms, your belly, your hips and your pubic bone area. This helps stimulate your senses to help open you up to a richer experience. Then when you are ready to be fully satisfied, remember to move as though your breath is moving you. Don't try to rush or speed up the process; otherwise, you've lost the joy of the pleasure and satisfaction becomes like a 5 minute quicky. Take your time. Massage yourself with this Coconut Oil for 30 minutes or even hours if you like, but you will feel fulfilled and totally in love with the Coconut Oil, and yourself when you are done! And, at this point, you can't tell anyone you don't love yourself, because you have given yourself the gentle time that your body and heart really needed. If your lover isn't around to take care of you, that's ok. This is sometimes better than sex!

The Best Types of Coconut Oil:

Organic Extra Virgin Coconut Oil
The ones best for cooking!
Be sure to read the labels!
If you look closely, it may even say great for massages!

Expeller Pressed is also ok, but Extra Virgin is a little finer and smoother!

I have been using Coconut Oil is my Sessions with clients and myself the past few months and the experiences have been delicious!

Remembering Rama!!!

(Sharing of Rama Bala on Commonground Fellowship)

One of my best friends just recently passed away.

I am still in total shock of his passing. I found out on Thursday, Dec. 15th, in a text message. I was just waiting for him to get out of a rehab center. He was on his way to health, and he was embarrassed to have me see him the way he was, and requested powerfully for me to not visit him. I now wish I didn't listen to him.

We spoke over the phone often throughout his entire journey to recovery and I feel as though the doctors who were treating him didn't really know how to treat him; they were unsure of what his real diagnosis was and he was treated like a guinea pig. I remember talking to him about filing a complaint on food poisoning to the Health Department as this is what triggered the start of the illness. I may want to follow up on this for him.

This is very sad news for all of us who knew him. Who he was for me was someone who truly cared about humanity and people. He was one of the most kind and loving people I've ever known, and some of the kindness that would come out of him would completely blow me away. He honored, respected and appreciated me more than anyone I've ever known. In truth, he adored me and it was a closeness I haven't had in a very long time. We were incredible friends and he looked up to me often to help him in his relationships.He was someone that always had a smile on his face, but deep down he was really sad and lonely.

People appreciated him, respected him and looked up to him as a teacher. He was an incredible musician; a genius, and has been performing all over the world for the past decade. I just found out last night that his father who taught him everything he knew is a legend in music in India and in the United States and his compositions are all around the world. And my dear friend shared that knowledge with everyone he knew.

He performed in a band with David Newman and he would often come home from being on tour and spend some time with me. He would share with me the difficulties he had with his friend David, but my dear friend Rama never once judged him or made him wrong for who he was. He was incredibly loyal and devoted to the people in his life. He is known by many in the Yoga Communities, as well as some of those in Common Ground.

The past year and 1/2 he started teaching music to young children and a few of his students were at the memorial last night. I got to share with them what he meant to me in private and they shared with me what he meant to them. He was deeply loved, and he will be very very missed.

I will be in communication with his family and available to support them in their time of grieving. I know his father is impacted the most, and I feel more sad for him than anyone. Rama was supporting him in his own health and taking care of him. Now his father is at a treatment center and is being cared for by nurses. My heart is open to his whole family, and my heart has been blown open because of this. I will be grieving for perhaps some time as well.

May you all please pray to him. He is still here hanging around on the Earth realms and is easily available in Spirit when called upon. I know he trying to make sense of all of this as well!

I'm sorry to be writing this to you this late. There was a memorial service for him this past Friday, Dec. 16th at Jai Yoga Studio and on Saturday evening at Yoga on Main in Manayunk, PA. I was grieving deeply all weekend, so to those who are just getting this message, please know my heart is with you. If you wish to reach out to me, or want to connect to anyone who was impacted, feel free to let me know!

Much Love, Asttarte





Teardrop Blues by Cattie


Sharing of Rama Bala on facebook!

It's been so many years that I've had someone this close to me die in my life; not since I was a young child. And, for one thing I am grateful in this moment is the opening he has brought to me in my heart. He is reminding me of the love I have for those I have closed my heart to, or have lost touch with for some time. I am forever grateful and look forward to connecting to you on the Astral Realm Rama! Rama Rama Bolo Jai Jai Sita Rama Bolo! Sri Ram, Jai Ram, Sri Krishna Govinda Hare......Hare Rama. Hare Rama. Sri Rama. Jai Rama. My Beloved Rama! Ommmmmm Love to you!!! (imagine music lyrics to this as you read).

Rama Bala is not the one singing in the video above. It is David Newman's composition from the Kirtan Yoga and Music Community here in Philadelphia I've been a part of for about 10 years. However, Rama is a Musical GENIUS and helped David on many levels become the success he is today. Rama's father taught him everything he knows and is considered a Musical Legend here in the States and in India and has compositions in Ashrams, Temples and places ALL over the Globe! Rama and I played music together often and I was VERY close to recording with him. Perhaps this will inspire to share my musical voice with someone else, in devotion of my friend Rama! I am still trying to accept this myself. I wrote a blogpost on this in my other Spiritual Community, http://CommongroundFellowship.com/. Part of this blogpost is a copy.

Please celebrate this amazing beings life with me! He passed recently, from food poisoning! Please take this as a reminder of what we put in our bodies, and how important it is to use caution when putting food in the body. This is a time of deep grief right now. Please pray for Rama, his family, friends and myself and that we accept this loss easily and with love! I love you all and am thinking of you!

I will forever remember him during the Christmas and Hanukkah Season!

Much Love, Asttarte

Tantric Sex - Hitler reacts

I laughed SOOO hard my eyes were tearing! OMG! This is SO funny! :-)

Protecting Your Sexy

You know the sayings, "Sexy is as sexy does~" and "You are who you hang around!"

Well, what do you do when all of the people you hang around or the person you sleep with (or are in a relationship with for that matter) is not letting you be your sexy and is holding you down?

How long do you let the people in your life hold you back? Do you keep hanging out with the same friends, or support them to help them open up to their potential? Do you stay in a relationship with a partner who has no sex drive and try to burst their bubble and open them up to you, or do you walk?

These are questions many contemplate. The people in your life are people you care about. You want to be happy with them. You want to grow with them. You don't want to hurt them by walking away, or yourself from having to grieve them and start the whole dating process all over again. But, do you ever question, is STAYING worth it? And, am I really being my full authentic self with this person? Will he/she EVER truly get me? How long am I willing to sacrifice my passion, my identity, my purpose?

As a VERY sexy and passionate person myself, I have asked these questions MANY times, and in the past unsuccessfully left a relationship only to be sucked back into it again. I realize the power that was lost in the process; the giving away of my own power, my own identity, and as I stand here and reclaim my true self again, it is so liberating and freeing to detach from someone who sucks the life out of you; literally!!!

But what do you do, if they try to convince you "OH, I know you love me!!!" or "Oh, hunny, we're meant to be together!" or "Baby, I need you!" "I'm nothing without you." or worse, if they demand you stay with them, "You HAVE to be with me." or perhaps if they do it secretly and unknowingly by manipulating your thoughts or beliefs and try to control you. How long will you let this continue going on? At some point, the manipulation HAS to stop, and the truth WILL set you free! YOU know you HAVE to walk, and no ounce of convincing will change your mind. You are ready, you are clear, and you set yourself free! This is a battle, I like to call, Protecting Your Sexy, because as time goes by, your sexiness elopes you when you stay, and when you detach, your sexiness flies!!! Only then do you see the truth, the cycle and can finally take a stand for yourself, protect your self, and walk away!

Some relationships just don't work, and some people in our lives are meant to be with us for a certain period of time, and when they keep holding you back from your true self, you know, the time has come!

I am here now, Protecting my own sexy! Do you care to join me in the quest?

I've learned some great new tools the past few weeks in Tantra, and I am available, here and would love to see you!

Here's to your sexiness, your passion, and your life!!! Cheers!!!

Taoist Tantra & Intimacy Retreat

Hi guys (and gals). I'm sorry to announce that I'm writing to you AFTER coming back from this Retreat, but all that has been going on all summer left me MIA, and I've been working through some of my own personal journey that I neglected to let you all know of this, prior to its happening. However, it was a private invitation, and a VERY small group of people.

NOW, I get to tell you of its happenings and the amazing experience received during this time!

First off, this happened in Caanan, NY, ALL the way at the tippy top of New York state right next to Massachusetts, and YES, I drove up there, alone! I wanted to drive to see all of the visions and settings across the land and get a feel for the energy up there, and re-kindle my desire to move to NY myself! I have a passion for the mountains, for nature, rocks and waterfalls. I do love the ocean and the beach, but I REALLY LOVE the mountains and the deep settings of the Earth! Just being in these areas

heightens my sensation for pleasure, for
bliss and a connection to Gaia, Nature Spirits and the Divine! There is nothing like it!

So, what was THIS Retreat like? Ahh, aren't all Tantra Vacations and Trainings amazing? Yes, they are, and this was NO exception! The purpose of this event was much different than my Beloved Baba Dez's Daka Dakini Conferences. Dez has practically no limits or boundaries in his trainings, and yet they offer an extraordinary experience filled with love, divinity and bliss. Where-as this event, was lead by Anton from Sexy Spirits in NY, a friend of mine I love, admire and adore! And he brought his gorgeous and sexy wife, and they both shared their love with all of the participants. It's SO amazing to see how a powerful Couple, that unconditionally give to each other, and ravish in each others pleasures and fantasies can be so fulfilling to their inner self and to a community at large! It was awe-inspiring! My dream man would be someone such as him; a Leader of a Tantric Community himself and completely Mastered the Art of Love, Pleasure and Orgasm! Yes, these beings take YEARS of training. It is not your hand me down, run of the mill training of being a horny teenager and growing up just adoring sex and touching a woman. It is a whole different ball game!

1). We learned how to pleasure a woman in an entirely different and loving fashion; one that did not include ejaculation and full blown orgasm, but one that included intimacy, patience and gentle orgasms that were stopped prior to its height; keeping the flame going for minutes or hours. And, the men just surrendered into giving, and were trained in this fashion so as to allow the woman he gave to, to experience what it felt like to be trusted and safe in his arms. There were three positions he practiced; the breast massage, the Do Date, and a position I don't know the name of, but where she was gently guided to lay over his legs face down with her legs wrapped around his waist as he practiced helping her open her energy in her entire rib cage, lower back and buttocks. All positions were done with MANY pillows, and we were trained how to recognize when someone would need a pillow, and to what degree.

2). Naked Yoga every morning! How joyful and relaxing and fun! Then we ran to the back where a stream filled with large rocks and small waterfalls overlapped the earth. The men graciously and gently guided us all through the water as we went to a deep part in the creek and jumped all the way in to let the water cover our entire bodies; naked and freezing! Wow, what a rush!

3). Tantra Tango; need I say more! You could wear as little or as much as you wanted and swing those hips around to step-step! (Yes, I later realized my sarong was in the way!)

4). Organic Food! We were seriously treated like Kings and Queens!

5). Cuddling with whoever you wanted in each series of practices in the Group Setting!

6). Energy Cleansing and Honoring the Self Ritual. I went into full body waves as I was finally given permission to be my true self and let all the muck from here in Philadelphia, just disappear and dissipate away from me!

7). Good Bye, but not good bye! We were all invited to Anton and Rita's soon to be official wedding that is to be scheduled within 6 months! This is now another one of my Beloved Tantra Communities, I dare not stray too far away from! Coming to this event, was my coming home!

If anyone is interested in being my trainee or receiver of this Taoist Art, please let me know. Guys and ladies!

I will share more with you of the summer coming soon!

Love you All, and NO, I have NOT stopped doing this work and don't plan to; ever!

Check out: http://www.sensualloveandintimacy.com/ for more info on the Retreat! The second Training will be in the Winter as a Part II Taoist Tantra Training and Healing for men!

PS. My Private Tantra and Sacred Sexuality Healing site was never taken down. Here it is just an FYI: http://GoddessofLove.us My very basic and old site! My Coaching site is http://IntimacyandLifeEnhancementCenter.com
Tantra, Coaching and Healing for Women is FlowerofAWoman.com

LOVE! <3

Gratitude for the Guys

After several weeks of going through my own personal journey of development, I came to a point of

being really down and fearful I could make it through the hurdles and take care of myself. After reaching out, and sharing my personal experience, and letting myself be available, I found that my present followers, clients and network was an amazing support and was so open and willing to be there for me, by letting me give to them in session. I was amazed to know the sincerity and commitment of their love and kindness and their immediate willingness to make a change so they could travel to see me.

I now have much appreciation for them in return and know, of those who see me, who is truly sincere in heart and devoted to me. I want to thank you ever so much for your love, your availability, your acknowledgement and your support. I also want to thank you for your patience, and your acceptance in knowing, I am still here and am also committed to you. As I continue on this journey of empowering myself, I know still, I am doing what I am called to do, and in alignment with my purpose.

For those of you who have not seen me in a while, I also want to thank you for being in my life. I know in your heart, if you were available and had the inspiration to see me, you would be here.

Some Questions to consider:

1). What do you do to honor and acknowledge the people in your life your gratitude for them?

2). Do you have a gratitude practice and what is it?

3). When someone gives to you without expecting anything in return, how do you respond? Do you give to others the same way, to them at a later time, or do you ignore it and forget it ever happened?

4). Do you celebrate the moments you are grateful or do you let time pass you by?

5). When you are grateful, do you tell others about it, or do you keep it to yourself?

6). If you’re not feeling gratitude in this moment, consider some times you were feeling grateful and go back to the people, community, or company you were grateful for, and acknowledge them. It just might make your day!

Thank you!

Just a little reminder that you all are very important beings and mean a lot to me.

Blessings,

Asttarte

Helping the Men by Healing the Woman

Post Coming Soon!

Grocery Shopping and Your Sexual Needs

Do you ever go to the grocery store, and after strolling and going to the check out realize that there are other items you "still" need to get? I often go to the Acme to get my trash bags, lunch baggies, water, fresh fruit in bulk, eggs, pastas, crackers, frozen meals and deserts, and then trek to the Trader Joe's for my sons vitamins, nuts, goat cheese, orange juice and yummy yogurt and then Whole Foods for their delicious soups, organic vegetables, "my" vitamins and teas, juice for my son, my nurturing magazines to read, etc. AND, more recently, even go to the Co-op to get healthy snacks and more natural sugar treats for my son. That's a heck of a lot of different grocery stores to go to, and not all at the same time, but do ever find yourself caught in the same situation where you need to go to multiple places to get all of your needs met?

Just like your sexual needs, your intimate and personal needs, you can't always get them met by the same person, or at least not all the time. Perhaps in the beginning of relationships it may appear you can get ALL your needs met by your honey, but as time moves on, you realize more of who they are and some of your needs are better off met by others.

Perhaps your significant other gives you great nurturing, cuddles you and is great to relax with, but you also have a desire for great sex, so you may find yourself being drawn to others, and sometimes without your partners consent. You may have a best friend at work or that you talk to every day that you can vent, talk to and really feel heard. And perhaps you can't always get the massage you deely desire and need from your Beloved, so you then turn to the Massage Parlor or Spa for this need. If you're a woman and you LOVE shopping, maybe your guy will turn you away when you make his request to join you, but you have a favorite shopping buddy you like to call on when you're "in the mood" to shop! Or if you're a guy and love to go bowling, have a "guys night out", or go hunting, your woman certainly and most probably isn't interested in joining you here! Sometimes it's okay to get your "other" needs met by other people. And, often, it's nice to get a little break away from the person you see the most. It sometimes allows you to appreciate them that much more, and gives you a reason to keep the relationship going, because in the end, they are the one you love the most.

The Best Way to Get All Your Needs Met:

Talk openly about ALL of your needs and what you are or are not getting met by your significant relationship.
Discuss your other considerations for fulfilling those needs.
Make agreements with each other to have them fulfilled.
If you have weekly needs, find a day and time that they are suited best.
If you have monthly needs or bi-monthly needs or every six months, be sure to discuss them so it doesn't become your partners problem or that they don't become the blame for your lack of happiness, but instead, you are in charge of your own life!
If your partner is not supportive of your needs getting met, you might want to seek a Couples, Family or Sex Therapist to work them out. Otherwise, you might be questioning your relationship and why you are in it.

May all Your Needs Be Met in the exact time you need them!

Love,

Asttarte

Daphne & Fred - My Best friend's hot

What's a girl gotta do to get a guys attention?

I LOVE this video! It reminds me of me in all my pursuits of a hot guy that is completely not interested in sex. What's a girl gotta do to get the guy she loves to notice and take some action? This video completely fits the plot! You can only wait around so long, right girls! Maybe putting your attention on someone else will make him notice, and then again, maybe NOT! :-) Just thought I'd share with you.

Dangerous Beauty - Videos to Shock your wives!

I LOVE this, LOVE this!!!

Only the MOST powerful of women could stand for their truth to those who are afraid of loving at such an intensity. If only all humankind could love so openly and live to tell their loved ones and others as freely as this.



Only SHE knows how they are all doing, and all the wives want to be her! Vindictive Jealousy strikes them! Her gentle love over powers all!

For the Guys - Your Prostate is your Vitality!

To all those guys who have come to me for prostate issues, frequent urinary issues and inflammation of the bladder or prostate, this one is for you!

I was walking through the Health Food Store tonight and turned my head towards the shelf that had this tiny little bottle just staring at me with tantalizing eyes! I had been passing by this bottle for eons and decided to ask the knowledgeable nutrition clerk for some answers!

To my discovery, Nettle is a potent ancient herb for medicinal usage, for hay fever, allergies and to reduce inflammation of the prostate.

CHECK THIS OUT!!!!

"Nettle is known for its ability to relieve symptoms of benign prostatic hypertrophy (BPH), a condition in which the prostate becomes enlarged and causes men to develop problems with urination. Nettle helps men to urinate more successfully during the day, and thus helps eliminate another annoying symptom of BPH—frequent nighttime urination. Nettle keeps the body from converting testosterone into 5-alpha-reductase, an enzyme that causes the prostate gland to begin growing again in middle age. Taking nettle in combination with either pygeum bark extract or saw palmetto may be to be at least as effective against BPH as the prescription drug finasteride. Commission E also approves the use of nettle to treat BPH." ( source: http://www.vitaminstuff.com/herbs-nettle.html)

ALSO SEE THESE:
http://www.prostate-massage-and-health.com/Stinging-Nettle.html

http://www.botanical.com/botanical/mgmh/n/nettle03.html

You can also try eating lots of tomatoes! This is also known for reducing inflammation of the prostate as well!

I also give a nice prostate massage to your Tantra Session, as requested! A prostate Massage is good for Healing AND for pleasure!

To your prostate health, and your vitality!

Love, Asttarte

How to Use Nettle to Treat Allergies | eHow.com

How to Use Nettle to Treat Allergies | eHow.com

Wow check this out!

How Girls Can Keep Your Yoni Smelling Sweet; and not fishy (and guys who want to help)!

Every woman knows that there is a certain odor that your body releases from time to time.
Sometimes your body releases a powerful smell after having a passionate lovemaking session, and sometimes the lovemaking stops before it starts because the odor is so strong.

Men like their women smelling sweet and yummy; like a flower and not like they're walking through the fish market. It's a guys worst turn off when you get really close with each other and then just as he starts getting excited, a wave of air rushes over his body, and he gags in disgust, and instead of being honest and telling you he can't stand the smell, he gets limp and decides to leave the room without giving much of a reason or warning. He swallows his heart and slowly; with caution, leaves the situation.

"Hunny, I have a headache". Or, "Hunny, my stomach really hurts. I don't feel well" etc.

But girls, I'm telling you, you are in complete control of this situation. You can make him crave you, or be repulsed by you; it's your choice, but if you want to know how to make him want you every time you get close, do everything you can to make your body smell sweet and tasty.

1. Drink LOTS of water!
2. Go on a green binge, and eat lots of veggies!
3. Go on a raw food quest.
4. Eat sweets, dairy and sugar in moderation. The vagina takes in yeast products like a sponge. If you eat anything that will develop candida, your body will smell like a fish store, so do it in moderation.
5. Cleanse the candida as a regular habit; take acidophilus and eat more veggies!
6. Eat apples, bananas, oranges; any fruit will do, but stop when your body tells you to; they have sugar in them too!
7. Don't eat too much pineapple or mango. They have the most sugar of any fruit.
8. Drink Chamomile tea!
9. Go on a detox regularly.
10. Drink more water!
11. Go to the health food store or book store and buy a book on candida cleanses, yeast free products, or eating yeast free! All women need this!
12. When all is said and done, go please your man!
13. Use Feminine Deodorant spray's and wipes as a last resort; but don't rely on them.
14. Use essential oils for healing candida, and drink more water!
15. Just breathe; it will go away. It's all temporary. The body is made of 70% water, so if you just wait a couple days it will soon pass.
16. Another thing for guys - if you're horny and you've had this issue for a while, get a nice hot bowl of bubble or pure aromatherapy water. Lay your woman down and rub her with the warm wash cloth. It will turn her on and make you happy too!

Guys, pass this on to your girls!

Love,

Asttarte

More later....

Women in Their Sexual Prime - Very Adult Posting

There comes a time in a man's life when they reach their sexual peak, and there comes a time in a woman's life when they've reached their sexual prime.

It has now been 2 years since I've healed completely from the rape, since post partum, have completed my relationship with my mom and we're close for the first time in my life (since I was 4) and am now doing Power Yoga classes again and getting back into shape and I'm only 2 MONTHS away from my 37th Birthday; the year women begin their cycle of explosive sexuality and passion. Given this is who I already was before, now it has reached a new height.

I feel like I did in my early twenties, when I had to masturbate or have sex practically every day to feel content. I was an extremely sexually promiscuous girl in my teens and twenties, and now, in my prime, that energy reaches new heights and with a lot more consciousness and wisdom.

I have this amazing purple vibrator I had gotten in my Passion Parties Business Kit a couple years ago. When I had decided to put the business on hold I gave most of the products away to friends, but kept that one to myself.

It is better than the famous pink Rabbit. It doesn't have beads that spin around in one place, but the entire shaft rotates around in small circles; like a stick shift that goes up and down with gears, it moves in a circular direction massaging every wall inside the yoni (the front, back and sides) and it has an additional mini vibrator that sticks out just for massaging the clitoris and the lips. Every girl needs this thing! Until I find a new friend to play with on a regular basis, this will have to do.

Seriously, I've never had this much energy in my life; not that I remember. I'm going to have to commit to dancing Friday nights (except when I have a meetup or date, getting back into athletics, my purple friend and pray for a Daka Lover, or Dakini; NO, not just anyone will do. Perhaps I could write a sex column, like Carrie in Sex in The City, or be like Samantha again and go wild, or perhaps I could start a Group Coaching Monthly Phone Session for Men & Women Sexually Repressed, and coach them to SEXUAL FREEDOM! Maybe I need to pray, more meditation, paint, sing, more writing, maybe I need a miracle, maybe Bellydancing again; maybe something else!

Love,
me!

PS. For more posts on Sex Toys, go to: http://sensualyogaerotica.blogspot.com

A Little About Me & Some Thoughts

• I'm a total Sandra Bullock fan! She's a Leo with a moon in Taurus. Totally hysterical!
• I also love Jennifer Aniston, Sex and the City, Diane Keaton, Bette Midler, Kate Hudson, Ryan Reynolds, Ben Stiller, Ben Affleck, Hugh Grant, Patrick Dempsey, Colin Firth, Renee Zellweger, Adam Sandler, Reese Witherspoon, Isla Fisher, John Cusack, Meet the Fockers, any movie on magic and anything funny (I mean REALLY funny ~ No dark humor please).
• I love Sci-Fi, Humor, Romance, Adventure and loads of kids movies! (Yes, my son and I do have a blast together!)
• I can't really stand living in Philadelphia, but I've been here forever (I'd much rather be in NY or somewhere else). Although, I'm very close with my family and I'm lucky to have them.
• It really irks me when clients schedule and then casually cancel. I'm not rich and I often have very little money in my pocket doing this work, so do me a favor and DON'T cancel! I don't request a deposit but someday I might, so please follow through on what you say. I can understand that it probably upsets others that I don't check my voicemail religiously and those of you that are waiting I'm sorry. I suppose I deserve that.
• I love being a mom AND I can't stand it!
• If it wasn't for spending the past 15 years healing my childhood, and having been raped and all that (which I have COMPLETELY healed by the way), I'd be pursuing my childhood dream of being an actress instead of this, but perhaps someday I can be both!
• I have 3 brothers that I love and am very close to and I sometimes have to tone down what I promote online to make them happy (as well as some other family members). I try to keep everyone happy, but it isn't always easy.
• I, on the other hand, would prefer having sex every day and 2 to 3 times a week I would be very content.
• I'm not shocked by much. I've heard it all.
• Whoever anonymous person that sent me those Sexual Addict books, Thanks! I'm not a sexual addict. I've been patiently waiting for a boyfriend to be sexually open for 5 years (I'm retiring from that job - but I'll still keep an open heart - yes it's usually the guy waiting for the girl). However, it's a great reference book for clients or those who need it.
• I love sexy and gorgeous girls (as much as I love sexy and gorgeous men).
• The funnier the better!
• Yes, I do love to write, but I also love to sing, dance, make art and be outdoors!
• I love REALLY great vibrators!
• I prefer to be with groups of people, but I'm often alone.
• I love doing these sessions, but only when people want them.
• If you have a question, ask me!
• I love all people; even those that sometimes drive me nuts!
• I love learning and I will probably always take new classes, except when I'm teaching.
• Sex is really important to me, and so are a lot of other things.
• I believe in miracles!
• I love seeing children laugh. And, I can't stand seeing rage-ful parents with kids!
• I love it when you are willing to cry. It shows me you are strong.
• Anything is possible if you believe!
• Love is always there underneath any feeling, even if you can't see it and think it doesn't exist.
• Most people are more afraid of showing love than fear.
• I have a positive outlook on life and believe in the good of mankind.
• I'd rather watch happy news than all the negative. Although, it's sometimes important to talk about negative things that are going on in the world, don't dwell on it! You've lost my interest if you do.
• I believe any relationship troubles can be resolved, but only if BOTH people are willing to work through them.
• Everyone deserves to have great sex. And no sex is sometimes better than bad sex.
• The myth that women who have had babies need large dicks, is, for the most part...pretty true!
• If you're not going to have sex with me, you can at least use your hands and tongue.
• Guys like women to seduce them, but women love the same thing.
• Don't give up before you get started.
• Wounded women or going through PMS need sex MORE often; not less. They're lying to you if they say different.
• If a woman's giving you the cold shoulder and not talking to you, just seduce her. It will pretty much resolve everything.
• Women who are mom's do need a girls night out, but more importantly, they need a babysitter to take the kids, and for YOU to take control of their bodies; not for minutes; but for HOURS!!!!
• I love going out to eat at good restaurants and I love to party; when I can find the right crowd (that's what Tantra Communities are for)!
• I used to work at a Gentleman's Club and loved it!
• I thought about being a porn star, but it was ALWAYS just a thought.
• Most people are sexually repressed, and have one area or another of Sexual Wounding to heal, but most people think that they don't need to heal, when in fact you can ALWAYS expand yourself to another level, and it gets to the point of being VERY fun!
• I'd rather be honest than keep everything inside. The more honest you can be, the more in touch with your power you are, and the more passionate you become.
• Life is meant to be fun, but sometimes it takes a little work!
• Everyone is precious and deserves a chance!
• Sex can heal anything, and Tantra practices that is.

A Tantrica's Yoga Practice & being a Sexual Advocate Out in The World

There is a fine distinction between being the role of student and the role of teacher, however, sometimes things happen and you can't but be your true self!

I went to an Anusara Yoga class this morning, as a student, and being the fully expressed breather that I am, I came to find that it triggered some people and "disrupted" them in the class.

I did the normal practice that everyone does. I followed the instructions on each and every pose, and very shortly after class started, my breath started to expand to its full capacity. It doesn't take long for an avid Tantrica and advocate to start moaning and groaning to practically anything that feels good in the body. I being the case, I started to breathe heavily, being so fully present and joyous to what I was experiencing I didn't notice anything going on around me.

After about an hour, when I started giggling and taking deep sighs and layed there in half straddle after a back bend pose, the assistant teacher came over to me. She guided me to move my feet closer together to go back up in the back bend, and I really wasn't paying any attention at all to the seriousness of her or the rhythm of the rest of the class. I went out of focus and came to that euphoric place of bliss and just stayed still smiling. She looked at me again, "just move your feet closer together...a little closer." I said okay, taking a momentous breath and pushed myself back up in the back bend.

After a few minutes, I contemplated having a conversation with the teacher on asking her to "let the class know before you start that there is a Sex & Bliss Coach and Tantra Teacher visitor with us today, so if you hear extra sounds of breathing that is the reason." Instead, she told me that she had heard from quite a few people that my breathing was disrupting the others from experiencing their own breath and being in their own body. She asked me if I could, as a teacher, take the higher road and hold back my breathing to its capacity and just breathe in a normal rhythm. I felt that this would be suppressing to my own joy and I get a lot of joy out of doing a normal yoga class; perhaps much more than the average yogi.

I thought for a moment and said, "well, I could perhaps breathe out of my nose instead of out of my mouth." She said, "when you are the teacher, you can teach any way you want, but when you are wearing the students hat, I'd prefer you do your deep breathing practice at home and control your breath when you are here."

I said, "you're awesome, and I wouldn't want to not come to your class." She said, YOU'RE awesome and it was really thoughtful of you to come up to talk to me about this. And, ya know when I'm at home in my own practice, I let myself go there, but around others its different. Just think about it. It's something to meditate on."

It is something for me to think about, however, I would in no way choose to suppress my breath; especially when it comes naturally. Doing Yoga is a practice that naturally opens the breath, and if other people are not as expanded in their own bodies I cannot control that. However, what I can do is teach others how to expand themselves so they can have the full body experience that I have. So what I am taking out of this experience is perhaps, that yes, I am truly meant to start teaching Yoga Classes in a Tantric tone, and find avenues to do this, I have a gift to help women feel more comfortable in their bodies, I definitely need to go to another studio that is more liberal, and seeking for other alternatives of sharing myself and having a yoga practice is key. It sure is much more fun to do yoga with other people, but not if you have to change your identity in the process.

I totally love this teacher and love Anusara Yoga. So, I will try that nose breathing as a compromise next time, and if I still am disruptive, I suppose I'll seek yoga elsewhere! As a Tantrica, when you nose breathe and you are connected to your sexual kundalini energy and breath, even the nose breathing isn't so quiet! The humming and vibrational tone that comes from the throat can be just as loud, and I will consider other options.

Everything IS a choice. When it comes to choosing between feeling orgasmic or suppressed, and you have a choice, as a Tantrica I'll make the moans. It's much more fun, and as a Practitioner and Teacher, sometimes being self-less is the better option, AND the moaning can also be the teaching. It all depends on the audience.

I'll keep you posted!

Keep on being your true self. If you don't no one will know what you have to share with the world!

With Love,
Asttarte

The most liberal yoga studio I know of in all of Philadelphia is Studio 34. When it comes time for me to teach my classes, this is the 1st place I will go.
www.studio34yoga.com
Namaste!~~~~

Erectile Dysfunction - A Common Phenomenon

After about a dozen phone calls of people seeking help with their personal erectile dysfunction issues, I thought it was time to do something about this, and write to you.

Many men go through a stage in their life that takes them off of their normal routine of a healthy sex life, and often it comes as a shock to them; not knowing how to turn things around, and sometimes go back to the way it was just the day before. And, after many months of feeling frustrated, mostly from their partner wanting them to be able to be fully erect and feel the full sensation they had before, they start looking for answers.

First off, I want to say, ladies, please have patience for your honey's. Sometimes they don't know the source of this and they really do need help. It is important that they know YOU love them, accept them, and can be fully supportive of what they are dealing with. #1 this is utmost of importance. It will help them feel nurtured, cared for, and in the end get to the other side of this condition.

Second, guys, it will take a lot of compassion on your part to let your women go through what they are going through given they were always used to things being a certain way, and now they need to adjust to the changes and learn within themselves how to accept your situation, and eventually support you to heal it. If this core foundation doesn't happen, this is where a lot of relationships start going under and can, without warning, walk a path of termination. This is not what I would want for you, however, some people can only handle so much disappointment. The good news is, is that there are answers and this CAN, I am telling you, be cured. It will take DEEP soul searching on your part, a determination to heal your inner self and take charge of the problem. Going to the route of viagra or other drugs is NOT the solution. It will only lead to other health problems later, but I can't make that decision for you. You have to.

So guys, soul searching IS the answer. It's not the fastest solution, and it's not an easy one, but it is the most powerful solution. And, with Tantra and other Spiritual Healing practices, you can find yourself getting closer to your old healthy body again, and sometimes, EVEN HEALTHIER!

Sometimes the issue stems from one or more of these things:
Your Health
Stress
Past Traumas

Often when you have a health concern, this can cause stress. Often when you have stress it can be created in many ways; work, your closest relationships, family and on many occasions Past Traumas that you never even knew were traumas, but your body took them in and integrated them into a part of you, and now it has caught up with you. The most noble thing you can do would be to allow yourself to be vulnerable, surrender to what your body is telling you, and go deep within. Not every modality out there will help you. Just like food; some people like chocolate, some like vanilla and some like strawberry. We all have different likes and dislikes and our bodies respond to different modalities in different ways. The best thing to do is experiment. However, now that you are here reading this, I would like to say that practicing tantra, spiritual healing, doing emotional release practices and strengthening your sexual muscles will help. However, with a little guidance, a little push and a little practice.

Some other modalities I recommend are (I offer most of these btw):
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)
NET (Neuro Emotional Technique) (I have a great referral here)
Matrix (Matrix Work - Core Energetics)
Re-Alignments
IET (Integrated Energy Therapy)
Psychotherapy
Breathwork
Tantra
Caring for your health and eating proper foods
Yoga
Acupuncture (I know of a couple really great clinics around Phiadelphia that cost $20 to $35)
Getting Massages
and more!


Some reading material: http://en.allexperts.com/q/Spiritual-Healing-3882/2009/12/Erectile-dysfunction-1.htm
http://healing.about.com/od/ritalouise/a/erectiledysf.htm

If you would like a woman and someone different than here, let me know and I can give you another referral. Or, of course, you can see me! Good luck to you, and much much love on this journey!

Asttarte

Eclectic Immersion of Bliss

To live fully unto yourself is its natural state of the child you were born into. Once you learn the pleasures of life, you can never go back to the state you were before. And, as such, when children get bombarded by the control of our society, a level of brainwashing takes effect. We grow up feeling as if we are truly living our passion, or truly living what we love, but we later learn we are suppressed, frustrated and angry. There are layers and layers of patterns that get built, and as our perceptions of the world change, so do our beliefs; about who we are, why we are here, and what really matters to us. We transition and stop being the free spirits we once were. We grow to have fears, limitations, boundaries, and restrictions; just as the rules we grew up with around us and in our society.

This work is about removing those layers, unraveling so to speak and peeling back the parts of your self that have covered you up so that you can live into the true essence that you are; your divinity, your innocence, your love and your bliss!

When you can open up, and surrender your body to your spirit, your heart to your soul, and your mind to your heart, you can be anything, and truly live a bliss filled life!

And, as such, I have created a portal site; one that has all the sites within it and branched to the deeper work I offer. It is like a home contents page and offers a very brief description of the work, and then a link to each site for further information of what you are drawn to, need and feel you might want a session in. You are welcome to visit this portal at www.AsttarteDeva.com

With Love, Asttarte

Choosing a Passionate Life

The Benefits of an Arousing City
This past weekend I did my 3rd weekend of the ILP in New York City. I never felt so aroused just from going to a different location in my life. Being in the energy of the city awoke my energy to the vibration of who I really am and what I really want to feel. My passionate self is vibrant, expressive, open, playful and creative and being in New York I was re-awoken to this state of being. My shakti and kundalini energy got aroused to its natural state and who I became in the brief time while I was there, was truly excited about life. Not that I was not excited before, but being in New York brought my zest for life alive and it reminded me that it is definitely where I want to be.

The Costs of a Suppressed City
When coming home to Philadelphia again, I was reminded of the differences of the city, and there are many differences from NY to Philadelphia. The food in Philadelphia is fabulous, the music is unbelievable, the orchestra and parks are wonderful. However, the energy of the city itself is quite different. When I think of Philadelphia, I think of suppression, a heaviness, a weight of dissatisfaction, frustration and a large amount of people who appear to be miserable or for the most part uncomfortable being in their own bodies. People in Philadelphia can be cool, but it takes really getting past their armoring before they will let themselves open up. And, even that doesn't always do it. Being reminded to breathe and let go in every moment isn't easy when you are pressured to go to work, drive in traffic and then come home to your family. It's no wonder people in Philadelphia are suppressed. There is a distinct energy that surrounds the entire city, and everyone who lives in or near it are affected. People can become bitter, angry, sad, depressed, hostile, disinterested in life, running to outlets to make themselves feel better and living a passion-less life.


Who You Are Is Where You Be
I am in Philadelphia, and my family is here and I am not in a position to relocate at the present moment. However, being in Philadelphia, in many aspects I become like what the energy it is we are surrounded by. You become who you hang around, and that even includes the vibration of the environment you are surrounded by. The vibration of Philadelphia is heavy, and I am an empath and intuitive. It would make my light body turn heavy, and my zest for life get dull. And, I am committed to living a powerful, juicy, and sexy life, and who I really am is someone who loves to be fully expressed.

It only reminds me of the openness in NY city and how much it feels like home to me.

After this past weekend, I making a committed effort to make myself available to do sessions regularly in NY city, having a *blast* at night, doing everything I can to make sure I get there every month, and keeping my energy as clear as possible while I am in Philly! And, then sharing who I am, and bringing it to NY, and coming home to Philly regularly, will allow that sexy New York energy to be flourished here. It could create a whole new world in our "City of Love"!

The Patience of a Flower

When a flower is in its beginning stages, it first must take root before it can grow. It first takes the idea/the intention to plant it, then it takes time to develop under the soil and realize the potential it has before it even begins to develop, it takes on a form of its own/an identity and begins to birth an energy within it. Then it slowly has life and starts to sprout from under ground moving its way to the surface, and over time the flower builds a vine, that of which it can stand tall upon, and then it develops its bud, which slowly blooms into a petal and lays out its wings it utter beauty!

When planting a bulb, it takes patience before it turns into a flower. When transforming yourself from your history, trauma and turmoil, it takes the patience of a lion. When transforming yourself in your intimate relationship, it takes the patience of a bull. May we all become lions and bulls with ourselves, each other and our lives!