Gratitude for the Guys

After several weeks of going through my own personal journey of development, I came to a point of

being really down and fearful I could make it through the hurdles and take care of myself. After reaching out, and sharing my personal experience, and letting myself be available, I found that my present followers, clients and network was an amazing support and was so open and willing to be there for me, by letting me give to them in session. I was amazed to know the sincerity and commitment of their love and kindness and their immediate willingness to make a change so they could travel to see me.

I now have much appreciation for them in return and know, of those who see me, who is truly sincere in heart and devoted to me. I want to thank you ever so much for your love, your availability, your acknowledgement and your support. I also want to thank you for your patience, and your acceptance in knowing, I am still here and am also committed to you. As I continue on this journey of empowering myself, I know still, I am doing what I am called to do, and in alignment with my purpose.

For those of you who have not seen me in a while, I also want to thank you for being in my life. I know in your heart, if you were available and had the inspiration to see me, you would be here.

Some Questions to consider:

1). What do you do to honor and acknowledge the people in your life your gratitude for them?

2). Do you have a gratitude practice and what is it?

3). When someone gives to you without expecting anything in return, how do you respond? Do you give to others the same way, to them at a later time, or do you ignore it and forget it ever happened?

4). Do you celebrate the moments you are grateful or do you let time pass you by?

5). When you are grateful, do you tell others about it, or do you keep it to yourself?

6). If you’re not feeling gratitude in this moment, consider some times you were feeling grateful and go back to the people, community, or company you were grateful for, and acknowledge them. It just might make your day!

Thank you!

Just a little reminder that you all are very important beings and mean a lot to me.

Blessings,

Asttarte

Helping the Men by Healing the Woman

Post Coming Soon!

Grocery Shopping and Your Sexual Needs

Do you ever go to the grocery store, and after strolling and going to the check out realize that there are other items you "still" need to get? I often go to the Acme to get my trash bags, lunch baggies, water, fresh fruit in bulk, eggs, pastas, crackers, frozen meals and deserts, and then trek to the Trader Joe's for my sons vitamins, nuts, goat cheese, orange juice and yummy yogurt and then Whole Foods for their delicious soups, organic vegetables, "my" vitamins and teas, juice for my son, my nurturing magazines to read, etc. AND, more recently, even go to the Co-op to get healthy snacks and more natural sugar treats for my son. That's a heck of a lot of different grocery stores to go to, and not all at the same time, but do ever find yourself caught in the same situation where you need to go to multiple places to get all of your needs met?

Just like your sexual needs, your intimate and personal needs, you can't always get them met by the same person, or at least not all the time. Perhaps in the beginning of relationships it may appear you can get ALL your needs met by your honey, but as time moves on, you realize more of who they are and some of your needs are better off met by others.

Perhaps your significant other gives you great nurturing, cuddles you and is great to relax with, but you also have a desire for great sex, so you may find yourself being drawn to others, and sometimes without your partners consent. You may have a best friend at work or that you talk to every day that you can vent, talk to and really feel heard. And perhaps you can't always get the massage you deely desire and need from your Beloved, so you then turn to the Massage Parlor or Spa for this need. If you're a woman and you LOVE shopping, maybe your guy will turn you away when you make his request to join you, but you have a favorite shopping buddy you like to call on when you're "in the mood" to shop! Or if you're a guy and love to go bowling, have a "guys night out", or go hunting, your woman certainly and most probably isn't interested in joining you here! Sometimes it's okay to get your "other" needs met by other people. And, often, it's nice to get a little break away from the person you see the most. It sometimes allows you to appreciate them that much more, and gives you a reason to keep the relationship going, because in the end, they are the one you love the most.

The Best Way to Get All Your Needs Met:

Talk openly about ALL of your needs and what you are or are not getting met by your significant relationship.
Discuss your other considerations for fulfilling those needs.
Make agreements with each other to have them fulfilled.
If you have weekly needs, find a day and time that they are suited best.
If you have monthly needs or bi-monthly needs or every six months, be sure to discuss them so it doesn't become your partners problem or that they don't become the blame for your lack of happiness, but instead, you are in charge of your own life!
If your partner is not supportive of your needs getting met, you might want to seek a Couples, Family or Sex Therapist to work them out. Otherwise, you might be questioning your relationship and why you are in it.

May all Your Needs Be Met in the exact time you need them!

Love,

Asttarte

Daphne & Fred - My Best friend's hot

What's a girl gotta do to get a guys attention?

I LOVE this video! It reminds me of me in all my pursuits of a hot guy that is completely not interested in sex. What's a girl gotta do to get the guy she loves to notice and take some action? This video completely fits the plot! You can only wait around so long, right girls! Maybe putting your attention on someone else will make him notice, and then again, maybe NOT! :-) Just thought I'd share with you.

Dangerous Beauty - Videos to Shock your wives!

I LOVE this, LOVE this!!!

Only the MOST powerful of women could stand for their truth to those who are afraid of loving at such an intensity. If only all humankind could love so openly and live to tell their loved ones and others as freely as this.



Only SHE knows how they are all doing, and all the wives want to be her! Vindictive Jealousy strikes them! Her gentle love over powers all!

For the Guys - Your Prostate is your Vitality!

To all those guys who have come to me for prostate issues, frequent urinary issues and inflammation of the bladder or prostate, this one is for you!

I was walking through the Health Food Store tonight and turned my head towards the shelf that had this tiny little bottle just staring at me with tantalizing eyes! I had been passing by this bottle for eons and decided to ask the knowledgeable nutrition clerk for some answers!

To my discovery, Nettle is a potent ancient herb for medicinal usage, for hay fever, allergies and to reduce inflammation of the prostate.

CHECK THIS OUT!!!!

"Nettle is known for its ability to relieve symptoms of benign prostatic hypertrophy (BPH), a condition in which the prostate becomes enlarged and causes men to develop problems with urination. Nettle helps men to urinate more successfully during the day, and thus helps eliminate another annoying symptom of BPH—frequent nighttime urination. Nettle keeps the body from converting testosterone into 5-alpha-reductase, an enzyme that causes the prostate gland to begin growing again in middle age. Taking nettle in combination with either pygeum bark extract or saw palmetto may be to be at least as effective against BPH as the prescription drug finasteride. Commission E also approves the use of nettle to treat BPH." ( source: http://www.vitaminstuff.com/herbs-nettle.html)

ALSO SEE THESE:
http://www.prostate-massage-and-health.com/Stinging-Nettle.html

http://www.botanical.com/botanical/mgmh/n/nettle03.html

You can also try eating lots of tomatoes! This is also known for reducing inflammation of the prostate as well!

I also give a nice prostate massage to your Tantra Session, as requested! A prostate Massage is good for Healing AND for pleasure!

To your prostate health, and your vitality!

Love, Asttarte

How to Use Nettle to Treat Allergies | eHow.com

How to Use Nettle to Treat Allergies | eHow.com

Wow check this out!

How Girls Can Keep Your Yoni Smelling Sweet; and not fishy (and guys who want to help)!

Every woman knows that there is a certain odor that your body releases from time to time.
Sometimes your body releases a powerful smell after having a passionate lovemaking session, and sometimes the lovemaking stops before it starts because the odor is so strong.

Men like their women smelling sweet and yummy; like a flower and not like they're walking through the fish market. It's a guys worst turn off when you get really close with each other and then just as he starts getting excited, a wave of air rushes over his body, and he gags in disgust, and instead of being honest and telling you he can't stand the smell, he gets limp and decides to leave the room without giving much of a reason or warning. He swallows his heart and slowly; with caution, leaves the situation.

"Hunny, I have a headache". Or, "Hunny, my stomach really hurts. I don't feel well" etc.

But girls, I'm telling you, you are in complete control of this situation. You can make him crave you, or be repulsed by you; it's your choice, but if you want to know how to make him want you every time you get close, do everything you can to make your body smell sweet and tasty.

1. Drink LOTS of water!
2. Go on a green binge, and eat lots of veggies!
3. Go on a raw food quest.
4. Eat sweets, dairy and sugar in moderation. The vagina takes in yeast products like a sponge. If you eat anything that will develop candida, your body will smell like a fish store, so do it in moderation.
5. Cleanse the candida as a regular habit; take acidophilus and eat more veggies!
6. Eat apples, bananas, oranges; any fruit will do, but stop when your body tells you to; they have sugar in them too!
7. Don't eat too much pineapple or mango. They have the most sugar of any fruit.
8. Drink Chamomile tea!
9. Go on a detox regularly.
10. Drink more water!
11. Go to the health food store or book store and buy a book on candida cleanses, yeast free products, or eating yeast free! All women need this!
12. When all is said and done, go please your man!
13. Use Feminine Deodorant spray's and wipes as a last resort; but don't rely on them.
14. Use essential oils for healing candida, and drink more water!
15. Just breathe; it will go away. It's all temporary. The body is made of 70% water, so if you just wait a couple days it will soon pass.
16. Another thing for guys - if you're horny and you've had this issue for a while, get a nice hot bowl of bubble or pure aromatherapy water. Lay your woman down and rub her with the warm wash cloth. It will turn her on and make you happy too!

Guys, pass this on to your girls!

Love,

Asttarte

More later....

Women in Their Sexual Prime - Very Adult Posting

There comes a time in a man's life when they reach their sexual peak, and there comes a time in a woman's life when they've reached their sexual prime.

It has now been 2 years since I've healed completely from the rape, since post partum, have completed my relationship with my mom and we're close for the first time in my life (since I was 4) and am now doing Power Yoga classes again and getting back into shape and I'm only 2 MONTHS away from my 37th Birthday; the year women begin their cycle of explosive sexuality and passion. Given this is who I already was before, now it has reached a new height.

I feel like I did in my early twenties, when I had to masturbate or have sex practically every day to feel content. I was an extremely sexually promiscuous girl in my teens and twenties, and now, in my prime, that energy reaches new heights and with a lot more consciousness and wisdom.

I have this amazing purple vibrator I had gotten in my Passion Parties Business Kit a couple years ago. When I had decided to put the business on hold I gave most of the products away to friends, but kept that one to myself.

It is better than the famous pink Rabbit. It doesn't have beads that spin around in one place, but the entire shaft rotates around in small circles; like a stick shift that goes up and down with gears, it moves in a circular direction massaging every wall inside the yoni (the front, back and sides) and it has an additional mini vibrator that sticks out just for massaging the clitoris and the lips. Every girl needs this thing! Until I find a new friend to play with on a regular basis, this will have to do.

Seriously, I've never had this much energy in my life; not that I remember. I'm going to have to commit to dancing Friday nights (except when I have a meetup or date, getting back into athletics, my purple friend and pray for a Daka Lover, or Dakini; NO, not just anyone will do. Perhaps I could write a sex column, like Carrie in Sex in The City, or be like Samantha again and go wild, or perhaps I could start a Group Coaching Monthly Phone Session for Men & Women Sexually Repressed, and coach them to SEXUAL FREEDOM! Maybe I need to pray, more meditation, paint, sing, more writing, maybe I need a miracle, maybe Bellydancing again; maybe something else!

Love,
me!

PS. For more posts on Sex Toys, go to: http://sensualyogaerotica.blogspot.com

A Little About Me & Some Thoughts

• I'm a total Sandra Bullock fan! She's a Leo with a moon in Taurus. Totally hysterical!
• I also love Jennifer Aniston, Sex and the City, Diane Keaton, Bette Midler, Kate Hudson, Ryan Reynolds, Ben Stiller, Ben Affleck, Hugh Grant, Patrick Dempsey, Colin Firth, Renee Zellweger, Adam Sandler, Reese Witherspoon, Isla Fisher, John Cusack, Meet the Fockers, any movie on magic and anything funny (I mean REALLY funny ~ No dark humor please).
• I love Sci-Fi, Humor, Romance, Adventure and loads of kids movies! (Yes, my son and I do have a blast together!)
• I can't really stand living in Philadelphia, but I've been here forever (I'd much rather be in NY or somewhere else). Although, I'm very close with my family and I'm lucky to have them.
• It really irks me when clients schedule and then casually cancel. I'm not rich and I often have very little money in my pocket doing this work, so do me a favor and DON'T cancel! I don't request a deposit but someday I might, so please follow through on what you say. I can understand that it probably upsets others that I don't check my voicemail religiously and those of you that are waiting I'm sorry. I suppose I deserve that.
• I love being a mom AND I can't stand it!
• If it wasn't for spending the past 15 years healing my childhood, and having been raped and all that (which I have COMPLETELY healed by the way), I'd be pursuing my childhood dream of being an actress instead of this, but perhaps someday I can be both!
• I have 3 brothers that I love and am very close to and I sometimes have to tone down what I promote online to make them happy (as well as some other family members). I try to keep everyone happy, but it isn't always easy.
• I, on the other hand, would prefer having sex every day and 2 to 3 times a week I would be very content.
• I'm not shocked by much. I've heard it all.
• Whoever anonymous person that sent me those Sexual Addict books, Thanks! I'm not a sexual addict. I've been patiently waiting for a boyfriend to be sexually open for 5 years (I'm retiring from that job - but I'll still keep an open heart - yes it's usually the guy waiting for the girl). However, it's a great reference book for clients or those who need it.
• I love sexy and gorgeous girls (as much as I love sexy and gorgeous men).
• The funnier the better!
• Yes, I do love to write, but I also love to sing, dance, make art and be outdoors!
• I love REALLY great vibrators!
• I prefer to be with groups of people, but I'm often alone.
• I love doing these sessions, but only when people want them.
• If you have a question, ask me!
• I love all people; even those that sometimes drive me nuts!
• I love learning and I will probably always take new classes, except when I'm teaching.
• Sex is really important to me, and so are a lot of other things.
• I believe in miracles!
• I love seeing children laugh. And, I can't stand seeing rage-ful parents with kids!
• I love it when you are willing to cry. It shows me you are strong.
• Anything is possible if you believe!
• Love is always there underneath any feeling, even if you can't see it and think it doesn't exist.
• Most people are more afraid of showing love than fear.
• I have a positive outlook on life and believe in the good of mankind.
• I'd rather watch happy news than all the negative. Although, it's sometimes important to talk about negative things that are going on in the world, don't dwell on it! You've lost my interest if you do.
• I believe any relationship troubles can be resolved, but only if BOTH people are willing to work through them.
• Everyone deserves to have great sex. And no sex is sometimes better than bad sex.
• The myth that women who have had babies need large dicks, is, for the most part...pretty true!
• If you're not going to have sex with me, you can at least use your hands and tongue.
• Guys like women to seduce them, but women love the same thing.
• Don't give up before you get started.
• Wounded women or going through PMS need sex MORE often; not less. They're lying to you if they say different.
• If a woman's giving you the cold shoulder and not talking to you, just seduce her. It will pretty much resolve everything.
• Women who are mom's do need a girls night out, but more importantly, they need a babysitter to take the kids, and for YOU to take control of their bodies; not for minutes; but for HOURS!!!!
• I love going out to eat at good restaurants and I love to party; when I can find the right crowd (that's what Tantra Communities are for)!
• I used to work at a Gentleman's Club and loved it!
• I thought about being a porn star, but it was ALWAYS just a thought.
• Most people are sexually repressed, and have one area or another of Sexual Wounding to heal, but most people think that they don't need to heal, when in fact you can ALWAYS expand yourself to another level, and it gets to the point of being VERY fun!
• I'd rather be honest than keep everything inside. The more honest you can be, the more in touch with your power you are, and the more passionate you become.
• Life is meant to be fun, but sometimes it takes a little work!
• Everyone is precious and deserves a chance!
• Sex can heal anything, and Tantra practices that is.

A Tantrica's Yoga Practice & being a Sexual Advocate Out in The World

There is a fine distinction between being the role of student and the role of teacher, however, sometimes things happen and you can't but be your true self!

I went to an Anusara Yoga class this morning, as a student, and being the fully expressed breather that I am, I came to find that it triggered some people and "disrupted" them in the class.

I did the normal practice that everyone does. I followed the instructions on each and every pose, and very shortly after class started, my breath started to expand to its full capacity. It doesn't take long for an avid Tantrica and advocate to start moaning and groaning to practically anything that feels good in the body. I being the case, I started to breathe heavily, being so fully present and joyous to what I was experiencing I didn't notice anything going on around me.

After about an hour, when I started giggling and taking deep sighs and layed there in half straddle after a back bend pose, the assistant teacher came over to me. She guided me to move my feet closer together to go back up in the back bend, and I really wasn't paying any attention at all to the seriousness of her or the rhythm of the rest of the class. I went out of focus and came to that euphoric place of bliss and just stayed still smiling. She looked at me again, "just move your feet closer together...a little closer." I said okay, taking a momentous breath and pushed myself back up in the back bend.

After a few minutes, I contemplated having a conversation with the teacher on asking her to "let the class know before you start that there is a Sex & Bliss Coach and Tantra Teacher visitor with us today, so if you hear extra sounds of breathing that is the reason." Instead, she told me that she had heard from quite a few people that my breathing was disrupting the others from experiencing their own breath and being in their own body. She asked me if I could, as a teacher, take the higher road and hold back my breathing to its capacity and just breathe in a normal rhythm. I felt that this would be suppressing to my own joy and I get a lot of joy out of doing a normal yoga class; perhaps much more than the average yogi.

I thought for a moment and said, "well, I could perhaps breathe out of my nose instead of out of my mouth." She said, "when you are the teacher, you can teach any way you want, but when you are wearing the students hat, I'd prefer you do your deep breathing practice at home and control your breath when you are here."

I said, "you're awesome, and I wouldn't want to not come to your class." She said, YOU'RE awesome and it was really thoughtful of you to come up to talk to me about this. And, ya know when I'm at home in my own practice, I let myself go there, but around others its different. Just think about it. It's something to meditate on."

It is something for me to think about, however, I would in no way choose to suppress my breath; especially when it comes naturally. Doing Yoga is a practice that naturally opens the breath, and if other people are not as expanded in their own bodies I cannot control that. However, what I can do is teach others how to expand themselves so they can have the full body experience that I have. So what I am taking out of this experience is perhaps, that yes, I am truly meant to start teaching Yoga Classes in a Tantric tone, and find avenues to do this, I have a gift to help women feel more comfortable in their bodies, I definitely need to go to another studio that is more liberal, and seeking for other alternatives of sharing myself and having a yoga practice is key. It sure is much more fun to do yoga with other people, but not if you have to change your identity in the process.

I totally love this teacher and love Anusara Yoga. So, I will try that nose breathing as a compromise next time, and if I still am disruptive, I suppose I'll seek yoga elsewhere! As a Tantrica, when you nose breathe and you are connected to your sexual kundalini energy and breath, even the nose breathing isn't so quiet! The humming and vibrational tone that comes from the throat can be just as loud, and I will consider other options.

Everything IS a choice. When it comes to choosing between feeling orgasmic or suppressed, and you have a choice, as a Tantrica I'll make the moans. It's much more fun, and as a Practitioner and Teacher, sometimes being self-less is the better option, AND the moaning can also be the teaching. It all depends on the audience.

I'll keep you posted!

Keep on being your true self. If you don't no one will know what you have to share with the world!

With Love,
Asttarte

The most liberal yoga studio I know of in all of Philadelphia is Studio 34. When it comes time for me to teach my classes, this is the 1st place I will go.
www.studio34yoga.com
Namaste!~~~~

Erectile Dysfunction - A Common Phenomenon

After about a dozen phone calls of people seeking help with their personal erectile dysfunction issues, I thought it was time to do something about this, and write to you.

Many men go through a stage in their life that takes them off of their normal routine of a healthy sex life, and often it comes as a shock to them; not knowing how to turn things around, and sometimes go back to the way it was just the day before. And, after many months of feeling frustrated, mostly from their partner wanting them to be able to be fully erect and feel the full sensation they had before, they start looking for answers.

First off, I want to say, ladies, please have patience for your honey's. Sometimes they don't know the source of this and they really do need help. It is important that they know YOU love them, accept them, and can be fully supportive of what they are dealing with. #1 this is utmost of importance. It will help them feel nurtured, cared for, and in the end get to the other side of this condition.

Second, guys, it will take a lot of compassion on your part to let your women go through what they are going through given they were always used to things being a certain way, and now they need to adjust to the changes and learn within themselves how to accept your situation, and eventually support you to heal it. If this core foundation doesn't happen, this is where a lot of relationships start going under and can, without warning, walk a path of termination. This is not what I would want for you, however, some people can only handle so much disappointment. The good news is, is that there are answers and this CAN, I am telling you, be cured. It will take DEEP soul searching on your part, a determination to heal your inner self and take charge of the problem. Going to the route of viagra or other drugs is NOT the solution. It will only lead to other health problems later, but I can't make that decision for you. You have to.

So guys, soul searching IS the answer. It's not the fastest solution, and it's not an easy one, but it is the most powerful solution. And, with Tantra and other Spiritual Healing practices, you can find yourself getting closer to your old healthy body again, and sometimes, EVEN HEALTHIER!

Sometimes the issue stems from one or more of these things:
Your Health
Stress
Past Traumas

Often when you have a health concern, this can cause stress. Often when you have stress it can be created in many ways; work, your closest relationships, family and on many occasions Past Traumas that you never even knew were traumas, but your body took them in and integrated them into a part of you, and now it has caught up with you. The most noble thing you can do would be to allow yourself to be vulnerable, surrender to what your body is telling you, and go deep within. Not every modality out there will help you. Just like food; some people like chocolate, some like vanilla and some like strawberry. We all have different likes and dislikes and our bodies respond to different modalities in different ways. The best thing to do is experiment. However, now that you are here reading this, I would like to say that practicing tantra, spiritual healing, doing emotional release practices and strengthening your sexual muscles will help. However, with a little guidance, a little push and a little practice.

Some other modalities I recommend are (I offer most of these btw):
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)
NET (Neuro Emotional Technique) (I have a great referral here)
Matrix (Matrix Work - Core Energetics)
Re-Alignments
IET (Integrated Energy Therapy)
Psychotherapy
Breathwork
Tantra
Caring for your health and eating proper foods
Yoga
Acupuncture (I know of a couple really great clinics around Phiadelphia that cost $20 to $35)
Getting Massages
and more!


Some reading material: http://en.allexperts.com/q/Spiritual-Healing-3882/2009/12/Erectile-dysfunction-1.htm
http://healing.about.com/od/ritalouise/a/erectiledysf.htm

If you would like a woman and someone different than here, let me know and I can give you another referral. Or, of course, you can see me! Good luck to you, and much much love on this journey!

Asttarte

Eclectic Immersion of Bliss

To live fully unto yourself is its natural state of the child you were born into. Once you learn the pleasures of life, you can never go back to the state you were before. And, as such, when children get bombarded by the control of our society, a level of brainwashing takes effect. We grow up feeling as if we are truly living our passion, or truly living what we love, but we later learn we are suppressed, frustrated and angry. There are layers and layers of patterns that get built, and as our perceptions of the world change, so do our beliefs; about who we are, why we are here, and what really matters to us. We transition and stop being the free spirits we once were. We grow to have fears, limitations, boundaries, and restrictions; just as the rules we grew up with around us and in our society.

This work is about removing those layers, unraveling so to speak and peeling back the parts of your self that have covered you up so that you can live into the true essence that you are; your divinity, your innocence, your love and your bliss!

When you can open up, and surrender your body to your spirit, your heart to your soul, and your mind to your heart, you can be anything, and truly live a bliss filled life!

And, as such, I have created a portal site; one that has all the sites within it and branched to the deeper work I offer. It is like a home contents page and offers a very brief description of the work, and then a link to each site for further information of what you are drawn to, need and feel you might want a session in. You are welcome to visit this portal at www.AsttarteDeva.com

With Love, Asttarte

Choosing a Passionate Life

The Benefits of an Arousing City
This past weekend I did my 3rd weekend of the ILP in New York City. I never felt so aroused just from going to a different location in my life. Being in the energy of the city awoke my energy to the vibration of who I really am and what I really want to feel. My passionate self is vibrant, expressive, open, playful and creative and being in New York I was re-awoken to this state of being. My shakti and kundalini energy got aroused to its natural state and who I became in the brief time while I was there, was truly excited about life. Not that I was not excited before, but being in New York brought my zest for life alive and it reminded me that it is definitely where I want to be.

The Costs of a Suppressed City
When coming home to Philadelphia again, I was reminded of the differences of the city, and there are many differences from NY to Philadelphia. The food in Philadelphia is fabulous, the music is unbelievable, the orchestra and parks are wonderful. However, the energy of the city itself is quite different. When I think of Philadelphia, I think of suppression, a heaviness, a weight of dissatisfaction, frustration and a large amount of people who appear to be miserable or for the most part uncomfortable being in their own bodies. People in Philadelphia can be cool, but it takes really getting past their armoring before they will let themselves open up. And, even that doesn't always do it. Being reminded to breathe and let go in every moment isn't easy when you are pressured to go to work, drive in traffic and then come home to your family. It's no wonder people in Philadelphia are suppressed. There is a distinct energy that surrounds the entire city, and everyone who lives in or near it are affected. People can become bitter, angry, sad, depressed, hostile, disinterested in life, running to outlets to make themselves feel better and living a passion-less life.


Who You Are Is Where You Be
I am in Philadelphia, and my family is here and I am not in a position to relocate at the present moment. However, being in Philadelphia, in many aspects I become like what the energy it is we are surrounded by. You become who you hang around, and that even includes the vibration of the environment you are surrounded by. The vibration of Philadelphia is heavy, and I am an empath and intuitive. It would make my light body turn heavy, and my zest for life get dull. And, I am committed to living a powerful, juicy, and sexy life, and who I really am is someone who loves to be fully expressed.

It only reminds me of the openness in NY city and how much it feels like home to me.

After this past weekend, I making a committed effort to make myself available to do sessions regularly in NY city, having a *blast* at night, doing everything I can to make sure I get there every month, and keeping my energy as clear as possible while I am in Philly! And, then sharing who I am, and bringing it to NY, and coming home to Philly regularly, will allow that sexy New York energy to be flourished here. It could create a whole new world in our "City of Love"!

The Patience of a Flower

When a flower is in its beginning stages, it first must take root before it can grow. It first takes the idea/the intention to plant it, then it takes time to develop under the soil and realize the potential it has before it even begins to develop, it takes on a form of its own/an identity and begins to birth an energy within it. Then it slowly has life and starts to sprout from under ground moving its way to the surface, and over time the flower builds a vine, that of which it can stand tall upon, and then it develops its bud, which slowly blooms into a petal and lays out its wings it utter beauty!

When planting a bulb, it takes patience before it turns into a flower. When transforming yourself from your history, trauma and turmoil, it takes the patience of a lion. When transforming yourself in your intimate relationship, it takes the patience of a bull. May we all become lions and bulls with ourselves, each other and our lives!

Awakening Passion With Art

Sometimes when inspiration calls, and there is no time for being alone or with a loved one, one way of expressing yourself is through the arts. And, in my experience, being with my little one, alone in our home, I took to my paint markers. And, in the process I found myself feeling excited for having completed a piece of art, even better that it was starting to look beautiful, and even more so that I did it myself and completed the task at hand.

Art is an excellent tool used for healing and there is a unique therapy specialized in Psychotherapy where some become trained as Art Therapists. I find myself drawn so deeply to Art Therapy and when I am in need of expressing my own passion, and I have a toddler running around to take care of and absolutely no privacy of my own, I like to fall to writing and in today's case, my beautiful paint markers.

I love painting and have not done so in a long time, but it brings up the reminder of how much I love this and brings me in touch with the feelings of excitement and fulfillment just for having done a piece of art. Art in itself is therapeutic to the mind, soothing to the emotions and meditative to the spirit. As much as I can, I'm going to take the rest of today immersed back in my vibrant colors and put my creative passions to use. And, in the process I feel my own passion and excitement for life come back alive, and be filled with expression to another level again!

The Courage To Heal

It takes a lot of courage to look at oneself; to be vulnerable, willing to express your fears, sadness, pain or struggles. Most people would rather keep their fears to themselves, and put on the image of looking good, doing great, and feeling fine, when inside the truth is they are not fine and their desire to look good and be doing great to others is only what's covering up how they are really feeling.

When issues come up in the moment, the most powerful way to get past them is to go through them, not over them, under them or pulling away from them. The best way to overcome something is to dive straight through it.

When anger arises, be with it. Experience your full self as the anger and live into the anger, nurture the anger, caress the anger and allow it to come out of you. Many people who have a lot of anger inside them try to control it and then all of a sudden it bursts out like a canon ball and explodes all over the place. Some people drink or exercise to get rid of the emotion, but it is still there underneath and always will be until it is dealt with, and faced head on.

The best way to be with the anger, is to let it out - - punching pillows, screaming into pillows, doing breathwork that lets the rage/anger/whatever emotion it is come out. Looking at yourself in the mirror and screaming to get it out, punching with fists to express your emotion and stand your ground that this is how you feel and you know it is true for you, no matter what anyone else thinks, and you honor that feeling, be with it, express it, without putting it on anyone else. Then you can be free of it, and it won't affect any of your relationships.

When sadness arises, the best way to heal the sadness is to let the sadness know it is just as important as any other emotion. It has a purpose and reason for being there and it will teach you and help you grow. When healing sadness, love the sadness, nurture it, spend time with it, journaling, doing breathwork, talking about it, sitting in front of the mirror and practicing eye gazing with yourself and breathing into your heart, going for walks in nature, getting a massage/ energy healing/ acupressure or acupuncture session, taking flower essences, and breathing into the sadness, being with it and loving it. It will eventually move through you and you will come back to your integrated full self. And, in the process be able to help others who are going through similar pains.

Sometimes when healing yourself, it is important to take time to be alone. And, sometimes it is also important to have people you can talk to.

Healing in healthy ways, no matter what the issue or feeling you are dealing with, is the most effective and productive way to grow!

Back On Track

I have been immersed in a serious family emergency the past two weeks. My brother has been diagnosed with something very serious and I took on taking action to help him and to get the support he really needs. It took all of my focus and energy; while having very little time to myself, being in an intensive program and having a young child to care for.

My brother has left this morning back to CA and now has all the connections to help take care of him while he is there. While he was here I spent the majority of my time on the phone interviewing and consulting with professionals for his situation. I got myself so pro-active in the situation that I had lost myself in it. I became fearful for his health and well being so much that I forgot to take care of myself.

Now I am coming back to myself, but am still grieving and feeling sadness over his diagnosis, receiving support to come to acceptance in this and in the process am now taking on sessions again!

Thank you and Namaste,

Asttarte
(this is a photo of us 4 years ago)

Intimacy Alignment

Communication To Create The Intimacy You Really Want!!!

Many people don't realize how powerful communication affects your intimate life. Many take their relationships for granted and expect them to always be the same, doing what they have always been doing. Many don't understand the significance that your words create your reality. Every single word that comes out of your mouth, or that stays quiet, has an impact on the people in your life and the reality you live in. People expect to go walking around life doing what they have always been doing, and expecting to get different results.

All that is necessary in creating the love life of your dreams, is instead of making yourself and your needs a priority, is in making your partner know that they truly matter.

It takes authenticity, integrity, honesty, and being real with your partner, where in the past you have been lying, keeping secrets, putting you first, blaming and making wrong, having expectations, withholding, criticizing, and being defensive. In other words, taking responsibility where you have been irresponsible is all that is necessary in cleaning up your communication and creating the intimacy you truly long for.

If you have been coming home late from work everyday, putting your personal life first, your needs first all the time, not listening to what is important to your partner, and getting mad and defensive at them for being upset about it, you can't expect them to feel loved by you and want to be intimate with you later after all is done and the end of the night is near. Can you? Think about it. You are in a one person relationship when you are doing this, and then expecting your partner to want to have sex with you at the end of the day. It's actually ridiculous if you think about it. All people need validation for how they feel, they want to know that their feelings matter, they want to feel accepted, loved and supported in every way and they want to be made important by you, a priority. However, if sex or any of your other needs is all that matters to you, what your left with is a one hand show.

Learning how to touch your partner, having the most wonderful tantra techniques to give her (or him) the pleasure they want is only beneficial when you have the closeness in their heart, and they are truly open to being with you this way. It is easy to have great sex and beautiful intimacy in the beginning of your relationship, but try taking on being responsible for your actions and your words, and you might just fall in love again. Tantra practices are nothing without the closeness, respect, safety and honesty of your heart. Your relationship is only half of what it can be without true integrity!